Page 6 | First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

TinyDancer91 · 2023-01-05T21:18:21+00:00

Hi All. This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here! Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure. Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here! Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂 Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

LucyLoopyLu · 12/03/2024 22:14

@TinyDancer91 great news things are finally moving for you, I bet it must have been such a long slog!

We have done our nurse's appointment and expecting to start following my period arriving at the end of next week. Have they sorted your drug protocol etc yet?

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TinyDancer91 · 12/03/2024 15:07

Hi everyone.

Sorry I've not been very active on here recently.

We had a phone appointment yesterday with our consultant. After chasing up my blood test results for the past 4 weeks, to no avail! The Dr was almost an hour late to my appointment because she was chasing up my test results with Bham...

Anyway, the good news is I'm not a CF carrier, so we can carry on with our treatment where we are!! 🥳 All other tests have come back as normal as well!

So, the next steps now are we will have our nurses information appointment in the next 4-6 weeks, then start meds on my next cycle after that. It finally seems like we are taking steps forwards and things are actually happening!

I know there's a long road ahead and lots more that can go wrong, but feeling hopeful that there is some sort of timeframe for us now.

Hoping everyone else is getting some good news.

Love to all 💕

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IsLarryFromSomething · 25/02/2024 21:39

Thank you both xx Wishing everyone the very best!

CatCaretaker · 25/02/2024 19:59

Hello, Can I join? I'm 38, ttc since April 2023 (this is 10th cycle after skipping one for surgery for a uterine polyp). CD2 today.

Have had lots of tests privately (in ROI) and no major issues found (slightly low/borderline morphology in him and slightly high AMH for my age (borderline PCOS but doc does think I'm ovulating)).

I haven't read the full thread, but I see above at least one BFP (congrats @IsLarryFromSomething )

Feliciacat · 25/02/2024 19:51

Great news @IsLarryFromSomething! I love seeing positive results for people. And just as you were going to get tested too!

I’m onto cycle 17 now and I’m 36.5 (the half matters at my age in relation to ttc) and DH is 42. So we’re getting me checked out privately (scans of my uterus and ovaries and a second round of blood tests). It’s ’only’ £500 so is worth it I think. The NHS say my bloods are normal and that DH’s semen analysis and structures are normal. So it must be something structural with me.

LucyLoopyLu · 22/02/2024 18:38

@Babydust99 hi, sorry I haven't actually been diagnosed with anything (apart from unexplained infertility), hope someone comes along with a useful answer for you!

Babydust99 · 22/02/2024 16:35

Hi everyone, haven't been on here in a long time. I'm still ttc - 20 months on. I have endo - just had an MRI to see if they can see it before they decide whether to do a lap or not and have had bloods done at the recurrent miscarriage clinic which are showing high anti cardiolipin antibodies so I need to get retested in a few weeks. Has anyone on here else got sticky blood syndrome?

LucyLoopyLu · 19/02/2024 09:39

@TinyDancer91 omg, what a nightmare. How are they being so slow if it's just one test?

No update from me, AF due this week and our nurse's appointment next week. Then will just have one more cycle to try naturally before we start our first round. Starting to feel very real now. Dreading it all but I'm sure it will be better once we get going. I keep having weird dreams about hospitals.

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TinyDancer91 · 18/02/2024 23:04

@IsLarryFromSomething oh wow, that's fab, fingers crossed for you!

I've been contacting the clinic for the past few weeks now about our test results. Quick run down of what's been going on - I was told on 5th Jan that our results were in and had been reviewed by the consultants but we couldn't receive them over the phone. 11th Jan, a letter was sent from Bham Women's to our consultant, sending a copy to our GP and to us, saying that as OH was found to be a carrier of the CF genes could they arrange for his partner (me) to be tested.... phoned Bham to check if the one I'd already had done covered this and they had no record of me at all... contacted UHCW to check and they didn't have my results at all, despite telling me on 5th Jan that they did! Anyway, they told me to wait for the 10 weeks to pass before contacting them again. So I did, then was told still not in, check at the end of the 10th week. Did that, no response via email (they don't answer the phone, just respond to messages). So it was 12 weeks on Friday since I went for the blood test, I emailed them again on Thursday to ask if the results were back. UHCW still don't have them, so they chased up with Bham who said they have sent them to them but won't give them the results via phone, but would email them to one of the Drs that day, then UHCW were supposed to be calling me to let me know. I'm still waiting for a call, so I'll be getting in touch with them again tomorrow.

So that's where we are currently, with my next consultant appointment 3 weeks tomorrow via phone.

How is everyone else doing?

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IsLarryFromSomething · 18/02/2024 14:03

DH and I aren't telling anyone in real life (I'm literally 13 dpo) but we got a positive pregnancy test today 🥰 I've sent him out for a digital test to use tomorrow morning and the line is faint but DEFINITELY there. We have been trying for almost 14 months.

LucyLoopyLu · 01/02/2024 12:41

Hi, how is everyone doing?

@BeeLieve86 hope you are ok x

We are now waiting for a nurse's appointment on 29th Feb (at assisted conception unit) and following that will be starting our first round of IVF in March. AF looks to be due around 22nd March at the moment so will still be a few weeks off. Going on holiday in two weeks, so just wanting to try and relax between now and the end of Feb. Feeling very apprehensive about the process, I think mainly due to my needle phobia / hatred of hospitals / fear of medical procedures, but I know I will push through. Honestly just trying not to think about all that side of it much at the moment (as it doesn't help) and take it one day at a time - focusing on healthy eating and moderate exercise at the moment.

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TinyDancer91 · 13/01/2024 17:58

@BeeLieve86 I'm so sorry, sending lots of love and support your way 💕

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IsLarryFromSomething · 12/01/2024 21:12

I'm so sorry 💐

Ditzydaisychain · 12/01/2024 20:08

@BeeLieve86 I am so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of love 💕

BeeLieve86 · 11/01/2024 08:00

Hello all,

just an update from me. After going through IVF and getting pregnant during our first round, we had our first scan on January 3rd only to find out we have had a missed miscarriage 💔
I had to stop all medication on January 5th and I started miscarrying on Tuesday (9th).
I am so broken. SO broken.
we have one frozen embryo but given my low AMH we have decided to start from scratch and do another egg retrieval. The thought of that is so daunting.
why is this so hard?!

Feliciacat · 10/01/2024 23:24

Hmm, I don’t think you have anything to lose by asking if the appointment can be brought forward. If they say no then you’ll have to just wait until March. I’m not saying it’s ok to wait until March but I think the health service is just so stretched that it’s normal to have to wait so long.

If you have to get the results from the consultant then at least you will be getting the results in the best way possible even though it’s a long wait. You’ll have an expert to ask questions to and they’ll explain things well. I think it is worth the wait ultimately.

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TinyDancer91 · 10/01/2024 23:19

In need of some advice... as I mentioned, I had my bloods taken late Nov for genetic testing and OH had an ultrasound scan of his bits the week before Xmas. I emailed the hospital last week just to check if the results were in yet as I was told 8-10 weeks for mine. Secretary replied to confirm that the results had been received and checked by the consultant.

I asked if I could phone and get the results over the phone and was basically told no, they won't give me the results... we've got to wait for our next appointments with the consultants. However they are in March for me & May for him! I don't want to wait that long to find out the results...

Firstly, AIBU? Should I just accept it and wait for another 8.5 weeks OR is it worth contacting the clinic and asking if there is a possibility of the appointment being brought forward? Will they even do this?

If we wait until May for OH's consultant appointment, that will make it over a year since our referral without even an idea of when we can start our treatment. It seems a bit ridiculous given that have essentially told us already that ICSI is pretty much our only hope given our results to this point.

Please talk some sense into me before I end up losing my mind!!

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LucyLoopyLu · 05/01/2024 11:23

@TinyDancer91 I feel similar to you. I deleted all social media on 22nd and didn't go on it again until 3rd but I still caught the tail end of loads of pregnancy announcements.

It's hard but we can get through it.

First appointment at assisted conception unit next week. Feeling very nervous

IsLarryFromSomething · 02/01/2024 00:11

Thank you xxx

Feliciacat · 02/01/2024 00:10

@IsLarryFromSomething it sounds like sorting out your periods would make testing easier to do. I hope you manage to get them more regular. You’ve got this!

IsLarryFromSomething · 02/01/2024 00:02

Feliciacat · 01/01/2024 23:52

@IsLarryFromSomething they will likely do day two and day 21 blood tests for you to check ovarian reserve and progesterone levels. They will also encourage your DP to get a semen analysis. If those both come back ok then they’ll probably say to keep trying as it must be stress. You can always go back to the doctor though. That is the position DH and I are in. If there’s nothing by May then I’ll go back and ask for structural analysis of my uterus and fallopian tubes. DH happens to have been checked out structurally and he’s ok.

So definitely go to the GP for blood tests and go from there. I hope you get some answers.

Thank you very much. That's really good to know.

I have the added bonus of not having ovulated in months and therefore no period. FUN. But I've done some research (tonight) and it seems like there are a few kinds medications which may or may not address that.

Feliciacat · 01/01/2024 23:52

@IsLarryFromSomething they will likely do day two and day 21 blood tests for you to check ovarian reserve and progesterone levels. They will also encourage your DP to get a semen analysis. If those both come back ok then they’ll probably say to keep trying as it must be stress. You can always go back to the doctor though. That is the position DH and I are in. If there’s nothing by May then I’ll go back and ask for structural analysis of my uterus and fallopian tubes. DH happens to have been checked out structurally and he’s ok.

So definitely go to the GP for blood tests and go from there. I hope you get some answers.

IsLarryFromSomething · 01/01/2024 20:42

I'm the same Tiny dancer. I stopped counting Christmas and New Year's pregnancy announcements when I got to double digits. It's starting to feel like it will never happen. Now it's been a year so I can go to my GP and ask for support, but I have lost hope and feel they won't care or do anything.

Feliciacat · 01/01/2024 16:05

Sorry you’re finding things hard. The time of year is definitely a thing; especially when you get your period on New Year’s Eve! My new technique did not work. So we’re just going to have sex every other day from the end of my period and see what happens. Sperm meets egg technique is doing nothing for us and is making sex unsexy. So I think I’ll keep tracking ovulation so I have something to tell my doctor but other than this, we’ll just try and enjoy life. We will do up the house this year too; that’ll be nice.

What non-conception plans do you have for 2024 @TinyDancer91? Maybe focusing on those will help you feel better emotionally. Not to be insensitive to your situation (I’m in a similar boat, hence being on this thread) but there’s a lot of life outside having babies. I wonder what we will achieve this year?

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TinyDancer91 · 01/01/2024 15:39

Happy new year to all!!!

Currently trying to avoid social media, first thing I saw this morning when logging on to Facebook was another pregnancy announcement.... Xmas was the same...

Anyone else finding this time of year hard for this reason?

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