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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 21:18

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 22:45

@BeeLieve86 we are very much the opposite 😂 my OH would DTD several times every single day if given the chance!! I literally just have to say 'do you wanna?' 😂

Don't get your hopes up too much on GP doing anything for you after 7 cycles if this isn't the one. They usually don't do anything for under 36s if it's been less than 12 months. You might get some bloods done but possibly not much else. But then again, it's a bit of pot luck at the minute from what I've seen so you might get lucky and get help straight away!

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BeeLieve86 · 05/01/2023 22:37

@TinyDancer91

currently 5dpo… ish. Didn’t actually track ovulation this month. Decided to trust in my body and it actually gave me some very obvious signs, like EWCM and breast pain(which is still bad). Going to our gp if this cycle hasn’t worked.

have to say it felt quite stress free, not tracking. However encouraging my partner to have lots of sex was not easy. Haha. If it was up to him we would only do it once a week.

PeopleAreToads · 05/01/2023 22:32

@TinyDancer91 feeling a bit stressed, totally obsessed with OPKs already 😂 trying not to get my hopes up too much for this cycle, because I although I know the chances are it won't happen that quickly, I can't help but think about it

Baby dust to you all, hope we see more BFPs soon!

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 22:26

@Plantymcplant hoping 7 is your lucky number too! Also, happy birthday for 2 weeks time as I'm sure I'll have forgotten by then 😂

it's interesting how many people have similar age gaps with their OH. 4(ish) years seems to be a good omen in terms of relationships. Me & OH have about 4 years between un, as so both sets of parents and they are still married on both sides - quite unusual nowadays!

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Plantymcplant · 05/01/2023 22:21

Hello! Thanks for the new thread. I hope 2023 is everyone's year
I'm 34 (35 in 2 weeks) and oh is 39. TTC number 1 and just starting cycle 7.

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 22:08

@LucyLoopyLu I've been using a Fertilily for the past few months, actually not as bad as you'd think, just make sure it's within reach after you finish DTD and try not to move until you've put it in. My OH isn't too bothered by it, he gets why I'm trying it and is willing to give anything a go to help our goal (although he draws the line at putting it in for me 😂)

@Feliciacat which one(s) have you got? Also how long are your cycles normally?

Think I'm going to give the ovulation tests another go starting again this cycle. I had to give myself a break from using them so haven't used them at all for the past 3 or 4 cycles. Got a little bit (VERY!) obsessed with them and it ended up stressing me out. However, they did help me to work out my cycles, so giving them another go and trying to stay more chilled.

@BeeLieve86 half way though cycle 7 - does that mean you are about due for your peak and almost in the TWW? Or are you already in the TWW? How are you doing? Hoping 7 is a lucky number for you!!

@PeopleAreToads I'm a bit up & down to be honest, sometimes just numb to everything TTC related. My feelings can switch in a matter of minutes so I'm really predictable atm for my OH 😂Good job he's so amazing and puts up with every side of me!! 💕How are you feeling about starting your journey? Hoping it's a short journey for you but that you stay and share everything with us if it is!

I think Xmas & New Year were a tough time for us as we both thought that we would either be a 3 by now, or at least a 2.5 (waiting for baby to arrive). I spent the whole of last year thinking to myself, 'this should have been our first/last X occasion' torturing myself.

Going to try to take each cycle as it comes. Trying to see our GP this month to get the ball rolling with some tests, but they are currently on emergency appointments only. Will keep you all updated with any progress

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PeopleAreToads · 05/01/2023 21:45

@TinyDancer91 thanks for the new thread, I've been wondering how you were getting on!

We're in our first cycle of properly trying, in my fertile window at minute

Feliciacat · 05/01/2023 21:40

I’m 35, DP is 41 and we’re on CD7 on cycle 1 of trying to conceive our first. So exciting! When is best to use an ovulation test? The leaflet doesn’t seem to say.

LucyLoopyLu · 05/01/2023 21:37

Oh also I'm 34 and TTC no.1

LucyLoopyLu · 05/01/2023 21:37

Hi @TinyDancer91

I'm also going to be more positive now. 2023 is a whole new year and I'm trying not to bring last year's negativity with me.

I'm on CD 5 of cycle 10. We had some testing after 6 months (sperm analysis, ultrasound for me and AMH testing) which didn't show anything of concern.
I had my coil out towards the end of March last year so I guess in early April I'll be getting the ball rolling with the GP. In the mean time keep trying. Got TTC vitamins, preseed, testing with OPKs as my cycles vary slightly. Also doing dry Jan and on a gentle health kick.
Considering also getting a fertilily although I don't like the sound of inserting it much. I'm not really too squeamish (happy to use a menstrual cup etc) but I just imagine it will be messy and a bit of a mood killer.

BeeLieve86 · 05/01/2023 21:27

Hello @TinyDancer91

thanks for starting the new thread.

I did post on the last one but I’ll tell my story.

im 36 my partner is 42, we are ttc our first. Currently midway through cycle 7.

had a chemical in cycle 2.

been having regular acupuncture since mid November.

wishing everyone baby dust and BFP’s this year!!!!!

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 21:20

Old Thread

Just for anyone who does want to read it x

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