First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

@Yolo23 Haha sounds like a good plan! I'll be doing the same, I think 😂

@Cyga we don’t 😅😂😂 we just try our best to stay as sane as possible in public and vent on here - atleast that’s what I do 🤣

@ExcitedandNervousC1 oh bless you! My gosh you’ve been through it and all.

Im 30 and we’ve been trying since July too (although in totality I’ve tried for around 3 years). I had a chemical in November which was gutting.

I used the digital clear blue ovulation kit in the Nov and stand by the fact that it was the difference between me always having BFN and that time a BFP… it was so easy to use and you can buy the replacement inserts so really reasonable. If you use the flo app and test around when they expect you to ovulate, you’ll only end up using two to three inserts so a definite recommendation from me!

So reassuring to know that while you may not get a BFP… you’re DTD at the best possible chance x

Hello all :) I'm very new to this kind of forum so still leaning all the acronyms!

I'm 32 and my OH is 33. He has a kid from his previous marriage and now we've been actively trying for our own (my first) as best we can around our shifts these last few months. Now that I have consciously decided to try and have no idea if I have fertility issues or not, I can feel myself going a little crazy with symptom spotting and getting my hopes up! I get pretty bad PMS and every PMS symptom has me wondering if its something else! This month is particularly bad and I'm overly emotional about it, waiting for AF to arrive in 3 days. How do you all stay grounded and not completely fixated every month?! 😅

Oh I'm on CD 2 btw!

Hi Ladies! Hoping I can join! I'm 29 and DH is 29 and TTC #1. We conceived last year but it ended in a MMC at 8 weeks so on proper cycle 1 of trying since it. Feeling desperate as have been trying since July.

I use clear blue digital ovulation tests and conceive plus lube. I don't use any tests to confirm ovulation happened though, do people use these?

@Chanteuse any win no matter how big or small is a win! When the difference to a BFP to BFN is literally minuscule and so reliant on so many factors… you have to be happy when things go to plan 😅🥳 fab news, sounds hopeful 🤞 xx

@Yolo23 I was just excited to see an actual “peak” - they do class it as a peak if it’s above 0.8 but this is undeniably a peak 😄 so feeling hopeful. Also earlier in my cycle than other times - CD13 as opposed to CD16/17. Peak was yesterday so DTD CD10, 11, 13 and 14 (today - hopefully!) so should be 1DPO Tomorrow. Sending baby dust to you!

@Chanteuse thats fab news!! Keeing my fingers crossed for you. I only had a BFP on a positive digital test so it definitely helps… unfortunately mine was chemical but we’re a step further than what we was at least! X

@rankin21 I hope AF hasn't arrived for you! Fingers and toes crossed for you.
My AF is supposed to arrive on Wed, so I may test it then as well if I don't give in before that.

I have been using the easy@home OPKs, I got pregnant (ended in MC) the first time using it in October last year, so they definitely work. I also use the Apple health app and Flo to track, so I am constantly switching between apps and confusing myself at times. 😁

Hi everyone, hope it’s okay to join!

Me and DH (both 29) are TTC #1. Have been trying since August, nothing so far. However, this month I’ve had an actual peak OPK (never usually get higher than 0.8/9) and DTD a lot so finger crossed 🤞🏼 good luck to you all 💕

@Swiftie12 that sounds a good plan 🥰 best of luck xx

@IsLarryFromSomething youll probably be ok! My skin took ages to adapt to the right pill so it’s probably something to do with that. Also, I had no choice but to relax into it because I knew I needed to come off to TTC 😂 so it was what it was!

the worst thing for me is that I have endometriosis so my periods are horrendous without being on the pill.

She’s gone home now luckily so we’re on our own again. My partner seems to be coming down with a cold and I’m not feeling great either so I think it’ll have to be tomorrow for now. Trying to just keep an open mind for now as it’s early days for us. It gets scary seeing posts about others struggling but as we’ve never even tried before we have no idea what kind of time we’ll have but we’ll have to wait and see.

Oh gosh, thank you for the reassurance that if I get it, it will go away. It's nice to be in a supportive thread as I don't want to speak to too many people in real life about this in case it takes ages!

@Swiftie12 😂 pop and buy a pair of earplugs.. say that there’s sometimes noise outside and so best to use them when in bed 😉

I know the rabbit hole issue… try not to let the hole grow too big because early days it should be exciting and nice (don’t get worried from what you’re reading by us lot 🤣) - it may be that you’ll have no issues whatsoever.

fingers crossed for you!

@IsLarryFromSomething dont be alarmed but I had really bad acne! It stopped like 3-6 months but by gosh, it was a nightmare 🤣 I’d say it’s a good sign that you had a withdrawal bleed - I don’t think I had that which was a bit strange.

Ahh thank you for this! My MIL has been visiting us over the weekend (perfect timing 🙄) so it’s not been ideal. We managed last night and I’m aiming for tomorrow as well so fingers crossed. I’ve just got cheap strips at the moment as honestly as we’re just starting out my intention was just to wing it and hope we get lucky. I fell down a bit of a tracking rabbit hole and started lurking on here, and now here I am trying to track more. I’ll invest in some clearblue depending on the outcome this month 😊

Im so sorry about your chemical! Sending lots of baby dust your way for the future!

Thank you! That is really good to know. Did you have any side effects coming off the pill? I came off 2 weeks ago, had a normal withdrawal bleed, and this weekend have had some out of character headaches and mild cramping, so I'm wondering if that is my body realising we aren't taking it anymore.

Thank you for the response, I very much appreciate a kind note. Oh yes taking all the supplements! Just yeah.... my emotions today are so sad ☹️ thank you

@Swiftie12 hiya! As far as I’m aware, a positive OPK means ovulation is going to take place anywhere between 24 to 48 hrs so it’s the next time to get to business 😈

Id recommend investing in a clear blue digital as they’re so much easier to read, tell you when you’re highly fertile AND due to ovulate, and you can buy more inserts so it doesn’t stop being useful.

the first time I used it, I had BFP but it was chemical - having tried for around 3 years, I’ll take that! We’re definitely closer than we were and I think that massively helped.

best of luck 👍✨

@IsLarryFromSomething hey & welcome! I was also on the pill since 16 (so over a decade!) I will say that my cycles took perhaps 2 months to get back into the swing of things and then we’re completely normal 🥰 hoping yours will be the same x

@Iwouldlikeababyplease oh bless you. Easier to say than it is helpful but it’s natural to few such a range of emotions.

I also genuinely believe that the world has led us all to believe that people click their fingers and BAM pregnant, what a surprise… it’s natural for it to take up to a year and I’ve come to realise peoples struggles (behind social media/public eye) when I’ve had in depth conversations with people - it really does take time (for most anyway 🤣) some are just incredibly fertile or lucky by the seems!!

It sounds as though you’re doing everything right but I didn’t see Folic Acid in your message - that’s a must for TTC and during pregnancy so best get started on that if you haven’t already.

sending you a big virtual hug xx

Hi! can I join in as well? I’m 29 and my partner is 27. TTC #1. I had a positive OPK yesterday (first month trying). Hoping for some luck in about ten days. Slightly confused about OPK’s. Are they an indication that you’re ovulating at that moment or that you have ovulated recently? I saw a tiktok that suggested that by the time you get the positive you’re past ovulation. I’m just a little confused about it; it’s all a bit new to me 😂