What IVF dose and how many eggs did you get?

@SH998 so I need to go back to the hospital Tuesday and Thursday to make sure the hcg decreases. If it doesn't it means another injection and if not after that then surgery. I was given a choice operation that would likely remove my left fallopian tube or the injection that stops cells dividing. I know ivf isn't reliant on fallopian tubes but still didn't want them removed.

3 weeks ago I had like 3 scans that week. Back then I told them it's an etopic pregnancy because of the side pain, only now they agree.

I'm still bleeding after 11 days, there's a slight ache tenderness in my side and not had a bout of pain in 3 days. Injection was yesterday evening so very early days. I'm hoping anymore pain won't be too bad.

Part of me is like at least I know why the pregnancy failed but then another part is like this is likely to happen again, up to 15%. Plus its hard enough to get pregnant. I can't try for 3 months because the injection.

@SH998 So had my nhs app, they scanned me, did hcg and I got a call at 3pm to say my hcg is rising, its gone from 7900 to 1700 to 4000 so they think it's an etopic pregnancy, it's developing somewhere they think my left fallopian tube as I've kept saying that's where the pain is for 2 weeks. So had the injection today to help miscarry.

Hope you're well.

@SH998 it's good to hear how positive you are. Hopefully the video consultation goes well. Fresh cycles for me were OK, only the discomfort of the bloating from the egg collection.

So I started bleeding Tuesday, nothing heavy and no pain. Then Wednesday night I woke up, my side in extreme pain, which radiated to my whole body, barely got downstairs, took paracetamols, tried to sleep on sofa. That was rough. Then bleeding no pain. A long stringy stretch thing came out so I guess that was the placenta, clots have come out but nothing substantial to where I think everything has passes.

I'm still bleeding. I've had this slight pain in my left side, if I cough or move around I feel it. This morning my side started hurting so took pills. So 5 days of bleeding. Two weeks ago when I was in pain all day, spotted, I went to the hospital because of the side pain thinking it was etopic. The docs weren't fussed by it. I have my nhs specialist on 23rd so will tell her if that pain is still there as I'm thinking maybe it's in my fallopian tube. They may need to operate who knows.

Physically it's been hard. Emotionally I've been ok. I keep thinking it may come later like feeling upset. I'm quite methodical when I got pregnant I kept thinking of stats, chemical pregnancies so it was always a possibility in my head. So when it happened it was very disappointing but not shocking. I want to try again soon but saw you're meant to wait, some say 3 months, I think my 2nd period I might.

FET is physically easier but chemically it's rough. Not looking forward to that again.

@SH998 so does it take longer because you have to wait for the nhs to green light the next round. I've paid everything myself because even though was under 40, I'm single so don't qualify but saying that I do have the money, last time I was able to get a round on a clinic that was much cheaper that's where I got pregnant and got 4 embryos. So now I just pay £2k for each FET.

Thanks for sharing. I don't think its passed. I suffer from heavy periods, which lead to a blood transfusion from anemia so in some ways I feel a bit prepared. There was a red clot that came out a week ago when I had all that pain but it wasn't much then It stopped bleeding, i was then admitted and told my hcg was 7900 which is crazy high for 5 weeks. Then my hcg started dropping and a baby never found on the scans.

3bb is good, but 4cb is poor quality but still a fair chance of pregnancy.

Hope you get your next round soon. I feel its good if you can bypass the knock back and just move forward. I had 5 knock backs of IUIs and a rubbish ivf cycle with a day 3 embryo to this last cycle where I got pregnant and have 3 embryos. Your next cycle might be the one especially as you know you can get pregnant.

@SH998 are your periods irregular? Can the clinic not gage when they are due? I still can't believe how slow your clinic is. Mine are pretty fast. At the end of the day you're paying a lot of money so the service should be good. Have you spoken with the clinic yet?

So tomorrow I'd be 7 weeks. Today I started bleeding but no pain, its little blood, no clots. This makes me think, a week ago when I was in soooo much pain for hours, little blood came out, that could have been the main part of the miscarriage, I went in the hospital that day. Maybe now it's just bleeding no pain. I don't know.

I have 3 embryos. One 3BB and two 4CB. I really way to try again in January but of course I don't know until my body heals.

I think if you have the money, if you can put your disappointment and upset to the side you should try as soon as you can. Thats how I feel. Only one life and I do get how upsetting it can be all the knocks but one day it could be successful. Hope you get a lot of good embryos next time.

@SH998 Compared to my failed FET your period started do quickly after you stopped meds which is a good thing. Mine took 7 days and I felt so rough, cloudy, scattered, jittery, just not right and then period came and I felt a release. Can't believe how long you have to wait for your follow up that's really bad, they should talk to you soon to reassure you.

I saw nhs specialist, she didn't scan, said with dropping hcg that's it and to wait. I'm not waiting I'm keeping busy. Im also sick with a cold i picked up from the hospital.I have another appointment on the 23rd I guess she will check I'm OK after. I was thinking of doing my FET in January but I don't know how my body will be, when it will be ready.

Yeah it's so tough.

@SH998 thanks. I was by myself but used to being by myself so that didn't make anything worst. I find going through this single easier because I don't have to deal with someone else's heartache, disappointment or decision making. I can move forward and process my feelings as I want without the added pressure of someone else's dream of a baby.

I feel OK. It was very early I'm 6 weeks 2 days so yes it's disappointing I know I can move on.

When do you have your doctors phone follow up consultation? My failed FET they just gave a generic reason gentic problems, which will be the same for me now.

@SH998 hey, so went for my scan and they couldn't find the baby, they said they didnt have a good view of the womb because of all my fibroids but they gave me a hcg test and its dropped again so it is looking like a miscarriage coming. They want me back in 10 days. I see a nhs doc tomorrow for scan because of being in hospital over the weekend. I now just want to not go back to the clinic and let the miscarriage happen, they do want me back for a scan in 10 days but I'd have to pay more and I just feel like most women go for a scan at 3 months and deal with miscarriages etc up til then. Might get scans on nhs earlier will see what the nhs doc says with scan tomorrow.

I got pregnant with a fresh transfer...my frozen was September with a pricier clinic, then another clinic did a cheaper package they upped their age limit to 39, so I applied for that and once accepted waited for my next cycle was due it was November.

I think my period from the failed FET was in October a week later than normal then my fresh transfer was the next cycle so there was no waiting

@SH998 I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you're keeping positive too. I went through the same thing in September. A failed FET what made it worst was it was only one embryo from the cycle and the eostrogen left me feeling so bad. They didn't agree with me either I said before. Your body and hormones should feel better after your period starts. A big release of tension.

What's your next step? Other frozen embryos or new cycle? It's not easy all this.

I'm OK and not worrying loads. I just believe I was given wrong info from the nurse. If water can lower your hcg in a urine test then certainly a blood transfusion with non hcg blood plus all the saline IV I was on can affect it. Lower it.

I looked online only to find a non pregnant woman tested positively pregnant after a blood transfusion from a pregnant woman. Saying all that only will know more later. Just didn't want to believe wrong info.

@SH998 how are you doing? Soon to start testing?

Have my scan tomorrow, but was in the hospital over the weekend thinking I could have been have a suspected etopic pregnancy, little blood and in pain. Stayed in hospital only because they found I was anemic from my heavy periods.

They did blood test said my hcg was 7000, then did a blood transfusion and then did a next blood test said my hcg was 2316, that it was signs of failing pregnancy. It was a nurse. I thought about it wouldn't a blood transfusion with no hcg affect your hcg levels? The nurse said no. I just don't believe that but have my scan so will see what they find tomorrow.

Sometimes it does go over your head for sure. All you hear is good news and less about the details. I found my doctors not very good at communicating info really. I've been trying for a year so I definitely understand the feeling of when will this end, after going through multiple attempts. It's not the easiest. I'm in the clinic on Thursday for the 6 week scan and really hoping i don't see them again until I decide whether to use the frozen embryos for a sibling.

Hope the light bleeding is something positive.

@SH998 you said the embryo expanded 100%, so what if it implanted early....2 days after 5 day embryo is a guideline. As you say maybe it is the eostrogen and progesterone. The eostrogen I found definitely had a bad affect on me. Hormones can really affect you.

@SH998 in September I had a frozen transfer, on eostrogen and vaginal pessaries, there was no spotting or discharge. That failed. This time was a fresh transfer so I guess I have enough eostrogen in me from all the eggs, so I'm just on vaginal pessaries again no spotting. I can't tell about discharge because the pessaries leak out.

What I did experience this time was cramping from day 2 to day 4. Implantation cramping. I read implanting could produce light bleeding, maybe that's what you're experiencing. Maybe your body is reacting different to last time. I had no symptoms my failed FET but my successful one I was i
cramping in pain. Hopefully it's a sign the
embryo is implanting.