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Likelihood of accidentally getting pregnant from this?

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:05

So I'm on the combined pill and have been for a few months now.

I was visiting family with my bf over the weekend and spent Friday and Saturday getting very drunk and staying up until 5am both nights. I had unprotected sex leading up to, and including, Friday and Saturday.

Now I usually take my pill just before bed so, as you can probably imagine, I ended up forgetting to take it on those days. When I realised on Sunday I didn't take either Friday or Saturday's pill, I just took Sunday's and made a mental note to keep an eye on things just in case.

The two pills I missed were in the last week of my pack, I believe I had about 4 days left until I was meant to take a break. I don't usually take breaks (once every 3 months, any longer and I start getting breakthrough bleeding mid-pack), but this month does happen to be break month.

I've now encountered some unfortunate circumstances; I have left the rest of my pills at my bf's house and neither of us are able to go get them for a number of days, I don't have any more pill packets to hand, and I am unable to get anymore until I have an appointment with a doctor (recently moved, no current GP and impossible to go to a walk-in clinic).

All this to say, I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events.

I wouldn't consider myself super fertile (have missed loads of pills in past years and never gotten pregnant, plus I have suspected PCOS) but I'm worried that having this break so soon after missing 2 pills in a row and potentially not having any to start taking come the end of my break may stir my ovaries into unwanted action.

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

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Bettyboop3 · 16/11/2022 09:59

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:58

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Sounds like a bloody idiot to me.

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:59

Tandora · 16/11/2022 09:45

@2greenroses your posts are reeking of misogyny and totally unnecessary.
You have no insight into whether or not OP wants to get pregnant, or how her partner feels, and you have absolutely no business commenting on it. OP posted asking for opinions/ advice on the likelihood that missing a couple of pills could result in pregnancy. Answer is it’s possible, but unlikely. End of. No need for your horrible comments/ judgement.

The OP is having unprotected sex, and responds to the suggestion of abstinence to avoid pregnancy as it it were beneath her.

a) She is more concerned about her own personal immediate gratification than whether she launches another unwanted human being into the world,

b) She is not in a position to say no to sex

c) She is hoping to get pregnant

Which do you think/hope it is?

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:58

Liorae · 16/11/2022 09:50

You sound more hopeful than worried to me.

HA

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IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 16/11/2022 09:58

OP my conclusion that if you miss pills and continue to have unprotected sex and don't take the MAP, you must want to get pregnant, was a charitable conclusion.
The only alternative conclusion is that you are highly irresponsible, selfish and immature.
Just because you haven't got pregnant in the past from such behaviour does not mean you will never get pregnant now or in the future from the same behaviour.

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 09:58

Liorae · 16/11/2022 09:50

You sound more hopeful than worried to me.

Oh she absolutely is. At least subconsciously. The lady doth protest too much when anyone points this out.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:57

fjäl · 16/11/2022 09:47

Why have you asked for advice OP? You're already convinced you know everything there is to know about the female reproductive system. Much more than anyone who has bothered to give you any advice. You've chosen to argue with people giving you sound advice and behave more and more petulant with every reply.

If you are having sex, you can get pregnant. Regardless of any contraception you're taking/using or have missed. Or however many times you missed it in the past. It really does not matter what happened previous times you missed pills. No contraception is 100% fail safe including the pill. Pumping your body with drugs and then stopping randomly can 100% bring on early ovulation. You'd do well to do some research about the drugs you're putting in your body daily and the effects they can have on your hormones, incase anything like this ever happens again.

I asked for advice about the pill, not about my personal reproductive system, which obviously you know nothing about, so I don't see why everyone feels the need to comment on it. I've been perfectly reasonable to people who have given me actual advice instead of throwing around baseless claims and ganging up on someone who doesn't fit into the perfect little category of women you all must clearly be to act so high and mighty.

I am fully aware you can get pregnant, even if you take the pill perfectly. With this in mind, pregnancy is always a possibility and I've made my peace with it. I suggest everyone else does the same.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:51

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 09:41

A 7 day break is only safe if you've taken the 21 pills consistently because the level of the hormones in your body builds up over that period and it takes a while for them to drop to a low enough level to trigger ovulation. Longer than 7 days. If you've only taken a few pills since the last break, it's going to take much less time to ovulate once you stop taking them.

That's why missing pills is more problematic if it happens in the first days of a new pack.

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I wouldn't really consider a 2 day gap a proper break but I see what you mean. I may just continue taking the pill and not have a break

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Tandora · 16/11/2022 09:50

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 09:44

It's really not misogynistic to expect women to take accountability for their reproductive choices and not leave pregancy up to chance when circumstances are not right for a baby.

It’s incredibly misogynistic to invent a narrative that a woman is trying to covertly trap a man into getting pregnant and start having a go at her, when all she was doing was asking for some judgement free advice about her contraceptive pill.
honestly I am raging.

Liorae · 16/11/2022 09:50

You sound more hopeful than worried to me.

fjäl · 16/11/2022 09:47

Why have you asked for advice OP? You're already convinced you know everything there is to know about the female reproductive system. Much more than anyone who has bothered to give you any advice. You've chosen to argue with people giving you sound advice and behave more and more petulant with every reply.

If you are having sex, you can get pregnant. Regardless of any contraception you're taking/using or have missed. Or however many times you missed it in the past. It really does not matter what happened previous times you missed pills. No contraception is 100% fail safe including the pill. Pumping your body with drugs and then stopping randomly can 100% bring on early ovulation. You'd do well to do some research about the drugs you're putting in your body daily and the effects they can have on your hormones, incase anything like this ever happens again.

Tandora · 16/11/2022 09:45

@2greenroses your posts are reeking of misogyny and totally unnecessary.
You have no insight into whether or not OP wants to get pregnant, or how her partner feels, and you have absolutely no business commenting on it. OP posted asking for opinions/ advice on the likelihood that missing a couple of pills could result in pregnancy. Answer is it’s possible, but unlikely. End of. No need for your horrible comments/ judgement.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:45

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:30

so why are you here?

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Bc at the time of posting, I didn't have spare pills and was worried a break so close to missing 2 pills would be too much and the risk would be quite a bit higher than normal. Obviously I was ovulating during my time not on the pill so there was always a chance I could've gotten pregnant. However missing a couple of pills out of a whole cycle does not worry me at all. I came here to give that update and leave, however I keep getting damn emails off you people replying to this post and having a go at me or accusing me of being abused. You lot need a hobby besides mn bc it doesn't seem healthy to spend so much time and effort trying to convince someone you don't know that they secretly want to be pregnant.

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RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 09:44

It's really not misogynistic to expect women to take accountability for their reproductive choices and not leave pregancy up to chance when circumstances are not right for a baby.

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 09:41

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:22

But then how does the 7 day break work? If you can get pregnant the day after stopping your pill then surely having a 7 day break between packs is actually quite risky? idk but I'll be having a break soon and if I bleed then I won't have to wonder anymore!

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A 7 day break is only safe if you've taken the 21 pills consistently because the level of the hormones in your body builds up over that period and it takes a while for them to drop to a low enough level to trigger ovulation. Longer than 7 days. If you've only taken a few pills since the last break, it's going to take much less time to ovulate once you stop taking them.

That's why missing pills is more problematic if it happens in the first days of a new pack.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:40

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:29

Well, from your posts, you really don't care if you get pregnant or not.

Unless abstinence is not under your control, are you in a bad situation?

Because I am a teacher, and have seen the fallout when careless, disinterested parents produce children without being bothered one way or another whether they were born or not, and the trauma for the children and the cost for society reverberates for decades. And yes, abstinence is a perfectly legitimate, proportional and sensible suggestion to avoid that situation. We cant always have what we want, when we want it, and any adult should understand that.

So excuse me if I feel the offhand disregard you are showing is extremely selfish. From where I sit it either that, or you or under coercion, or you actually want to get pregnant

And I hope for everyone's sake, its actually the last

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Oh get over yourself. You know you're making ginormous leaps in conclusions here.

"You missed a couple of pills and aren't tearing your hair out at the thought of being pregnant so you're either secretly desperate to have a baby by any means possible or your bf is abusing you"🙄Really? Those are my only two options? Come tf on.

In the highly unlikely event I end up pregnant from missing a couple of pills (oh no! the horror! I'm such a selfish person for having fun with my family and forgetting to take them! I clearly planned all this bc I'm a witch of a woman!) my bf and I will have a serious conversation on the outcome of the situation. There are other routes we could take and they will be considered.

HOWEVER, I find it incredibly disgusting, of a teacher no less, to jump to outlandish conclusions that if I were to have a baby, I wouldn't care about it. How dare you sit behind your screen and make vile claims like I'd give my child trauma from not loving it, all because I'm not either jumping for joy or absolutely terrified of the idea of getting pregnant. I can not believe someone so misogynistic and judgemental is actually teaching kids these days.

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2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:30

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:29

And apparently you people can read about one tiny aspect of my life and be confident you know what I want.🙄

I don't want to be pregnant. Funnily enough, I didn't the previous times I've missed pills and continued having unprotected sex. And when I wasn't, I felt absolutely nothing bc I knew I wouldn't be anyway.

Every body is different, they each respond differently to the pill. Some are super fertile and missing one pill can get them pregnant. I spent a year off the pill having unprotected sex and didn't get pregnant. I know my body faaarrr better than you ever will. So sure, maybe if YOU missed a pill you'd need the map. But I know I don't need it. I struggled to get pregnant without the damn thing, on it my body doesn't stand a chance.

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so why are you here?

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:29

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:21

Oh yes, and because some rando on the internet says I want to be pregnant, that must mean I do bc clearly 2greenroses is an expert on my life🙄

I am fully aware what causes pregnancy. A couple of missed pills, especially in my case, does not.

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Well, from your posts, you really don't care if you get pregnant or not.

Unless abstinence is not under your control, are you in a bad situation?

Because I am a teacher, and have seen the fallout when careless, disinterested parents produce children without being bothered one way or another whether they were born or not, and the trauma for the children and the cost for society reverberates for decades. And yes, abstinence is a perfectly legitimate, proportional and sensible suggestion to avoid that situation. We cant always have what we want, when we want it, and any adult should understand that.

So excuse me if I feel the offhand disregard you are showing is extremely selfish. From where I sit it either that, or you or under coercion, or you actually want to get pregnant

And I hope for everyone's sake, its actually the last

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:29

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 16/11/2022 09:21

You didn't use the contraceptive pill correctly, and you continued to have unprotected sex (and didn't use the MAP) - so yes of course you could be pregnant OP, you know how it works.
Given the above, you seem to want to be pregnant. Great, as long as your partner is aware and on board with this.

And apparently you people can read about one tiny aspect of my life and be confident you know what I want.🙄

I don't want to be pregnant. Funnily enough, I didn't the previous times I've missed pills and continued having unprotected sex. And when I wasn't, I felt absolutely nothing bc I knew I wouldn't be anyway.

Every body is different, they each respond differently to the pill. Some are super fertile and missing one pill can get them pregnant. I spent a year off the pill having unprotected sex and didn't get pregnant. I know my body faaarrr better than you ever will. So sure, maybe if YOU missed a pill you'd need the map. But I know I don't need it. I struggled to get pregnant without the damn thing, on it my body doesn't stand a chance.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:22

tealandteal · 16/11/2022 09:17

When I came off the pill, the GP said you can get pregnant 24 hours after coming off. I also have an irregular cycle and conceived before having a period with my first. So it is possible, and unless you take a test you will keep wondering I think.

But then how does the 7 day break work? If you can get pregnant the day after stopping your pill then surely having a 7 day break between packs is actually quite risky? idk but I'll be having a break soon and if I bleed then I won't have to wonder anymore!

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IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 16/11/2022 09:21

You didn't use the contraceptive pill correctly, and you continued to have unprotected sex (and didn't use the MAP) - so yes of course you could be pregnant OP, you know how it works.
Given the above, you seem to want to be pregnant. Great, as long as your partner is aware and on board with this.

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:21

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:12

I disagree that the OP is someone who does not want to be pregnant.

The OP knows what causes pregnancy, and keeps doing it

The OP, if she is pregnant, would not be able to claim this was "accidental" or "unplanned"

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Oh yes, and because some rando on the internet says I want to be pregnant, that must mean I do bc clearly 2greenroses is an expert on my life🙄

I am fully aware what causes pregnancy. A couple of missed pills, especially in my case, does not.

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tealandteal · 16/11/2022 09:17

When I came off the pill, the GP said you can get pregnant 24 hours after coming off. I also have an irregular cycle and conceived before having a period with my first. So it is possible, and unless you take a test you will keep wondering I think.

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:12

TwoRockSalmonAndAHaporthOfChips · 15/11/2022 15:49

No agenda here! that’s a very big stretch from a single comment. I’ve been in a position where I’ve had to take the MAP myself, and I volunteer at a charity where I help women access contraception, GUM and advice.

But you sounded like someone who understands how babies are made, and is using contraception (so not wanting to be pregnant) and yet still wants to carry on having unprotected sex, rather than do something about sorting some more contraception, or not having sex until you could, AND at the same time not getting pregnant. Which isn’t really possible.

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I disagree that the OP is someone who does not want to be pregnant.

The OP knows what causes pregnancy, and keeps doing it

The OP, if she is pregnant, would not be able to claim this was "accidental" or "unplanned"

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:09

You were hoping "someone with medical knowledge could put your mind at rest"?

You were hoping someone would tell you unprotected sex does not lead to pregnancy?

What species are you?

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 09:06

Amychar · 16/11/2022 08:58

So I came off my depo injection last November and my periods are still a bit irregular some months are longer in between than other. I have been experiencing a bit of nausea and sore boots, so thought I would do a clear blue I can see a very faint line. Not sure if it's a really faint positive or the evap line so I did a digital and came back not pregnant. Just looking for advice or opinions as I'm a little confused.

looks too faint to be a definitive positive, it could very well be an evap line. Maybe test again in a couple of days and if the line's darker then you have your answer!

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