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hereforthefood · 2022-11-15T15:05:07+00:00

So I'm on the combined pill and have been for a few months now. I was visiting family with my bf over the weekend and spent Friday and Saturday getting very drunk and staying up until 5am both nights. I had unprotected sex leading up to, and including, Friday and Saturday. Now I usually take my pill just before bed so, as you can probably imagine, I ended up forgetting to take it on those days. When I realised on Sunday I didn't take either Friday or Saturday's pill, I just took Sunday's and made a mental note to keep an eye on things just in case. The two pills I missed were in the last week of my pack, I believe I had about 4 days left until I was meant to take a break. I don't usually take breaks (once every 3 months, any longer and I start getting breakthrough bleeding mid-pack), but this month does happen to be break month. I've now encountered some unfortunate circumstances; I have left the rest of my pills at my bf's house and neither of us are able to go get them for a number of days, I don't have any more pill packets to hand, and I am unable to get anymore until I have an appointment with a doctor (recently moved, no current GP and impossible to go to a walk-in clinic). All this to say, I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events. I wouldn't consider myself super fertile (have missed loads of pills in past years and never gotten pregnant, plus I have suspected PCOS) but I'm worried that having this break so soon after missing 2 pills in a row and potentially not having any to start taking come the end of my break may stir my ovaries into unwanted action. Anybody got any advice they can give me?

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:21

What sort of advice are you looking for?

Short of locating a working time machine and going back and taking the missed pills, or buying some condoms for emergencies, there’s nothing you can do, but sit and wait?

I’m honestly not sure what you’re expecting people to come up with.

Moving forward - take your pill in the morning instead of the evening, and keep some condoms in your wallet or handbag.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:14

Suprima · 15/11/2022 17:05

You’re not really acting like someone who doesn’t really
want to get pregnant if you have missed pills loads before + the situation you are describing.

’jfc’ all you want- if you miss a pill, there is a danger your hormone levels may plummet and you may ovulate. And if there is sperm hanging around, a potential pregnancy. We don’t have a webcam in to your womb so no idea on the ‘likelihood’. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t on the mini pill- plenty of women have become pregnant doing exactly what you describe on the combined pill.

I don’t like long acting contraception either, I’d be asking my boyfriend to use condoms if I was so forgetful.

By "missed loads of pills" I mean since the age of 14 when I started taking them, I have indeed, missed loads. This means the occasional one here and there, or 3 in a row with my previous partner, nothing ever happened. With my current partner I have not missed them since being back on them, once again, this was an unfortunate mistake, not a deliberate attempt at getting pregnant.

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Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 17:14

It seems strange to come on a forum like MN (Well knowing what some of the replies may be like) then get super sensitive, defensive and rude to people who suggest very real solutions to your situation.
If you didn't want a opinions from a cross-section of the population, why couldn't you have simply phoned non-energency medical advice or attend a GUM clinic and get correct, definitive medical advice?
Saying abstinence is not an option for you sounds bloody ridiculous and childish - unless you are being forced or coerced into having unprotected sex. And waiting to have a discussion about using condoms with OH makes it sound like it's his decision only. If he says no to putting one on, you simply say no to putting out. Simple.
Unless of course pps are correct and you are desperately trying to get pregnant and using this as an excuse not to use contraception

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 17:14

Then you need better contraception than the pill you can't be trusted to take as instructed.

This is a disaster waiting to happen and you sound way too blase about the possibilities...

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:11

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 16:54

Is this the same bf you were trying to conceive with in late 2021/early 2022?

If you want a pregancy you need to be honest with your partner.

This all sounds way fishy

Not fishy at all! Previous partner and I broke up spring 2022, I started seeing my new bf pretty much straight away, went straight back on the pill, and we've been officially together for 3 months now.

I have not said that I want a pregnancy right now. The reason I wouldn't mind being pregnant is because I love children and have always wanted to be a mum. I'm at an age now where it isn't totally shocking to get pregnant and I have a well paying job.

HOWEVER, that doesn't mean I am in a position to have a baby yet, obviously with the fairly new relationship and us both living with housemates, it's not even close to ideal, hence why I'm on the pill and am worried about a potential pregnancy.

There is nothing to "be honest" about yet, I messed up with the pill but it certainly wasn't on purpose, I haven't even known my bf a year, I'm not about to secretly entrap him into having kids with me.

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Suprima · 15/11/2022 17:05

You’re not really acting like someone who doesn’t really
want to get pregnant if you have missed pills loads before + the situation you are describing.

’jfc’ all you want- if you miss a pill, there is a danger your hormone levels may plummet and you may ovulate. And if there is sperm hanging around, a potential pregnancy. We don’t have a webcam in to your womb so no idea on the ‘likelihood’. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t on the mini pill- plenty of women have become pregnant doing exactly what you describe on the combined pill.

I don’t like long acting contraception either, I’d be asking my boyfriend to use condoms if I was so forgetful.

username8888 · 15/11/2022 16:58

Rather than speculating get the MAP So much simpler

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 16:54

Is this the same bf you were trying to conceive with in late 2021/early 2022?

If you want a pregancy you need to be honest with your partner.

This all sounds way fishy

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 16:45

Itaintwhatyoudoitsthewaythatyoudoit · 15/11/2022 16:28

I don’t understand why you are continuing to have unprotected sex.

You say you wouldn’t mind if you were pregnant. How does your boyfriend feel about this? I guess he’s ok with the idea too when you told him you are now not taking the pill and you are both still having unprotected sex?

I literally took my pill last night and was planning to take it for another 2 days before I realised I left them at his house, I haven't suddenly decided to stop taking it to trick him into getting me pregnant. I've continued to have unprotected sex since missing the pills bc that's what we've always done, like I said previously, I've missed pills before and been fine, it stands to reason that I will continue to be fine, however this early break has scared me a bit, hence why I asked for advice.

I will talk to him about using condoms tonight when I see him.

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Itaintwhatyoudoitsthewaythatyoudoit · 15/11/2022 16:28

I don’t understand why you are continuing to have unprotected sex.

You say you wouldn’t mind if you were pregnant. How does your boyfriend feel about this? I guess he’s ok with the idea too when you told him you are now not taking the pill and you are both still having unprotected sex?

FireworkFluster · 15/11/2022 16:24

I'm not sure what different advice you were hoping to get. You asked what the likelihood of pregnancy is. It's high, if you have no fertility issues. Posters suggesting abstinence or condoms instead of continuing to have unprotected sex are just being pragmatic.

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 16:20

hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:14

I did consider this but was hoping to avoid the map, the hormones do weird things to my body

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Wait till you hear about pregnancy hormones lol

Sorry... missing one pill is generally fine. But two in a row plus starting the break early puts you quite dangerous waters.

Fingers crossed it turns out alright. But of you're so bad with the pill please consider a form of contraception that is less prone to human error

TwoRockSalmonAndAHaporthOfChips · 15/11/2022 16:10

hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 16:00

Right, I'm sorry for lashing out. Was just expecting slightly different advice, abstinence honestly is laughable to me. I'd literally rather get pregnant lol!

On the other hand, I am going to buy some condoms tonight after someone explained what I should be doing having missed pills and being unable to skip my break.

Again, sorry for being rude, this is apparently a sensitive topic for me

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Apology accepted! The condoms are your answer until you know you’re in the clear. I’d recommend you always keep a couple in your wash bag in case of unforeseen circumstances 😁

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 16:00

TwoRockSalmonAndAHaporthOfChips · 15/11/2022 15:49

No agenda here! that’s a very big stretch from a single comment. I’ve been in a position where I’ve had to take the MAP myself, and I volunteer at a charity where I help women access contraception, GUM and advice.

But you sounded like someone who understands how babies are made, and is using contraception (so not wanting to be pregnant) and yet still wants to carry on having unprotected sex, rather than do something about sorting some more contraception, or not having sex until you could, AND at the same time not getting pregnant. Which isn’t really possible.

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Right, I'm sorry for lashing out. Was just expecting slightly different advice, abstinence honestly is laughable to me. I'd literally rather get pregnant lol!

On the other hand, I am going to buy some condoms tonight after someone explained what I should be doing having missed pills and being unable to skip my break.

Again, sorry for being rude, this is apparently a sensitive topic for me

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:54

IceRink · 15/11/2022 15:46

Do you secretly hope to be pregnant?

Because the obvious answer for someone trying to avoid pregnancy would be to leg it to the shop to get the morning after pill and resolve to never, ever be so slack with contraception again.

jfc this isn't the mini pill where you can get pregnant from taking it 2 hours late! The combined pill has much more leeway, I've literally missed 3 pills in a row before and not got pregnant! I really wasn't worried in the slightest about it until I left my packet at home and am now forced into taking a longer break!

Idk when everyone got so judgy on this website but I'm quite surprised. I would've assumed that women from all walks of life would know that shit happens occasionally and there's no point judging bc literally anyone can make a mistake like this.

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PlainOldMe80 · 15/11/2022 15:50

@hereforthefood

Well that's a bit cr*p I assumed it would be for all over the UK

TwoRockSalmonAndAHaporthOfChips · 15/11/2022 15:49

hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:38

Advising abstinence to someone who is clearly already having regular sex isn't exactly good advice, so I elected to ignore it. Abstinence, for me, is neither "the right thing to do", nor "a lot more fun" than pregnancy.

I actually wouldn't mind being pregnant, but I'm not in the right position for that yet, however if it did end up that way then I wouldn't be mad about it at all.

So let me offer you some advice, if you're obviously just trying to push your own agenda and shame someone who is simply seeking help from women who may have already been in this situation, try telling yourself that they don't care, close your screen, and go take a walk outside.

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No agenda here! that’s a very big stretch from a single comment. I’ve been in a position where I’ve had to take the MAP myself, and I volunteer at a charity where I help women access contraception, GUM and advice.

But you sounded like someone who understands how babies are made, and is using contraception (so not wanting to be pregnant) and yet still wants to carry on having unprotected sex, rather than do something about sorting some more contraception, or not having sex until you could, AND at the same time not getting pregnant. Which isn’t really possible.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:48

Iguanainanigloo · 15/11/2022 15:42

It really just depends on if you ovulated during the time of the missed pills. It's unlikely, but not impossible. How long between taking the last pill, before you forgot the two, and then taking the next one? If more than 48hrs passed between the pills, chances of ovulation will have been alot higher. Remembering sperm can survive for up to 5 days too. If the pregnancy is definitely unwanted, I would suggest the morning after pill, although if you've already ovulated, then it would be pretty pointless anyway. Remember, the pill also thickens the mucus in the womb, and thins the lining to make pregnancy harder. Its probably unlikely to have resulted in pregnancy, but alot of women do report becoming pregnant on the pill, so obviously it does and can happen. Good luck op.

Yeah it doesn't seem likely to result in a pregnancy, and if I bleed during this break then I'll know I'm fine, was hoping someone on here had some mad medical knowledge that would put my mind to rest, although most people have been very helpful so far!

I took the thursday pill in the evening, around 10pm. I took Sunday's around midday when I was packing up from my parents and realised I'd forgotten to take the other two so it was definitely more than 48 hours. I'm hoping it'll result in nothing at all but I've had fairly constant, really low down cramps for the better part of the day which prompted me to make this post in the first place

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IceRink · 15/11/2022 15:46

Do you secretly hope to be pregnant?

Because the obvious answer for someone trying to avoid pregnancy would be to leg it to the shop to get the morning after pill and resolve to never, ever be so slack with contraception again.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:44

PlainOldMe80 · 15/11/2022 15:40

You can order the pill online, its part of the nhs.

sh24.org.uk/contraception#taken_daily

I've ordered mine from when I also wasn't registered with a gp due to moving house. I know that that is not the answer to your question but it might helpful.

Appreciate the link but they don't deliver to Manchester! Have tried using them last time I ran out and couldn't get a doc appointment, bit unfortunate really as that seems like a really useful service

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Iguanainanigloo · 15/11/2022 15:42

It really just depends on if you ovulated during the time of the missed pills. It's unlikely, but not impossible. How long between taking the last pill, before you forgot the two, and then taking the next one? If more than 48hrs passed between the pills, chances of ovulation will have been alot higher. Remembering sperm can survive for up to 5 days too. If the pregnancy is definitely unwanted, I would suggest the morning after pill, although if you've already ovulated, then it would be pretty pointless anyway. Remember, the pill also thickens the mucus in the womb, and thins the lining to make pregnancy harder. Its probably unlikely to have resulted in pregnancy, but alot of women do report becoming pregnant on the pill, so obviously it does and can happen. Good luck op.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:42

Bravedays · 15/11/2022 15:35

Why did you continue having unprotected sex?

I figured missing 2 days wasn't the end of the world, I've done it before and not had an issue, I'm only concerned bc I left my pill packet at home which is essentially forcing an even longer break I wasn't prepared for

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PlainOldMe80 · 15/11/2022 15:40

You can order the pill online, its part of the nhs.

sh24.org.uk/contraception#taken_daily

I've ordered mine from when I also wasn't registered with a gp due to moving house. I know that that is not the answer to your question but it might helpful.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:40

Sagittarius25 · 15/11/2022 15:33

@hereforthefood you're welcome. But please either learn what you need to do with pills/additional contraception if it happens again or just remember to google what you need to do immediately when you know you've missed one. Also as someone who used the pill for 11 years, I very much recommend a daily alarm on your phone as a reminder, even if it's just a silent vibrate alarm.

Yeah tbf, this was not my finest moment... I'll try setting an alarm but this is actually a rare occurrence as they're usually right next to my contact lenses case so I always remember to take them when I take out my contacts! Just an unfortunate circumstance all round

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:38

TwoRockSalmonAndAHaporthOfChips · 15/11/2022 15:27

It’s a lot more fun than an unplanned, unwanted pregnancy, and the 18 year + commitment that requires.

You’re presumably a grown up. Sometimes the right thing to do isn’t the fun thing. Carrying on with your metaphorical fingers in your metaphorical ears isn’t reliable contraception.

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Advising abstinence to someone who is clearly already having regular sex isn't exactly good advice, so I elected to ignore it. Abstinence, for me, is neither "the right thing to do", nor "a lot more fun" than pregnancy.

I actually wouldn't mind being pregnant, but I'm not in the right position for that yet, however if it did end up that way then I wouldn't be mad about it at all.

So let me offer you some advice, if you're obviously just trying to push your own agenda and shame someone who is simply seeking help from women who may have already been in this situation, try telling yourself that they don't care, close your screen, and go take a walk outside.

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