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Entries wanted: Most idiotic advice from well meaning family/friends to ttc mumsnetters.

34 replies

SweetFudge · 02/12/2004 19:26

I got one from my cousin just half an hour ago when we were speaking on the phone.

She said "Can I be frank with you? Why don't you just concentrate on getting on with your life and get a pet?"

This from a woman who spent years ohhing and ahhing over baby clothes in shops and telling us what she'd dress her babies in before she had her two kids recently.

I love her to bits but if someone had given me a stupid stick at that moment, I'd have crawled into the phone and smacked her with it.

Best entry gets a brand new electric cattle prod to poke at any future stupid "advice".

OP posts:
Slink · 02/12/2004 21:13

HAPPYMERRYBERRIES that is awful poor you xx

happymerryberries · 02/12/2004 21:01

From my mother, after my m/c 'Don't worry, after all, what you never have you can never miss.'

marinda · 02/12/2004 21:00

This woman I work with, like me one kid and TTC just say's "Why don't you just get pissed, forget about TTC and the JUST BD at any time not just when OV". THAT REALLY PI*ES ME OFF - AS IF THAT WOULD BL*DY WORK"

hester · 02/12/2004 20:14

Oh, and 'Why don't you just concentrate on the other things in life? You can have a good life without children, you know" from people with kids.

Or, "Why don't you just adopt? There are plenty of children needing good homes, you know". Yes, I do know, and I'll work my own way through that option without your glib advice, thank you very much.

Or even, "You should try IVF!". From people who know zilcho about me, my fertility or my obstetric situation.

Slink · 02/12/2004 20:10

"maybe it's not meant to be, be thankful you have one..."
or" there must be something wrong with you if you haven't had one yet.." said by inlaws and you really want to say well actually if your brother had a better libido i would have had 20 kids by now.

hester · 02/12/2004 20:05

"Why don't you just go and have casual sex with a stranger?"

and . Yeah, that's really how you wanted to bring your child into the world, isn't it? Plus... what are the odds of that working?

MiaouyChristmas · 02/12/2004 20:04

Why is it that people think that saying "Can I be frank?" gives them free license to be rude and hurtful?

I think ttc is enough of an emotional experience without do-gooders sticking their beak in where it's not wanted.

And did they really think that you would turn round and say, "Do you know what, you are so right, what am I thinking of?"

Grrr....

vict17 · 02/12/2004 20:03

"relax" and "chill out" were particular gems of my dh's which made me want to throw him against a brick wall

morningpaper · 02/12/2004 20:00

"Can't you just forget about it and see what happens?"

(advice from everybody)

Makes me want to shout OFF!!!