feeling broody but have large family already.

Ebeson, glad someone understands. I know it's irrational to have this worry, and I've had it since DC2. I think it's some kind of subconscious 'law of averages' reminder to me not to be complacent and assume everything will be fine. Sorry, that doesn't read very easily, but I don't know how else to put it.

I feel just the same,i would love baby no 6 ,i have 5 already 2 with sen and im 40 but i just cant help how i feel.

emmsy that people said it was for the best!!

Ebeson,my DH had a vasectomy when dd2 was 4 months old or we would have been in the same situation as you.

I have 2 ds's aged 16.5 and 12.5 and 2 dd's aged 3.6 and 1.7. Had to do the snip cos we would definitly have wanted another dc at some point.

We are just about managing financially. We have good birthdays and Xmas's and usually have a holiday etc but with another dc i would have to give up work (am a CM).

I do understand how you feel tho as i still long for another dc but feel glad the choice has been taken away from us iyswim?

If it's something you really want and you can manage then do it. You would always regret it,i know i would if it were me

It's nowt to do with anyone else!!

If you and your partner want another child then go for it! I would have a huge family if I could afford to. Do not listen to anyone else, all that matters is you know the child will be loved.

Oh and 40 is not old.

Good luck xx

I have 4 DC ages 3,4,6 and 8 we are TTC are 5th, I am nearly 43 and have had 2 m/c's in the last 10 months, I have already had people (family members) saying that the miscarriages are 'probably for the best' as I already have 4!! stuff them and stuff anyone else who thinks I am being stupid, I never ask for anyones help, and I will be returning to work next year when my career break comes to an end, I am going to try my hardest to have my last baby before its too late, this thread has definately encouraged me and I hope it does the same for you ebeson xxx

it is really up to you how many children you have. i know someone who had 9. ignore what family/friends say or think. if you want more children go for it. as for something going wrong you could think that after having just one child so i think you have to ignore feelings like that. there's a lady on here who has 8 or 9 children but i think she too suffered from miscarriages and it didn't stop her ttc more.

I have 5 and am also at that stage of trying to decide whether or not to have a 6th and final one.
My issue is I have 5 healthy kids. It would be a disaster to be 'greedy' and go for one more then have something go wrong. I can't seem to think clearly about it without worrying about that. Has anyone else experienced this?

I did post a huge message but lost it. to put a long story short, we have 3, he has 5, I wouldn't mind more but he says no!!!!

I have 4 and want one more.My youngest is 4 months. Am 29 atm, so younger than you, but part of me thinks that people will think I am mad

go for it. Its no-one else business, If you have the energy and the finance then good luck to you Have 3 and would love 4!

You are not being greedy at all and presumably your older children are not so demanding on your time and attention any more (will not to the same extent as a baby).

If you don't you will always look back and regret it.

It's no-one's business but your's and your dh's, go for it, you know you want to!

My friend had 5 and decided to 'round it up' to 6 and had twins!!! hehehehe!!! she loves it!!! some people are unkind, but most just admire her!

Wow you're BRAVE!! I'm the total opposite to you, one is more than enough for me! But really bollocks to what other people think. Who are they but mere 'extras' in your life? My friend, who's nickname on here is Aunty Mandy has 6 kids and she's similar age to you.
I would love dd to have a sibling but I'd need a surrogate to do the brave part of it for me!

I know what you mean. We had 4 -aged 20, 18, 16 and 14 when I got pg and we were worried sick about what people would say. After 2 missed mc we couldn't decide whether to try again ("what would people say") and luckily events overtook us and I fell pg again while we were dithering. Now we have a 10 mo charging round the room

Funnily enough, my mum (who was adamant we had far too many children) said to us over Xmas that we ought to have another one to "keep DD company"

(I'm 44 BTW)

We wanted a big family as our children won't grow up with cousins like their dad did so we figured our grandchildren would have loads of cousins. We could only have 3 children but hoping for lots of grand children.

what's the difference between 5 and 6? I say go for it, it would be a shame to regret not having another baby in years to come

Why does it matter what people think? I wouldn't rule out having another although I'm probably too old now. It would matter the slightest to me what other people thought. I've got 5. If you do want another the sooner you get started the better.

ebeson - i am pg with no 6 at 40
my eldest only 15 though
responses vary and i try to ignore/not resent the less than positive ones
i thnk this is what i do and i like it - moan buckets- but like it - i am lucky!
my closest friends said stuff like 'feels right' ' lovely to have another one of them' 'you do it well'

others have looked horrified/said 'how will you cope?'

i have no other family due to unhappy life prior to marriage so its lovely for my children to have a lot of 'each other' iykwim!
go for it!

You can always taling to LG&T (Largeginandtonic) on the waiting ttc thread. She has 6dc and is waiting ttc dc7 later this year!!! You are by no means the only one.

i would have loads of children if our finances were to allow it!

i say go for it!
sod what others think!