Page 2 | First month TTC - driving myself mad!

SEG92 · 2023-01-02T12:28:36+00:00

My husband and I started TTC this month, I thought this would be a super exciting time but it's quite the opposite! My period is a day late, I was that crazy person who did 3 early pregnancy tests (all negative), one today (still negative). I think the constant googling of every slight symptom I've had has just delayed my period as know I would be very lucky to conceive first month of trying. I've decided I've got all my craziness out this first month and now will just relax and not symptom check every single twinge and headache (and not test until AF is late!) Can't help but keep a little bit of hope that my test might be positive in a few days, but know AF is probably on the way! You spend years trying not to get pregnant then all of a sudden you want to, such a shift in mindset that I never really acknowledged before! Anyway rant over and best of luck to everyone on this conception journey with me xx

mrsed1987 · 14/01/2023 08:16

Hi all can I join?

I'm cycle one of trying for baby number 2. My son is 4.

I have come off the pill after 3.5 years but feel really anxious this time! With my son I came off the pill after over 10 years and thought it would take ages to get pregnant, I actually got pregnant my second cycle 🤣 so it was a surprise but a planned one if that makes sense.

I'm trying not to get too worked up, I'm 5 years older now so wouldn't be surprised if it took a little longer.

UnaVaca · 14/01/2023 08:03

Your period was likely late because you’d worked yourself up so much
i recommend clear blue ovulation sticks - got pregnant first month of using them. Prior to that I used flo and when I compared with the sticks, flo was wrong.

RW29 · 14/01/2023 07:58

Hey ladies!
I’m joining in too as it’s also my first time ttc and it amazing to see how many of us are in the same boat 😅
I was on the pill for 10+ years (most recently mini pill) and gave myself a Christmas present and stopped on the 25th. Made sense though as AF started. Since then I’ve tried with CB tests and cheapie OPKs to see where my body is at.
around CD18 I got stronger LHsurges but noting the app was picking up as positives and I’m still seeing the flashing smile for 6 days.
Been doing the baby dance every other day which is becoming quite the chore haha!
Im now CD21 and I’m getting more cramping so I’m half expecting it’s just AF getting ready to make an appearance.
Fingers crossed I can figure out my body soon enough to conceive properly!!

Sagittarius25 · 14/01/2023 07:54

@Alexandrababy1 yes I see a line!

Took a test this morning, period three days 'late' but negative test. Cycles still obviously longer and not settled post pill 🤣 hopefully AF comes soon!

northernmam · 14/01/2023 07:38

Alexandrababy1 · 14/01/2023 07:21

Morning everyone!
I took a test this morning 9DPO, I literally couldn't help myself and I think there's a teeny tiny line😭 i'll attach a picture.
AF is due on tuesday so I don't want to get too excited but OMG xx

Yes I see the line! I really hope it's the outcome you want 😊 xx

Alexandrababy1 · 14/01/2023 07:21

Morning everyone!
I took a test this morning 9DPO, I literally couldn't help myself and I think there's a teeny tiny line😭 i'll attach a picture.
AF is due on tuesday so I don't want to get too excited but OMG xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 13:18

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 12:26

@northernmam yeah the TWW is awful, not long to go now thank god.
Aw, have you got boys, girls or both?
Mines 18 months xx

We have one of each 😊 but don't want as big a gap this time xx

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 12:26

@northernmam yeah the TWW is awful, not long to go now thank god.
Aw, have you got boys, girls or both?
Mines 18 months xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 11:01

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 10:13

@northernmam I'm going to try and wait until AF is due now, which is Tuesday. My daughter was a surprise so we were really excited to actually start trying this time but it's so much harder than I thought, this is only our first try too😂.
Ooo that's exciting! How old are your other two?xx

Awww how exciting! But it is harder on you when you're tracking ovulation etc and just stuck in that limbo for two weeks! My eldest is 6 and youngest is 15 months. How old is your daughter? Xx

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 10:13

@northernmam I'm going to try and wait until AF is due now, which is Tuesday. My daughter was a surprise so we were really excited to actually start trying this time but it's so much harder than I thought, this is only our first try too😂.
Ooo that's exciting! How old are your other two?xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 09:40

@Alexandrababy1 It's really hard not to test! 7DPO is very early so try not to rule it out altogether 😊 this is our first month of trying for baby number 3. How about you? Xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 09:39

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 09:29

@northernmam it's so hard to not test isn't it, I tested this morning at 7DPO and was BFN😞I know I should've waited but now i'm just like mehhh. I've had no symptoms at all really apart from a few cramps at bed time but i'm thinking that was probably in my head 😂. How long have you been TTC?xx

It's really hard not to test! 7DPO is very early so try not to rule it out altogether 😊 this is our first month of trying for baby number 3. How about you? Xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 09:39

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 09:29

@northernmam it's so hard to not test isn't it, I tested this morning at 7DPO and was BFN😞I know I should've waited but now i'm just like mehhh. I've had no symptoms at all really apart from a few cramps at bed time but i'm thinking that was probably in my head 😂. How long have you been TTC?xx

It's really hard not to test! 7DPO is very early so try not to rule it out altogether 😊 this is our first month of trying for baby number 3. How about you? Xx

Alexandrababy1 · 12/01/2023 09:29

@northernmam it's so hard to not test isn't it, I tested this morning at 7DPO and was BFN😞I know I should've waited but now i'm just like mehhh. I've had no symptoms at all really apart from a few cramps at bed time but i'm thinking that was probably in my head 😂. How long have you been TTC?xx

northernmam · 12/01/2023 08:44

I'm 6DPO today and trying not to symptom spot or anything as I know I'll just drive myself mad. Sunday is 6 days before my period is due and I have some early detection tests so it'll be a test of wills not now use them. Luckily I'm at a christening on Sunday which will distract me from thinking about it. How is everyone else?

Alexandrababy1 · 11/01/2023 21:02

How is everyone doing?
I'm 6DPO today and had no symptoms so far, starting to think this might not be my month ☹️xx

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SEG92 · 10/01/2023 18:51

@Alexandrababy1 yes trying for baby #1, and next ovulation dates according to Flo isn't for another 12 days.

@TaMcCro it's so hard not to let it consume you but there is so much else to enjoy and think about in life other than TTC. I don't want to live in this horrible anxious state for however long it takes so really making a conscious effort to remember how I felt before I started on this journey xx

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Alexandrababy1 · 10/01/2023 18:50

@TaMcCro Omg 5 days late! When was the last time you tested?
Sending you lots of luck too💖

TaMcCro · 10/01/2023 16:29

@Alexandrababy1 Hey 👋 welcome!

It's so, so hard not to test early. I did exactly that this month, and it has been pure torture (especially now as AF is 5days late 🙈). Sending you lots of luck ❤️

@SEG92 You are so right! I just need to get into the mindset of 'what will be, will be'. (I would happily welcome AF at this stage 😏). I'l try to keep busy in the meantime, and will update once I have something to tell. Thanks for the wee chats and the useful advice. Lots of luck to you also ❤️

Alexandrababy1 · 10/01/2023 16:16

@SEG92 Oh no really! when's your next ovulation date?
I'm going to try and hold out as long as I can, i've not had any symptoms yet though ☹️ I caught pregnant the first time by accident so I was really excited to actually try this time but time but this TWW is awful!
Are you trying for baby no.1?xx

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SEG92 · 10/01/2023 15:47

@TaMcCro keep us updated, as soon as I started stressing less about it yesterday after seeing the doc my period started today, so tells you everything right? Stress really does play havoc with your cycle and I don't want to mess mine up so just going to regularly have sex throughout the month, look at ovulation on Flo but not track it with OPKs yet, and just relax!

@Alexandrababy1 sending baby dust to you! So tempting to test early but I've learnt after this month I won't be doing that! I did 5 tests before my period was due (lesson learnt!!) 🤣

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Alexandrababy1 · 10/01/2023 14:57

Hi everyone, please can I join?🥺
I'm currently cycle 1 of trying for baby number 2. My AF is due a week today and i'm sooooo desperate to test already even though I know it's literally not possible to be pregnant yet.
Sending baby dust to you all✨xxx

TaMcCro · 10/01/2023 13:54

So glad that you were able to finally get an answer. At least you can concentrate on TTC again, and I hope all works out for you ❤️
And you are absolutely right about the blood test- no harm in getting a wee check.

I'm 5 days late now, still testing negative. The wait continues...

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SEG92 · 10/01/2023 12:25

So relieved 😊 still went for the blood test, not a bad idea to have an MOT anyway xx

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Chooba · 10/01/2023 10:53

Ah, that must be reassuring to know where you stand!!