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Likelihood of accidentally getting pregnant from this?

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hereforthefood · 15/11/2022 15:05

So I'm on the combined pill and have been for a few months now.

I was visiting family with my bf over the weekend and spent Friday and Saturday getting very drunk and staying up until 5am both nights. I had unprotected sex leading up to, and including, Friday and Saturday.

Now I usually take my pill just before bed so, as you can probably imagine, I ended up forgetting to take it on those days. When I realised on Sunday I didn't take either Friday or Saturday's pill, I just took Sunday's and made a mental note to keep an eye on things just in case.

The two pills I missed were in the last week of my pack, I believe I had about 4 days left until I was meant to take a break. I don't usually take breaks (once every 3 months, any longer and I start getting breakthrough bleeding mid-pack), but this month does happen to be break month.

I've now encountered some unfortunate circumstances; I have left the rest of my pills at my bf's house and neither of us are able to go get them for a number of days, I don't have any more pill packets to hand, and I am unable to get anymore until I have an appointment with a doctor (recently moved, no current GP and impossible to go to a walk-in clinic).

All this to say, I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events.

I wouldn't consider myself super fertile (have missed loads of pills in past years and never gotten pregnant, plus I have suspected PCOS) but I'm worried that having this break so soon after missing 2 pills in a row and potentially not having any to start taking come the end of my break may stir my ovaries into unwanted action.

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

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HerReputationMadeItDifficultToProceed · 16/11/2022 19:58

Can you get a Mirena Coil fitted at a local GUM clinic? Would help this situation and mean you didn't have to remember to take a pill in future. I had one for five years before I had kids and it worked well for me. Hurt going in but wasn't so bad as to be worse than an unwanted pregnancy.

Tandora · 16/11/2022 19:53

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 19:25

And you are basically saying no man should ever trust a women to tell the truth when it comes to contraception. His default position should be to assume she’s inept, at best; lying, at worst.

Um no

Tandora · 16/11/2022 19:51

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 19:23

Haven’t you got anything better to do, @Tandora ?!

This is a public forum - the OP has sought opinions. You’re giving yours, everyone else is giving theirs. The OP has asked - just FYI as a quick reminder for you.

Quite why she has posted - I have no idea, as it’s seemingly impossible for her to get pregnant from a few missed pills. Why be so bothered to ask, if she can’t possibly be pregnant?

N.B. The most obvious answer to this is that she knows full well there’s a chance she could be pregnant.

And yes, I’m absolutely judging her for allowing her partner to trust her when she says she has the contraception covered.

And go back to the beginning of the thread where I said this is exactly why I’ll be telling my DS to always be 100% in control of his own contraception - because clearly there’s a significant cohort of women who cannot be trusted. And if he doesn’t want to be a father, that’s on him.

yes I do have much better things to do, but thought it was worth stepping in and being a voice opposing some deeply misogynistic bullying.

OP didn’t ask for opinions on whether she was manipulating/ deceiving her boyfriend. She asked a simple question about the likelihood of pregnancy given some missed pills. The vast majority of “opinions” on this thread were completely unsolicited/ uncalled for.

I’m glad to hear you are teaching your DS he is responsible for his own reproductive choices (should be obvious but sadly doesn’t seem to be) although I’m sorry/ disturbed to hear your message is cloaked in a misogynist narrative about how “a significant cohort of women can’t be trusted”.

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 19:25

And you are basically saying no man should ever trust a women to tell the truth when it comes to contraception. His default position should be to assume she’s inept, at best; lying, at worst.

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 19:23

Haven’t you got anything better to do, @Tandora ?!

This is a public forum - the OP has sought opinions. You’re giving yours, everyone else is giving theirs. The OP has asked - just FYI as a quick reminder for you.

Quite why she has posted - I have no idea, as it’s seemingly impossible for her to get pregnant from a few missed pills. Why be so bothered to ask, if she can’t possibly be pregnant?

N.B. The most obvious answer to this is that she knows full well there’s a chance she could be pregnant.

And yes, I’m absolutely judging her for allowing her partner to trust her when she says she has the contraception covered.

And go back to the beginning of the thread where I said this is exactly why I’ll be telling my DS to always be 100% in control of his own contraception - because clearly there’s a significant cohort of women who cannot be trusted. And if he doesn’t want to be a father, that’s on him.

Tandora · 16/11/2022 19:12

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 14:53

So you’ve explained to him that you’re not using your contraception adequately? That you’re routinely missing pills and running the risk of pregnancy?

You’ve been open, honest and transparent with him about something you’re doing that could have life-changing consequences?

Is he currently trusting you to take the pill properly?

Or are you just keeping nice and quiet and only planning to tell him if/when you get pregnant?

Literally none of your business what OP and her partner have discussed regarding pregnancy or anything else.

Are you a male rights activist? Here to defend all those unsuspecting, helpless male victims out there from the manipulative women in their lives trying to entrap them into having a baby. Surely you have something better to do with your time.

I’m sure OP’s partner is more than capable of managing his own life , without your benevolent assistance. (For example he could consider wearing a condom).

Tandora · 16/11/2022 19:00

Dontbelieveawordofit · 16/11/2022 09:59

But the OP clearly states that she wouldn't mind being pregnant but has only been dating new BF for three months. Doesn't sound like a discussion has been had between in which he's stated he'd be open to a pregnancy. Does he even know that he's been having 'lots of unprotected sex' since she forgot to take contraception or take MAP? Although, of course, he's an adult who should be taking responsibility for his own actions and should be wearing condoms anyway. So early in a relationship, I would not be trusting a virtual stranger who says they are taking precautions.
And OP, if you want to stop people commenting on your thread, having opinions etc, I'd suggest you ask for it to be taken down instead of being downright rude and defensive to everyone who has bothered to try give you sound (obvious) advice.

Again- Absolutely no need for this at all. OP and her partners reproductive choices have nothing to do with you and no one asked for your unpleasant opinion.
OP asked whether she could get pregnant from missing a couple of pills.

Tandora · 16/11/2022 18:57

2greenroses · 16/11/2022 09:59

The OP is having unprotected sex, and responds to the suggestion of abstinence to avoid pregnancy as it it were beneath her.

a) She is more concerned about her own personal immediate gratification than whether she launches another unwanted human being into the world,

b) She is not in a position to say no to sex

c) She is hoping to get pregnant

Which do you think/hope it is?

Again no need for
your horrible judgement/ analysis.

Liorae · 16/11/2022 15:49

I actually wouldn't mind being pregnant
Yes. That's pretty obvious.

IWillBeWaxingAnOwl · 16/11/2022 14:59

Just to let you know @hereforthefood in case it's not clear

  1. I'm glad you have more pills but you still need to use condoms for 7 more days so the levels of the hormones have time to build up in your body
  2. a bleed after stopping pills doesn't mean you aren't pregnant, it's created by a drop in the hormones of the combined pill eg a fake period not a real one.

I'd recommend: take the pills religiously from now, use condoms for the next week, test in 2 weeks to ensure you aren't pregnant

NurseBernard · 16/11/2022 14:53

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:10

I appreciate your kindness. Of course I don't want to trap my partner! If and when we have children it won't be because I've forced him into it x

So you’ve explained to him that you’re not using your contraception adequately? That you’re routinely missing pills and running the risk of pregnancy?

You’ve been open, honest and transparent with him about something you’re doing that could have life-changing consequences?

Is he currently trusting you to take the pill properly?

Or are you just keeping nice and quiet and only planning to tell him if/when you get pregnant?

borntobequiet · 16/11/2022 10:48

Anybody got any advice they can give me?

Grow up.

UndisclosedBlackPudding · 16/11/2022 10:42

OP I think what lots of people are trying to say is that this 'I'm sure it'll be fine' is just an attitude of optimism, or optimism bias. It might be fine. Equally, it might not be fine. Your optimism doesn't actually predict the outcome, but it does make you more likely to go on being a bit careless. People are merely trying to say maybe that's not such a great idea.

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:14

Katela18 · 16/11/2022 10:09

OP I missed ONE dose of the combined pill, my daughter is about to turn 3 😅

So yes, maybe just keep an eye, and either get more pills or use condoms for now. It's unlikely but of course can and does happen!

Oh wow! That's crazy! congrats on your daughter though! I'll keep an eye on things but I do now have condoms to use and new pills so I'm sure it'll be fine

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:13

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 16/11/2022 10:08

But it's not just "missing 2 pills" - it's (from first post): "I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events."

yeah but if you read any of my replies from today you'll know I have managed to get access to more pills until I can get some from a doctor or that superdrug link above (thank you for that @molly1995 ) so this negates your point

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hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:10

Emmamoo89 · 16/11/2022 10:03

Ignore the judgey aholes! Appears to be loads of them on here. I've had to deal with a few 🙄

From reading this you don't sound at all that you want to trap your partner with pregnancy. Just wanting honest non judgemental advice. I think you'll be fine from missing 2 pills. Hope you're okay x

I appreciate your kindness. Of course I don't want to trap my partner! If and when we have children it won't be because I've forced him into it x

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Katela18 · 16/11/2022 10:09

OP I missed ONE dose of the combined pill, my daughter is about to turn 3 😅

So yes, maybe just keep an eye, and either get more pills or use condoms for now. It's unlikely but of course can and does happen!

IDidntKnowItWasAParty · 16/11/2022 10:08

But it's not just "missing 2 pills" - it's (from first post): "I missed 2 days of my pill, took 2 days as normal, and am now effectively taking my 7 day break 2 days early as I can't get ahold of any more at this moment. I have also been having very regular, unprotected sex consistently throughout this whole chain of events."

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:07

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 10:01

And if you read her other threads it becomes quite obvious she is desperate for a baby.

First of all, I realise from some new posts that we have been defining unprotected differently. I define it as no condom, but with the pill. I realise that was stupid not to clarify that, but that is how it's gone. You have been defining it as no pill, no condom. I am still on the pill, but I do not use condoms.

Abstinence isn't an option bc I can quite easily use condoms. If the advice was to use condoms, I would use them. But abstinence ain't gonna happen, we both enjoy sex too much.

Secondly, again, you are bringing up a past relationship that doesn't apply to this situation. I wanted a baby WITH HIM. He is no longer in the picture, so I no longer want a baby. I literally don't see how I can make this clearer.

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molly1995 · 16/11/2022 10:06

molly1995 · 16/11/2022 10:05

You can buy the pill from Superdrug doctor, possibly other similar services.

https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/?gbraid=0AAAAADrzrcfiga3hTpFJS04AGfEhFjrk&gbraid=0AAAAADrzrcfiga3hTpFJSS04AGfEhFjrk&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIzOyN77my-wIVEuztCh0aFQoKEAAYAiAAEgIWVPDBwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

molly1995 · 16/11/2022 10:05

You can buy the pill from Superdrug doctor, possibly other similar services.

Emmamoo89 · 16/11/2022 10:03

Ignore the judgey aholes! Appears to be loads of them on here. I've had to deal with a few 🙄

From reading this you don't sound at all that you want to trap your partner with pregnancy. Just wanting honest non judgemental advice. I think you'll be fine from missing 2 pills. Hope you're okay x

RandomMusings7 · 16/11/2022 10:01

Dontbelieveawordofit · 16/11/2022 09:59

But the OP clearly states that she wouldn't mind being pregnant but has only been dating new BF for three months. Doesn't sound like a discussion has been had between in which he's stated he'd be open to a pregnancy. Does he even know that he's been having 'lots of unprotected sex' since she forgot to take contraception or take MAP? Although, of course, he's an adult who should be taking responsibility for his own actions and should be wearing condoms anyway. So early in a relationship, I would not be trusting a virtual stranger who says they are taking precautions.
And OP, if you want to stop people commenting on your thread, having opinions etc, I'd suggest you ask for it to be taken down instead of being downright rude and defensive to everyone who has bothered to try give you sound (obvious) advice.

And if you read her other threads it becomes quite obvious she is desperate for a baby.

hereforthefood · 16/11/2022 10:01

Tandora · 16/11/2022 09:50

It’s incredibly misogynistic to invent a narrative that a woman is trying to covertly trap a man into getting pregnant and start having a go at her, when all she was doing was asking for some judgement free advice about her contraceptive pill.
honestly I am raging.

I appreciate you backing me up here. Apparently arguing that I don't want to get pregnant definitely means I subconsciously want to get pregnant? Typical bully behaviour, make up a lie about someone and if they try and argue or prove it's wrong then they're "too defensive" and its evidence that the lie is true🙄Apparently my only option was to simply ignore the onslaught of hateful messages, any reply is an admission of guilt.

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Dontbelieveawordofit · 16/11/2022 09:59

Tandora · 16/11/2022 09:50

It’s incredibly misogynistic to invent a narrative that a woman is trying to covertly trap a man into getting pregnant and start having a go at her, when all she was doing was asking for some judgement free advice about her contraceptive pill.
honestly I am raging.

But the OP clearly states that she wouldn't mind being pregnant but has only been dating new BF for three months. Doesn't sound like a discussion has been had between in which he's stated he'd be open to a pregnancy. Does he even know that he's been having 'lots of unprotected sex' since she forgot to take contraception or take MAP? Although, of course, he's an adult who should be taking responsibility for his own actions and should be wearing condoms anyway. So early in a relationship, I would not be trusting a virtual stranger who says they are taking precautions.
And OP, if you want to stop people commenting on your thread, having opinions etc, I'd suggest you ask for it to be taken down instead of being downright rude and defensive to everyone who has bothered to try give you sound (obvious) advice.