Fruitloop--the Saw Palmetto is supposed to help with excess hair or acne I think, I can't remember and my DP's brother's GF has my PCOS diet book. And would you believe, she's just had a BFP . I too was weirded out by the fact that everything about it seems to talk about men's prostates. Oooh, just googled it and I'm right, it's supposed to work as an anti-androgen. When you google it, make sure you google PCOS AND Saw Palmetto.
As for the hair, I suppose I just try to get rid of it as best I can. It helps having a partner that claims not to mind my hairy bum. That said, he's offered to pay the £40 so I can get it all waxed again. The thing about waxing is, those women have seen everything, so they aren't judging you!
I definitely have more of a 'tashe than I used to, so I tend to pluck out the thicker, darker ones on the side of my mouth as I notice them. Tried waxing once, but it just made me break out with tons of tiny whiteheads and looked awfulmuch worse than a faint 'tashe! I also tried waxing on my jawline just under my ear, as I seem to be rather fluffy there, but againlots of whiteheads and not worth it. I may try threading at some point, that's supposed to be good for stuff like this.
I supposed I've talked about the practical rather than the psychological above. . . for me, I do other things to make me feel more feminine, like wearing make-up or tops that emphasize my boobs ("don't look at my 'tashe, look at my tits!"). In essence, trying to find features that are feminine/pretty and playing them up makes me feel better. And don't compare yourself to others (though it's hard to stop). Sometimes (I'm so ashamed to admit this) I'll see a woman who's way bigger than me with a really obvious 'tashe, and I'll think, "I'm sure I don't look that bad".