Saw the GP today...

Hi @Anonbaby, I have been thinking about ivf but I'm in two minds. It's the opposite of relaxing and trying to forget about it and as @Got2besoon said I'd find dealing with a failed ivf cycle so much harder. However I'm quite a bit older than you so I should really get a move on in terms of thinking about it. That's for next year I think. Do you have a rough idea of cost as I'm quite in the dark about it.

Like you said sometimes I worry I might be forcing the issue. When I had my chemical in March I was really worried it was an ectopic pregnancy for a few days. That really worried me and I felt so lucky afterwards that it wasn't! But I am inspired by success stories, and my mum had her last at 42, and so I can't help but feel hopeful. Well, I swing between hope and despair, is actually a more accurate way of putting it.

@Got2besoon thank you for replying. Do you ever worry that it’s not meant to be and something could go wrong and maybe you should count your blessings? I think this is what I am struggling with at the moment. What if I go ahead and make a bad situation worse

Hi everyone. I just wondered what everyone is thinking about potential ivf? We have two children, been trying for a third for 19 months now. I was dead set on ivf, we almost signed up a couple of months ago but we didn’t and now I just don’t know anymore. We are waiting for our next appt but I kind of don’t want them to send me an appt because I don’t want to have to decide. I don’t want to do it and I also don’t want to definitively walk away. I’m 36 now so I feel it’s now or never 😕 but I don’t know what to do! I can’t see me doing it but also can’t see me saying we are definitely not doing it and we don’t want any further appts

I find the whole 'relax' thing so annoying, because it suggests it's your own fault for being stressed. The woman who does my acupuncture is also very concerned that I don't stress or obsess but every time I see her we discuss which cycle day I am on. I'm hardly going to stop thinking about it since that's the whole reason I am there.

I was feeling quite positive this month for some unknown reason but today my DS has been off nursery with a cough and high temperature and as I've been cuddling him day and night for the last 24 hours I think I am in for an illness! Ugh. So probably unlikely for me this month. My treat is going to be to get stuck into Christmas in a big way and not worry about what I am eating and drinking! Oh yeah and I will book my tests at the GP ... fun... x

Hi both of you. About 6 dpo here. I’m doing a terrible time of forgetting about the 2ww. Busy here but still can’t get it out my mind! I started counselling (for a couple of reasons) but of course TTC up and it actually made me feel worse about the whole thing. And I know it wasn’t directed this way but it did feel like he was saying I just needed to relax. He suggested that maybe I needed a break from trying. Less focus on ovulation and get back to being a couple. I can see what he means that it is really affecting my mood but at the same time is moving on and I’m not getting younger.
DH has his second analysis this week. He seems ok with it but I am very nervous for it. I’m convinced that the parameters won’t have improved.
Have you both started thinking about your treat this month?

Hope you're having good weekends. I am having a really nice time but I must admit I'm doing a terrible job of 'forgetting all about' ttc! I made myself watch a mindfulness video yesterday to try and address it, ugh. Put the tree up and having a sandwich lunch in front of zog on iPlayer!

Thanks. I’m doing better. And we didn’t miss my peak- I am 1dpo today so the 2ww begins. Got a busy couple of weeks so hopefully it will fly by.

@Got2besoon That sounds really rubbish. Can you see the actual report and any comments with it? Mine gave a number and then said ‘result suggests ovulation and adequate progesterone to support pregnancy’ Does your practice have econsult so you can ask for a discussion? Unfortunately all practices work differently but you should be able to have a phone call to discuss it. The amount of training in fertility can vary between GPs and I’ve been given poor advice by a GP before about what day to do my tests on- told me to do my progesterone on day 2. I did try to question it but they were insistent it was day 21 (I didn’t as I knew my shorter cycles meant it need to do it earlier). It Is very frustrating though. Hope you have some luck.

@Got2besoon oh that is so frustrating! Yes, I would just do the Superdrug test too so that you can be sure ... it is so very tricky. I love my gp and I know how hard they work. But when it comes to something like this it feels difficult to communicate just how much it means.

Good on your DH - that made me laugh! I'm also entering the tww in the next couple of days. Going to try and clear the decks at work so that I have a clear and calm run into Christmas.

@Keeptrying32 ugh, hope you are feeling better? Last spring while ttc we were coming down with something every month from nursery, it was miserable! And I was worried it was a interfering, but actually I did better at that point with positive pregnancy tests than I am doing now 😆

Hoping to go into this week feeling calm and optimistic. And getting back into good habits, which definitely slipped over the weekend!

Ho both of you. I honestly don’t think that a cheeky glass or two will prevent you from conceiving. I think being sensible around the 2ww but as you both say it is turning into a long old slog. I don’t drink much generally but with Xmas coming up there may be a few more occasions where I have one.

unfortunately I haven’t been very well- sore throat and headaches. I started to see a bit of a rise in my LH on day 7 but is gone back to zero. I’ve also been running a low grade fever much of the week so not sure what to make it. I will keep testing but if that was my ovulation we missed it with DH being away.

@Got2besoon yes, pestle and mortar! I don't understand how blenders work the flax seeds are too fine for the mini food processor I have... then I put them in the coffee grinder I have but it seems to have now broken ...
Hope that you get your LH surge a bit later this month. I'm having a cheeky wine after a crazy day. I think I will try no alcohol again in the 2ww this time though. I did that very religiously when I conceived my boy. But then it did not take very long compared to this. What do you do?

@Got2besoon I had so much pizza at the weekend! And wine, to be honest. You can't always do everything healthily. It would be exhausting and it might not make much of a difference. Also pizza is like sunshine on a plate.

I have been doing yoga, getting out every day (I work from home a lot) and drinking lots of water. I started this thing called seed cycling where you eat different seeds in the first and second half of the month. I eat seeds on porridge anyway so thought I might as well. Only thing is you have to grind them up for better absorption. Low effort it is NOT! My arms are killing me.

Hi, hope you all had good weekends. I felt so awful on Friday, but on Saturday I had a lovely conversation with a friend I haven't seen for a long time. She is ttc, early 40s and does not have any children yet, and is now thinking about next steps. I told her about the last year and she was so positive for me, reminding me that I haven't actually been trying for so long (a year) and that she is sure I will get there. Given the options she has ahead of her now in her ttc journey it reminded me that there is a lot of road left and a lot of options for me too. It was so refreshing to have a conversation and to hear her perspective on it. I already feel much more balanced and I am determined to go into this month and beyond with an open mind, and focus on things that are good for me: my beautiful boy, yoga, eating well, walking, and rest activities. Honestly I don't know what else I can do and I have realised that we are all beating ourselves up over this and it's not fair on ourselves. I will try to remind myself that I have more choice over how I feel each month than I have realised. We have to be hopeful for the future whatever it brings xx

How long did it take for partners to get sperm analysis? I went to GP end of September and had all my testing done weeks ago and all came back normal which is good but OH is still waiting to hear about sperm analysis… he did have a delay as had to register at my doctors surgery but they seem to be taking forever to organise this 🤔

@Got2besoon My DH is very similar- he was very head in the sand and took me really pushing to start the investigations. He was quite distant the few days after we got the results. I think it can be a lot for them to process. Hopefully you both will be feeling better soon.

@oliveroses Ive band DH from baths to! And I bought him baggy boxers.

@Anonbaby thanks that it interesting to know and hopefully means we might see a difference in our repeat next month.