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First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!

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TinyDancer91 · 05/01/2023 21:18

Hi All.

This is a continuation from my past thread, but no need to go read that one if you're new here!

Quick TD;LR from the old post (but with up to date info) - I'm 31, OH is 35. We are TTC baby #1. Been TTC since Jan 2022, now on cycle 14. Haven't told anyone to avoid pressure.

Feel free to post any questions, thoughts, whinges, celebrations, basically anything here!

Going to try to be a bit more positive than I was toward the end of the last thread 😂

Love & baby dust to all. Wishing for BFPs for everyone this year 💖

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TinyDancer91 · 11/10/2025 23:19

Hi @Ditzydaisychain

Lovely to hear from you! Can’t believe your little one is 16 months already!! So sorry to hear you miscarried 😢 we’re always here if you ever need space to just get your thoughts out there 💕

Happy spooky season!

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Ditzydaisychain · 11/10/2025 22:41

Hey @TinyDancer91 & @Feliciacat

I think about you both often. So glad to hear things are going well for you both 💕

Tiny she sounds wonderful. We started swimming at four months and my little terror loves water now at 16 months. Ours was the same and loved to be on his feet, he started walking at 10 months so be ready for that 🤣.

I’ll be thinking of you this month Felicia. sounds like you’ve had a lot going on through pregnancy. I hope everything goes well with your section. Sebastian is a lovely name. Can’t wait to hear all about him. Fabulous due date by the way. I always secretly wanted a Halloween baby

I was going to come and check in and update you all that we were expecting again, but sadly I miscarried at almost 8 weeks. They would have been due around March/April time. We weren’t actively trying so was just a happy surprise, breastfeeding stopped my periods and I didn’t realise they were back. I feel okay most of the time but occasionally it gets me and I feel overwhelmed with grief that I don’t get to meet that tiny person. Anyway sorry to go on.
Wishing you all well this spooky season!

Feliciacat · 27/09/2025 23:35

After all you’ve been through then that’s wonderful to hear! I’m so happy for you and your DH.

The fact that she prefers being on her feet might mean she’s like you! Maybe she’ll be a tiny dancer too one day! I didn’t know babies could swim so early (I have no clue about these things) but that’s great! I reckon you could learn if you wanted to. Maybe now is a good time?

It’s meant a lot that you’ve checked in. Thank you so much. I’m delighted to hear about Charlotte and I’ll be sure to update when Sebastian is born.

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TinyDancer91 · 27/09/2025 23:29

@Feliciacatlove the name!! So excited for you to have him in your arms finally!

Charlotte is amazing, she’s almost 8 months old now!! How did that happen?! She is loving food, likes to watch Elmo and would rather be on her feet than sitting or lying down 🥰 we started swimming lessons a few weeks back too and she is so relaxed in the water, I’m a little jealous as I can’t swim myself! 😂

Thats good news that they have kept your blood pressure under control. We were told
the ivf increased certain risks too, luckily for us, my pregnancy was fine (other than low papp-a).

Looking forward to hearing all about Sebastian when he arrives!

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Feliciacat · 27/09/2025 14:45

Oh hi TinyDancer! Great to hear from you! How is sweet Charlotte? How is Mum life in general?

I am 35 weeks with Sebastian; he’s due on 31/10/25 but I’m having an elective c section so it will be a few days before that (sometime in week 39). I’ve had high blood pressure and apparently I’m at risk of pre-eclampsia and strokes because of having had ivf. However, my blood pressure is under control thanks to meds from 11 weeks and I’ve been taking blood thinners since 28 weeks and so far so good. He’s 50th percentile too which is good as they told me that ivf causes placental insufficiency!

I’ve got all my baby stuff but the house is a tip because we need to declutter! I’m happy to be in this position though!

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TinyDancer91 · 26/09/2025 21:58

Hey everyone!

just checking in. how is everyone?

@Feliciacathow are you? How long have you got left or is little one here now?

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TinyDancer91 · 21/04/2025 19:07

@Feliciacatthats great news! Congrats!!

Hope everyone is well and enjoying mum life 💕👼🏻

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Ditzydaisychain · 18/04/2025 20:30

@Feliciacat thats amazing news! Welcome to the boy club 💙

Feliciacat · 17/04/2025 13:40

My 12 week scan has gone well and I had my NIPT results and found out the gender from the blood test. There are no chromosomal abnormalities and it’s a boy! Woohoo!

I hope you’re all enjoying your lovely little babies and that you have a wonderful first Easter with them xxx

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TinyDancer91 · 18/03/2025 01:21

She’s amazing thanks 🥰 she’s doing so well, can’t believe she’s almost 5 weeks old already!! She was weighing in at 8lb 4 oz last week so she gained 1lb 4oz in about 2 weeks

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Feliciacat · 18/03/2025 01:16

Thank you so much! How is your beautiful girl?

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TinyDancer91 · 17/03/2025 22:06

@Feliciacatthat’s great news! I’m so happy for you! Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy & birth!! Please keep us updated and feel free to drop any questions here too if you need anything 💕

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Feliciacat · 17/03/2025 13:50

I had my heartbeat scan today (I’m 7w3d) and there’s a heartbeat, the growth is on track and it’s in the right location! There’s only one too (which is better for safety). I’m so happy and relieved that I’m finally pregnant!

I have loved being part of this thread and it’s been lovely to see people’s stories. Thank you for being there through my journey xxx

Ditzydaisychain · 22/02/2025 04:59

@TinyDancer91 congratulations! What a beautiful baby and a lovely name. I kept thinking ot you and wondering if you’d have a valentines baby. It sounds like you will have quite the birth story to tell Charlotte when she’s older.

@Feliciacat thank you for your well wishes although I’m sure you wished us well already💕. Glad to hear your transfer went well. I will be thinking of you next week.

@LucyLoopyLuI had meconium in the water and baby had respiratory issues when he was born. Was all very stressful so I hope you’re feeling okay. We had so many tears over feeding and he lost over 10% of his birth weight in the first week. I wish people warned you that it was harder work. All the classes just go on about what a lovely experience it is and how baby will just know what to do. Absolute rubbish for me and it’s hard work getting it established. Glad everything is now going well for you. I told myself I would just breastfeed him for a month so at least he’d had some breast milk and here I am now doing a 4am breastfeed almost 8 months later 😂.

Alexis7890 · 20/02/2025 21:00

Congratulations @TinyDancer91 i hope you’re recovering well and settling into your mummy life enjoying the newborn bubble!

IsLarryFromSomething · 20/02/2025 20:37

Congratulations!!!

Feliciacat · 20/02/2025 17:59

Amazing news! 🥰 She is so beautiful xxx

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TinyDancer91 · 20/02/2025 17:18

@Feliciacat that sounds promising! Keeping everything crossed for you!

So, we all know that my journey hasn't exactly been straight forward 😂 and why would this step be any different! I went in on 11th at about 2pm after the hospital called to say they finally had a bed for me. Arrived and was taken to labour ward and the other ward upstairs was actually full (where I was supposed to be). Had obs done, all fine, apparently cervix was tilted back so needed to come forward but baby's head was right there so probably wouldn't have been much longer if we'd have waited anyway. 2:30pm was given 1ml of the gel to get thing started. All fine (or so we thought!). A few hours later I'm told I must be super sensitive to the gel as it was making me have 7 contractions every 10 mins and they only wanted me to have 4 max. They weren't strong or painful at this stage either, just lots very close together. 11:30pm I was given an injection to slow everything down again... 😂

Admitted to the ward upstairs at 3am (which meant OH had to go home at 3am) and told they were aiming to take me back down at 6am to break my waters. OH came back at 8am which is the earliest he was allowed in, I managed to get 1 hour of sleep that night...

Anyway, 12th, sat in the ward waiting to go back down to labour suite, 3pm they finally have space for me down in labour suite again! So back down we go, 3 attempts to break my waters as they couldn't get a pocket big enough to do it due to where baby's head was! That set everything off at 100mph! Contracts ramped right up to the point I couldn't move while having one, I was in tears! Had paracetamol, did nothing. Tried gas & air, hated it! Opted for epidural, which was fitted very quickly afterwards (thankfully anaesthetist was free to do it). Immediately felt better, I could still feel my whole body but it took the pain away. Epidural was fitted at approx 7:30pm, drip fitted to help with contractions started at 8:30pm. I was pushing by about 3am.

They had a dr ready to use the ventouse and another to do an episiotomy, didn't need either in the end and she arrived before they had chance 😂

Baby girl was born at 3:55am on 13th Feb, weighing 7lb 8oz and is perfectly healthy. We were back home by 1:30pm that day!

So, here she is, baby Charlotte Amelia 🥰 we are so grateful and blessed to have her finally in our arms!

I'm sure I've probably left out some details that you may want, so if I have, please ask! Nothing is off limits 😊

Love to all!

First Timers TTC. Safe space for brain dumps, questions, whinges and celebrations. Part 2!
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CatCaretaker · 20/02/2025 17:11

@Feliciacat that's brilliant! I don't know how you have the self restraint not to test every day!

Feliciacat · 20/02/2025 15:44

Also, huge congratulations on your baby @CatCaretaker!

Feliciacat · 20/02/2025 15:34

Congratulations on your little girl @LucyLoopyLu. I’m really looking forward to hearing your update @TinyDancer91; I hope it all went well! How surreal it must be to finally have a child after all this waiting.

My transfer was on 12th and it went well thanks @CatCaretaker. I tested positive 5dp5dt (17th) and it got darker on 7dp5dt (19th) OTD on Monday. Fingers crossed!

CatCaretaker · 20/02/2025 14:48

@Feliciacat how did the transfer go?

KTak · 20/02/2025 14:05

@TinyDancer91 How did it all go??

LucyLoopyLu · 10/02/2025 19:11

@TinyDancer91 ooh how exciting, you're nearly there now!

My little girl was born on 30th Dec. We went in for induction on 27th, everything went well until there was a lot of meconium in my waters when they were broken. We laboured for about 4 hours with continuous monitoring and then her heart rate started dropping with contractions. They checked me and my cervix was still only 2-3cm (no progress in 4 hours) so we went down for an emergency section.

Everything went well with that and recovery has been good. We've had a lot of problems with feeding (lots of tears for me!) but she's growing and gaining weight now as we're combi feeding by necessity.

The growth scan I had at 39 weeks estimated she would be 7lb11 and over a week later when she was born she was only 6lb8!

Hope everything goes well for you. Would be lovely to hear your update

CatCaretaker · 10/02/2025 12:39

@Feliciacat good luck on Wednesday! Let us know how it goes