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Really need some encouragement (Ttc)

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Hopefulfor4 · 25/11/2022 16:48

Hi all, I'm really struggling to find hope. I've been Ttc for about 8 out or 11 months this year so far, it has resulted in a couple of chemical pregnancies (I think!) and a miscarriage at 5 weeks. Im 37 years old and just wondering wether this is impossible for me now? I have never had problems Ttc before. It's such a stressful time I just don't know why it's not happening. My bloods are normal apparently. Any advice on what I can do to improve my chances please? I don't test for ovulation but I do monitor my cm. X

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Hopefulfor4 · 11/12/2022 12:53

Hi everyone I hope you are all keeping well, I'm having a confusing month! I had major bloating on cd11 which I not all get around ovulation but I have only just had lots of ewcm this am which is cd 17!? I'm not sure what's going on. X

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Yolo23 · 29/11/2022 19:38

@Hopefulfor4 haha I know the feeling but for me now it’s been once bitten so twice shy. Definitely holding out in future 😅 xx

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Hopefulfor4 · 29/11/2022 16:30

@Yolo23 I think I should do the same but I bet once I'm in that testing period I'll cave and do it! Xx

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Yolo23 · 28/11/2022 21:56

Hopefulfor4 · 27/11/2022 16:05

@overthinkersanonnymus I'm
So sorry you are struggling too. It's such hard time. No need to apologise at all you are more than welcome. X

@Yolo23 I'm so sorry you are experiencing a chemical. It's so hard! I hate questioning why it's not sticking abs what on earth i can do!? I too tested too early last month and swore I would again but I did! So more heart break. The thing is I feel symptomatic too, that's what makes me hopeful. I got a good positive at 9dpo (unless a bad indent!) this month! Then got harder to see. I'm not buying Frer test now until late as the indents are horrid. X

@Hopefulfor4 thank you 🥰 yeah I totally feel the same - to have 5 odd digital positives (I had to be sure for my smear).. it was such a surprise when everything had changed so quickly. Im just glad that I’m a person that doesn’t take anything for granted so I’m always wary of things going wrong (means I’m a bit more prepared).
Ill never test again but perhaps be reassured that something is happening inside - as up until this point I’ve never come even close so that’s one good thing atleast. Sorry to hear you also experienced similar 😞 horrible! If I’m honest, as I’m still positive I’ll only buy digi now xx

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Hopefulfor4 · 27/11/2022 16:05

@overthinkersanonnymus I'm
So sorry you are struggling too. It's such hard time. No need to apologise at all you are more than welcome. X

@Yolo23 I'm so sorry you are experiencing a chemical. It's so hard! I hate questioning why it's not sticking abs what on earth i can do!? I too tested too early last month and swore I would again but I did! So more heart break. The thing is I feel symptomatic too, that's what makes me hopeful. I got a good positive at 9dpo (unless a bad indent!) this month! Then got harder to see. I'm not buying Frer test now until late as the indents are horrid. X

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Yolo23 · 27/11/2022 14:08

Hi everyone, quick update.. had a blob or so in the loo this morning, still not on proper AF but my digital says not pregnant so I guess that’s the end of that! One thing I will never do again is test even the slightest bit early (wasted so much money on tests this month and had 5/6 BFPs) just sharing some advice. Feeling ok but just want the bleeding to start now so it can be over with and we can enjoy our holiday to Dominican on Saturday. If anyone has any advice around how long it takes to start, and how long generally it may last, I’d really appreciate it 😥🥺 xx

overthinkersanonnymus · 27/11/2022 11:14

@Hopefulfor4 I hope you don't mind me gate crashing your threat but I need some encouragement too 😭😭

I'm in the TWW of my 8th cycle of trying for my first pregnancy and I'm not hopeful at all.

I'm 36 with regular periods, positive opks every month etc but nothing. I think I had a chemical last month but it can't be confirmed so I'm still on a massive downer about not being able to conceive.

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Hopefulfor4 · 27/11/2022 10:41

I'm so sorry to hear what is happening. It's hard to stay hopeful but until it's full flow I guess there's a little hope left? Xx take care. Xx

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Yolo23 · 26/11/2022 23:25

Oh bless you, thank you. Unfortunately more disappointment this evening - brown spotting previous has turned into bright red blood. Still not loads but it’s not a great sign 😩 so I’m expecting AF to turn up soon… it’s all so confusing.

sorry to hear you had a positive in aug - it is horrible 🥺

keeping my fingers crossed for this cycle for you - hopefully a nice little Christmas miracle 🥰

thank you for responding xx

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Hopefulfor4 · 26/11/2022 23:13

@Yolo23 thank you so much for replying. I'll be praying your bFp gets stronger. Such a long wait for you! Xx I'm getting so discouraged after this year. We have deciding to only try until Christmas as we already have three and I'm getting in a bit! So I'm almost out of time. It's crazy hard. I thought my cm was a good sign I was ovulation soon but maybe I'm wrong and it is much later or before. I do feel like I get symptoms of pregnancy but then they go, I've even had faint positives that then turn negative. I got a positive in a digital in aug too but ended 6 days later. I need a crystal ball and a magic wand it seems! Xx

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Yolo23 · 26/11/2022 18:38

Hello my lovely. I’ve previously tried for around 2.5 years. I have endo and so an operation has helped although I only had a possible BFP this month after using the clear blue ovulation tests (digital) - previously I was tracking my CM and we weren’t doing it at the right times, I used the digi once and we had the BFP 😘 first time!
I say had as I’m still currently BFP but only 2 days in and had a negative this morning followed by two BFP so all a little confusing right now, due af tomorrow but having a little bit of spotting which is a concern (or not as research says it’s normal) anyway, it 100% has helped - I’d buy the one that you can buy more tests with so it’s worthwhile! Best of luck xxx

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