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Likelihood of accidentally getting pregnant from this?

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:05

So I'm on the combined pill and have been for a few months now.

I was visiting family with my bf over the weekend and spent Friday and Saturday getting very drunk and staying up until 5am both nights. I had unprotected sex leading up to, and including, Friday and Saturday.

Now I usually take my pill just before bed so, as you can probably imagine, I ended up forgetting to take it on those days. When I realised on Sunday I didn't take either Friday or Saturday's pill, I just took Sunday's and made a mental note to keep an eye on things just in case.

The two pills I missed were in the last week of my pack, I believe I had about 4 days left until I was meant to take a break. I don't usually take breaks (once every 3 months, any longer and I start getting breakthrough bleeding mid-pack), but this month does happen to be break month.

I've now encountered some unfortunate circumstances; I have left the rest of my pills at my bf's house and neither of us are able to go get them for a number of days, I don't have any more pill packets to hand, and I am unable to get anymore until I have an appointment with a doctor (recently moved, no current GP and impossible to go to a walk-in clinic).

All this to say, I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events.

I wouldn't consider myself super fertile (have missed loads of pills in past years and never gotten pregnant, plus I have suspected PCOS) but I'm worried that having this break so soon after missing 2 pills in a row and potentially not having any to start taking come the end of my break may stir my ovaries into unwanted action.

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:05

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 08:51

I have a track record of missing pills and not getting pregnant, why on earth would I start freaking out about it now?

lol, that's like saying you have a track record of running into traffic and not getting hit, so why would you start worrying about the possibility now?

The effect of missing pills depends on how many, where in the pack, the timing of unprotected sex. The fact you've been lucky so far absolutely does not mean it is safe practice. But hey, if you like playing Russian roulette with creating a human life, keep at it. You sound very immature.

I've been on the pill for the better part of 10 years and had multiple sexual partners in this time, some of them were long term relationships and we did not use condoms. I have missed pills all throughout this time and lo and fckn behold, did not become pregnant. I've missed them at the beginning, middle, and end of my cycle and nothing has ever happened, this isn't luck, it's a pattern and one I'm willing to bet will continue.

Just because I'm not completely freaking out doesn't mean I'm immature. I'm being sensible, there's no point worrying about something that in all likelihood, is not going to happen, it just causes unnecessary stress.

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Amychar · 16/11/2022 08:58

So I came off my depo injection last November and my periods are still a bit irregular some months are longer in between than other. I have been experiencing a bit of nausea and sore boots, so thought I would do a clear blue I can see a very faint line. Not sure if it's a really faint positive or the evap line so I did a digital and came back not pregnant. Just looking for advice or opinions as I'm a little confused.

Mischance · 16/11/2022 08:54

I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events. - condoms are your friend!

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 08:51

I have a track record of missing pills and not getting pregnant, why on earth would I start freaking out about it now?

lol, that's like saying you have a track record of running into traffic and not getting hit, so why would you start worrying about the possibility now?

The effect of missing pills depends on how many, where in the pack, the timing of unprotected sex. The fact you've been lucky so far absolutely does not mean it is safe practice. But hey, if you like playing Russian roulette with creating a human life, keep at it. You sound very immature.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 08:44

Tandora · 15/11/2022 21:06

OMG people on this thread are being SO rude!!! How misogynistic are people??

OP, you are v unlikely to get pregnant from missing a couple of pills. Of course it’s possible, but chances are low
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Thank you Tandora, I honestly don't know what's wrong with some people, unless their lives are absolutely perfect then they have no right to judge mine. Bringing up the fact that I was ntnp with my previous partner of 4 years to "prove" that I'm secretly desperate to be pregnant and will do anything, even trap my new partner, to get it. I mean really? I think they've been watching too many soaps.

On the bright side, I was able to source some more pills from my housemate last night (we both use the same pill) so everyone can chill tf out. I'm 100% sure I'll be fine now. Like everyone keeps handily forgetting when they have a go at me for not immediately getting the map the moment I missed a pill, I have a track record of missing pills and not getting pregnant, why on earth would I start freaking out about it now?

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Tandora · 15/11/2022 21:06

OMG people on this thread are being SO rude!!! How misogynistic are people??

OP, you are v unlikely to get pregnant from missing a couple of pills. Of course it’s possible, but chances are low
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NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 18:31

Agree - I would never rely on a partner to take a pill, even in a long-term relationship, I’d want to be in control of that for myself. If I genuinely didn’t want to be pregnant, it would make me far too anxious.

I think the male pill is a great solution for men who don’t want to be a parent, though.

It definitely allows them some control of their own, and is another option alongside condoms.

It honestly amazes me how cavalier some men - who definitely don’t want to be fathers - are about contraception, given they have zero say in whether there actually is a baby as a result of an unplanned / unexpected pregnancy.

That would make me so much more careful….

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 18:24

I said pros and cons, didn't mention side-effects or being concerned men would suffer them before everyone jumps on the bandwagon

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 18:22

Actually, I was thinking more of men (or ANYONE not just men) being responsible enough to be trusted to take the pill. I'd rather trust myself with that responsibility than someone else, especially in the early stages of a relationship. I'll take care of my own chances of getting pregnant or catching STD, and I was suggesting that everyone should do the same but perhaps worded it wrong

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 18:17

Side effects of a male pill…?

I mean, I would expect there to be. There are side effects of the female pill. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Meanwhile, condoms, condoms, condoms - that’s what I’ll be telling DS, and it doesn’t matter if any of his partners tell him she’s on the pill / other contraception. Great - that means she’s covered - at least from pregnancy.

He still needs to take his own steps to ensure he’s covered. And not just against pregnancy, but also STIs.

Honestly - the OP’s blasé - ‘oh, a pregnancy wouldn’t be the end of the world…’ ?! For her!

She needs to have an open, honest, transparent conversation with her partner. It may well be the ‘end of the world’ for him, so he needs to know that she’s not always taking the necessary steps.

lawofselfish · 15/11/2022 18:09

I've been on the pill for a 3rd of my life. Your turn, guys...

Agree. I'm sure many men would prefer to be in control of their contraception too. And yes condoms exist blah blah

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 18:06

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 18:00

@lawofselfish male pill should exist but there's pros and cons, like any medication. Although nothing, except abstinence of course, is 100% foolproof. Condoms are everyone's friend, against pregnancies and STD.

Time for males to share the burden of contraception side effects. Female BC is hardly perfect or safe for everyone, but we still do what we gotta do and put up with everything from mood swings to blood clots. So i really can't be bothered with the cons of a potential male pill.

I've been on the pill for a 3rd of my life. Your turn, guys...

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 18:00

@lawofselfish male pill should exist but there's pros and cons, like any medication. Although nothing, except abstinence of course, is 100% foolproof. Condoms are everyone's friend, against pregnancies and STD.

lawofselfish · 15/11/2022 17:55

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:24

What ‘advice’ do you want, though?

Yes, you may be pregnant. That’s not ‘advice’, though.

This is exactly why I will be telling my DS that his contraception is his responsibility, and that if he doesn’t want to be a father, he needs to take steps to avoid it - because who knows what his partner may or may not be doing….

I have two sons and I'm so worried about them being in situations like this. I'm hoping so badly for a male pill!

RandomMusings7 · 15/11/2022 17:41

Maybe also throw in that you were actively trying to have a baby with another man just a few months ago...

This silly broodiness will ruin your life if you keep doing what you're doing. You still have growing up to do before you're ready to be a parent.

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:38

Here's some advice then - let your partner / boyfriend know that you’re OK with an accidental pregnancy, and that you’re having unprotected sex (presumably he thinks you’re talking the pill as specified and not forgetting it, and is therefore naively trusting you) - so that he knows he needs to make his own arrangements, if he’s not open to an accidental pregnancy.

ToastAndJames · 15/11/2022 17:37

onlinedoctor.boots.com/contraceptive-pill

You can get the pill online from Boots and they definitely deliver to Manchester.

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 17:34

To clarify, the reason abstinence is not an option for me is because condoms exist, if I have to use them I will, which I will be.
But earlier you said you'd been having a lot of unprotected sex during the pill chaos, which would suggest you're not willing to use condoms and there genuinely open to becoming pregnant to someone you've only been dating for 3 months.
And I'd learn what 'presumption' means.
Finally, if you don't want people's opinions, advice, observations and questions don't post on a public form. Go see and medical profession and get proper medical advice. Or Google it!

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:32

hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:30

You are putting far too much emphasis on the word advice here. I had some questions, they have been answered, I have no more need for this thread or its comments. Goodbye.

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The final word of your OP:

”Anybody got any advice they can give me?”

username8888 · 15/11/2022 17:30

I think unconsciously you do want to get pregnant. If not why didn't you get the MAP the following day when you sober up, and then use condoms. One mistake is understandable and rectifiable but to continue having unprotected sex throughout is not.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:30

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:24

What ‘advice’ do you want, though?

Yes, you may be pregnant. That’s not ‘advice’, though.

This is exactly why I will be telling my DS that his contraception is his responsibility, and that if he doesn’t want to be a father, he needs to take steps to avoid it - because who knows what his partner may or may not be doing….

You are putting far too much emphasis on the word advice here. I had some questions, they have been answered, I have no more need for this thread or its comments. Goodbye.

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NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:24

What ‘advice’ do you want, though?

Yes, you may be pregnant. That’s not ‘advice’, though.

This is exactly why I will be telling my DS that his contraception is his responsibility, and that if he doesn’t want to be a father, he needs to take steps to avoid it - because who knows what his partner may or may not be doing….

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:24

NurseBernard · 15/11/2022 17:21

What sort of advice are you looking for?

Short of locating a working time machine and going back and taking the missed pills, or buying some condoms for emergencies, there’s nothing you can do, but sit and wait?

I’m honestly not sure what you’re expecting people to come up with.

Moving forward - take your pill in the morning instead of the evening, and keep some condoms in your wallet or handbag.

I came here hoping for some simple answers to my questions and ending the convo with a "thanks, I'll be more careful next time!" Not everyone accusing me of deliberately trying to get pregnant or being coerced into unprotected sex. I mean really??? The leaps y'all are making are acc madness!!

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PottyDottyDotPot · 15/11/2022 17:23

Get the morning after pill.

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 17:21

Dontbelieveawordofit · 15/11/2022 17:14

It seems strange to come on a forum like MN (Well knowing what some of the replies may be like) then get super sensitive, defensive and rude to people who suggest very real solutions to your situation.
If you didn't want a opinions from a cross-section of the population, why couldn't you have simply phoned non-energency medical advice or attend a GUM clinic and get correct, definitive medical advice?
Saying abstinence is not an option for you sounds bloody ridiculous and childish - unless you are being forced or coerced into having unprotected sex. And waiting to have a discussion about using condoms with OH makes it sound like it's his decision only. If he says no to putting one on, you simply say no to putting out. Simple.
Unless of course pps are correct and you are desperately trying to get pregnant and using this as an excuse not to use contraception

To clarify, the reason abstinence is not an option for me is because condoms exist, if I have to use them I will, which I will be. I simply wanted to know how serious this was as if it wasn't absolutely necessary to use condoms, I wouldn't as neither of us particularly like them.

The rest of your comments are highly presumptuous and I really don't appreciate them at all. I am not being coerced into unprotected sex and the idea I'm desperately trying to get pregnant is laughable. Why would I post on here asking for advice when I could simply not do that and secretly get pregnant without half of mm having a go at me for being irresponsible? Seems counterintuitive.

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