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One year+ TTC part 4

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lemons44 · 20/11/2022 10:45

Hi all
Onto thread 4! Hopefully this one is lucky for us 🍀 🤞🏼

Just a supportive thread for those of us who have been TTC for over a year. New faces are welcome. Feel free to vent, cry, laugh, ask silly questions, seek advice and talk about anything.

Tagging our BFP ladies who are rooting for us too.

@Tinkerbell098
@NatW2021
@Koalie
@Netflixnchilli
@JSS15
@BakinABaby
@KatieLooLa
@Indianna2006
@Carla2601
@BritInNZ
@FlyOnTheWall89

Feel free to tag anyone I have forgotten.

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Koalie · 07/09/2023 07:00

@TheBirdintheCave oh my goodness congratulations !!! Isn’t it funny that sometimes a round of IVF can end up being some sort of body re set! So happy for you xx

BritInNZ · 07/09/2023 04:47

@TheBirdintheCave that's amazing!!! So happy we finally got another BFP in the group - hopefully the start of many!

Those first few weeks are scary times (but everything thereafter is too!) so just try and relax and enjoy the moment x

TheBirdintheCave · 06/09/2023 21:51

@FlyOnTheWall89 Thankies :)

@SarahShorty Yeah I keep forgetting that I'm not even four weeks until tomorrow 🤦🏻‍♀️ Just want to see a line as dark as the control so I can feel a bit better about it.

FlyOnTheWall89 · 06/09/2023 20:42

@TheBirdintheCave NO FREAKING WAY OMG CONGRATULATIONS THIS IS THE BEST NEWS. I have been waiting for some positive news on this group. Keeping everything crossed for you xx

SarahShorty · 06/09/2023 19:17

13DPO is still early and that line looks quite strong to me. It's stronger than any line I've had on a pink dye test at 17DPO.

TheBirdintheCave · 06/09/2023 18:33

Got a surprise natural BFP on Sunday. Trying to stay calm but the anxiety is unreal. Caved and did another test today at 13dpo (was going to wait until tomorrow). Not sure about progression but trying not to lose all hope.

One year+ TTC part 4
BritInNZ · 04/09/2023 03:46

@lemons44 sorry to hear about your first failed round. Everything crossed for better news this time!

Koalie · 31/08/2023 17:32

So sorry @lemons44 only just seen your update ! Do you have any news? When is OTD? I have everything crossed for you!! Xx

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lemons44 · 27/08/2023 18:09

Thanks guys. It's so bloody hard to keep positive and I think this is the first time we are starting to lose some hope that we will ever get our family.

I know @NatW2021 the costs are excruciating. We were so so lucky that so far we had our 2 NHS rounds, however from here on in it will be privately funded. It must feel especially frustrating for you have needed to cancel the last cycle!

I really think your protocol changes will help and work for you this time. Sperm issues aside, they really upped my meds and I had a much better response this time (13 eggs last time but only 3 mature, 16 eggs this time but 13 mature). IVF really is an art and there's lots of tweaking and changes for each person. At least they now have your AMH and how you reacted before and building on that knowledge will hopefully help you have a much better chance of success this time!
XXxxx

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NatW2021 · 27/08/2023 09:27

@lemons44 so sorry 😞 it's utterly shit this whole process we put ourselves through so much with no guarantees I find it so crazy. i have everything crossed for you. 🙏

I'm just waiting to start again next cycle in about 2 weeks, im going on holiday in a few days and need to take one of meds with me as i will be like due to start on the last day and don't want to miss another cycle. I've had my meds upped to max dose as I had my AMH retested and it's come back down to 10.7 from 20 in May so I think it was a total fluke and probs why I didn't respond aswell on a lower dose in July.

The money it's costing just makes me feel sick 🤢 as just had to pay 2k for more meds with again no guarantees as i dont know how I'm going to respond. All I can do is pray 🙏 x

FlyOnTheWall89 · 26/08/2023 19:14

@lemons44 what a bloody unfair journey. So sorry it's proving more complicated than one would hope after all you've been through xxx

TheBirdintheCave · 26/08/2023 18:46

@lemons44 Augh I'm so sorry Lemons :( I have everything crossed for you that this one sticks.

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lemons44 · 26/08/2023 15:32

Hi @NatW2021 sorry for a late reply. We have finished our second round now but unfortunately we are bracing ourselves for another failed round. Seems we are having some issues getting from day 3 to day 5. We transferred on day 3 again in the hopes my body will be a better incubator, however none of our others got to day 5. Therefore expectations for this transfer are low ☹️ we can't do anything to improve DHs sperm as it's surgically retrieved. It's all just pretty hard.
Hope you're getting on ok? xxxx

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TheBirdintheCave · 17/08/2023 13:42

@NatW2021 Excited for you to be starting again :D I hope things go smoothly this time.

I'm ok, just waiting to ovulate for our natural try this month. Should be any day now :)

SarahShorty · 17/08/2023 13:41

Am on CD21 I think, I don't know anymore. I am tracking, I just have no hope now. If this doesn't work, then I'll be going for the next FET next month.

NatW2021 · 17/08/2023 13:24

@lemons44 - how you getting on, have started yet?

I'm due to start again on my next cycle I had my AMH restested this week and it's now 10.7 it was 9.7 last April and 20 in May so I think May was definitely a fluke and thats probably why the medication wasn't high enough in July aa my AMH was alot lower. I find it so strange. Just waiting for the dreaded medication invoice.

Hope everyone is doing well x

NatW2021 · 27/07/2023 12:07

@TheBirdintheCave so sorry! No words can help I know, sending you lots of love and hopefully you can try again in September.

@lemons44 @Koalie @TheBirdintheCave Thank you for your support, I spoke to the dr this morning who suggested retesting my AMH when my period arrives as it jumped so dramatically (9.8 April 22) to 20 (May 23) either way they will up my meds but it would be interesting to see what it is now. As follicle count a lot less this cycle.

I am feeling a little better today but still absolutely gutted but I know it's for the best and it would have been worse getting this outcome after egg collection as that would be one of my cycles used up. I'm just gutted I didn't go for the meds included package now as I'll have to pay for meds and also if I need another cycle likeky I'll be on max meds so it'll cost more. Not much I can do now I'll get over it but sick of spending money on all things fertility atm! X

TheBirdintheCave · 27/07/2023 08:07

@lemons44 Thanks, Lemon :) Hopefully we can go again in September with the 4AB and we'll try naturally in August in the mean time.

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lemons44 · 27/07/2023 07:49

I'm so so sorry @TheBirdintheCave ☹️ sending you a massive hug 💗

@NatW2021 oh I'm so sorry to hear the cycle was cancelled, it must feel so disappointing after waiting this long. A lady on another thread I'm on had her cycle cancelled as she didn't have many follicles, started again shortly after and ended up with about 15 eggs!

I know it's hard but just try to remember that IVF is all trial and error as everybody is different. The doctors were starting out just assuming what would work for you, but now they have a much better idea of how you respond they can ensure your next round is much more likely to be successful! As painful as it is it is much better to be cancelled now than go all the way and end up with few eggs when they know you have potential for many more. I know it's still really sucky though ☹️ sending big hugs xx

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Koalie · 26/07/2023 15:47

Oh gosh @NatW2021 & @TheBirdintheCave I’m so sorry to both of you! It’s such a horrific journey … sending lots of love to you both xxx

TheBirdintheCave · 26/07/2023 12:07

@NatW2021 Sorry to hear this :( Waiting is just the worst.

My update is that my pregnancy ended in a chemical :(

SarahShorty · 26/07/2023 12:02

@NatW2021 I'm so sorry xx

NatW2021 · 26/07/2023 11:49

Hey just an update. i had my scan this morning and they have told me to stop my medication/cancel the cycle as my body hasn’t responded aswell on the dose of the meds as they would like. I had 2 big follicles but the rest were not big enough and obviously we need as many as possible. I’m gutted and feel like shit, i have to start the whole process of again which wont be till September time now due to my holiday. I’m just really upset and not sure how much more upset and disappointment I can take and we haven't even got going properly yet. X

TheBirdintheCave · 21/07/2023 13:43

@NatW2021 I think the holiday plan is a good idea though I really hope you don't get to go 😘

NatW2021 · 21/07/2023 13:28

@TheBirdintheCave Sounds very promising! Congratulations 💕 x

@Koalie we went for 2 cycle with 50% refund. There are so many options and also confusing. If it doesn't work out we are using the refund to go on a massive holiday as we have both agreed we will only be doing 2 cycles. (Although I no that change)

Ah I remember now, that sounds perfect! Such a lovely idea 💕 xx

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