First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

@Feliciacat i have discussed this with DH. I don’t want a Jan baby. He thinks I’m silly but I hate having a Jan birthday and don’t want my DC to have one. I’d love for them to be any time of year except Jan

@TinyDancer91 infuriatingly it sounds like they’ve lost. As the GP hasn’t got a record can you request another? Might be worth it in the meantime. The other one might appear but at least you’re not sitting around for weeks with nothing going on in the background.

Hi everyone. I finally got my period on day 40 something. Its pretty common for me to have irregular cycles so no biggie.

@Tinydancer91 - you said your TSH was "normal" but did you get a number? They will say its normal up to around 5 but if your trying to conceive then it is optimally around 2.5. I have hypothyroidism and it took my years of feeling terrible woth no treatment because of this.

My plan this month is to go with the flow. No ovulation tests, no calculating, just listen to my body and have sex as much as possible. Good luck everyone.

ttc for my first baby right now since november, due on in 2 days, getting either awful pms or early pregnancy symptoms, was very poorly wih suspected ruptured ovarian cysts october to december, hospitalised, had to have emergency scans t check ovaries and womb hadnt died, came off birth control immediately (my mum said birth control prescription getting delayed is what made me poorly and gynecologist agreed) hoping for a valentines baby in my arms in 9 months, but i wont get my hopes up xx ive always wanted to be a mum and i look up to my mum a lot (she was ttc for 6 years and told she was infertile) xx

Got my AF. So cycle 2 was not successful and I’m into cycle 3. If cycle 3 doesn’t work, we won’t try on cycle four as they’d be born between Xmas and new year!

Does anyone else have a similar view? Like, you will avoid the odd month because of when the due date would be?

Hi Tinydancer and NervousNoo! Headspace and zen are definitely good things; ttc is an anxiety minefield!

Sorry to hear it might not happen without intervention, NervousNoo. As you say, at least it takes the pressure off you.

I came close to actually fainting on my way to work this morning. I feel sick and tired and am 10dpo. I don’t want to get my hopes up cos it could just be bad pmt. It’s impossible not to though!

Good luck to everyone in the tww. I’m testing on Thursday xxx

Hope you're doing ok @TinyDancer91 I stepped away for a bit too, mostly to try and distract myself with other things during this TWW, started my cycle feeling generally less stressed this month but TWW is still getting the best of me.

I'm only 9dpo (I think, missed my surge on tests this month but had other usual symptoms) and not testing yet, I have tests in the house but determined to get to 14dpo first. I think after speaking with the doctor at the start of this cycle it chilled me out, hearing that it just might not happen in the "normal way" for us definitely took the pressure off although that was hard to hear so not expecting it makes resisting the urge to test easier. I had my bloods today but know they were taken on the "wrong" day for my cycle as not avg so test results might not look good even if things fine, if anything that might make the doc refer me quicker who knows? OH has SA on Thurs so will await those results too.

Despite my determination to be zen this month I had some very mild cramping yesterday and the day before, no bleeding though. And an odd sensation I can only describe as like a pulling in my pelvic bone. Never felt anything like it and it was right around the time implantation would most likely occur but I think I'm just the usual hyper aware noticing every twinge as usual. Really don't want to get ahead of myself especially since I've only really just got my head around the it might not happen etc etc from the doc.

Why do our bodies do this to us??

@Kofifi and @Feliciacat - I’m in a similar position.
I did 2 months of OPKs and they were always negative, even when testing twice a day. My GP told me to bin them as they just cause stress and if DTD every other or every couple of days you will hit your ovulation so what’s the point.

I measure my BBT too but this month haven’t had a clear temp increase so bit unknown when or if I actually ovulated. I’m considering stopping this as well as having to do it first thing when I wake up just means fertility is the first thing I think about every day.. bit miserable.

I’m currently on CD 37 (my cycles are usually 32/33 days) and AF nowhere in site and BFNs. The only thing I changed this cycle was to take Pregnacare preconception vitimins so maybe they have changed something with my hormones?? Who knows..

Ive got a GP appointment on Wednesday and she’s booking me in for a day 21 blood test once i eventually get AF to check everything is ok with my hormones. I’m so tearful and fed up at the moment thinking there is something wrong with me and I just want this cycle to be over so I can try again.
It is so so hard to ‘just relax’!

Hey @Kofifi! I think you’ve got a good idea there! Maybe testing too much puts pressure on and like you say, you know yourself the best. I’ve heard more generally that it’s often when people chill out about trying that they get their BFP! I might take the same approach.

I’ve tested for ovulation everyday since day 8 but drew a blank (now on day 16 of my cycle and I’m never that late to ovulate). So I’m not sure if the accuracy either. I’m hoping for a BFP this month but am trying not to get my hopes up!

Hey everyone, seems like we're all in a similiar situation. I'm day 38 of cycle (this is fairly normal for me). Endless BFNs. Feeling anxious. I have autoimmune disease and I feel like its fucking up my hormones.
Also the more i read, aren't ovulation tests pointless? Like they tell your body is preparing to ovulate but it might not? I suspect I didn't/ was delayed this month because i got positive test on 13 dpo and then on around day 22 as well. From what I've been reading temperature is far more accurate. Or am i missing something?
And actually i feel like i might back away from all this reading and measuring. I feel like I know myself when I'm ovulating - i have a crazy high drive and EWCM. Maybe I'm overthinking things and i need to tap more into my human instincts.

@TinyDancer91 thanks for your reply. I think the list of tests it kicked out for me was similar but not the same. It seems to test quite a few things for the money. I'm most interested in thyroid tests and confirming ovulation.

Thanks for letting me know how the testing itself was as well! I hate needles so doing it myself is probably preferred, although I can't say I'd be looking forward to it after last time!

I'm just confused now. Came off the implant in Dec. Had a bleed. Haven't had a period since so on day 37 on my cycle technically but no period and pregnancy tests are a resounding negative.
Had all the period symptoms a week ago without the bleed.

I assume my body is regulating after coming off the implant still but the period symptoms confused me.

Still no positive but I had my first month getting to 13dpo without AF turning up. Since coming off the pill last July I have only made it to 10dpo with an 11dpo last month. While I'm sure its possible to get pregnant as soon as you stop the pill it just shows, that for me at least, it takes over 6 months to get back to completely normal cycles

@TinyDancer91 oh also how did you find the testing at home? The last time I did an at home test the lancet was brutal and put me off a bit. My finger was badly bruised for at least a week, and I managed to make an absolute mess! 😆

@TinyDancer91 good luck for your test results.
What tests does your hetility package include? I have been considering it the past couple of weeks but unsure whether to spend the money. I probably need to order this week or next week if I want to do it on next day 3.

My husband has had SA and I have had AMH and internal ultrasound - nothing came up so far.

I'm on a break of actually trying until we are back off our holiday in April but done 10 cycles so far with no BFP

AF arrived last night so onto the next cycle for me.
Weirdly feel more relaxed now, I was a mess last month and stressed once AF arrived. Which is why I think my cycle has been all thrown off. I spent most of January feeling very anxious.

Similar situation but im not quite so regular- been day 24 the last 2 months now on day 26😂 no sign of af but negative test so guessing my body is just trying to fool me.

Good luck ✨

@Ditzydaisychain a PP said sometimes people don’t test positive until a week after their period is due. Maybe it’s that. Especially if it’s unheard of for you to be late.

@Feliciacat glad to hear you are feeling better.
I hope everyone else is doing well 💕

AF hasn’t made an appearance for me yet, but I have tested and they have been negative, so I’m just waiting for her to arrive. I always have a 24 day cycle so being on day 27 is unheard of for me. I was early this month by 2 days so I’m putting it down to me being out of sync for once.
Honestly the first month we really start TTC my body decided to change the habit of a life time.

Sorry for not replying to the lovely messages from people but thank you, I feel much better and ready to try again.

Wishing everyone luck if they’re testing soon xxx