TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

@Matildahoney hi and welcome..to the group no one wants to join but we are here if you need support. I echo @TheBirdintheCave response I tend to go off stuff anyway in the second week but don't limit myself xx

@TheBirdintheCave I know! My test line was visible before the control line with my last successful pregnancy. I did another of those wee cheapie one steps as well today and there was absolutely nothing so just waiting for AF now xx congratulations again lovely 🥰

@MrsCristianoX The speed it takes for the line to develop is a lot slower too I've noticed. With my son the line started to appear before the dye had even completely moved through the window. With this one, even though the lines ended up the same level of darkness, it took about 30 seconds to even start to show up.

@Matildahoney Hi Matilda :) Nah I never bothered doing any of that. It's not going to cause any harm as the embryo gets all of its nutrients from the yolk sac at the start. Transfer between the mother and baby only happens once the placenta is formed.

I drank quite a bit in the week before I found out I was pregnant with my son 😅 He was born fine with no issues.

Hi all, new to this thread, had an MC in September. Do you all abstain from alcohol, caffeine, uncooked meats etc as if you were pregnant when TTC and you're post ovulation so potentially pregnant?

@bunnykins123 😂😂 I just don't like them at all. I'll nearly go out of my way not to use one. You just end up staring at a random line or 3 now (I left it sitting and another line appeared from nowhere) it's heading for the bin now😆

@MrsCristianoX lol my profanity at FRER had removed a couple of *'s so it now looks like I was saying 'based FRER' - doesn't quite have the same impact!

@MrsCristianoX basd FRERs 😂 @TheBirdintheCaveyoure @Lialii absolutely right, I never used to get ghost lines. They must have made them even more sensitive. With my mmc it detected down to 6 so they were sensitive even before they tweaked them!

@Lialii I feel like the tests have changed themselves. They definitely don't seem the same now as when I was using them in 2020.

@bunnykins123 FRERs almost always give me ghost lines. They didn't when I was trying for #1 several years ago. I'm wondering whether the tests changed, or if I changed - maybe I have higher baseline hcg now?

@bunnykins123 cycle buddies and haunted by the ghost of lines together 😂 ffs

@ChloeN thanks lady 💕

@MrsCristianoX I always get a ghost of a line, I even got one on O day 🤷‍♀️ that's partly why I don't test early anymore! Just dropped of DH sample - hopefully that'll tell me a bit more about what's going on! Looks like we are cycle buddies though as I'm 13dpo too!

@bunnykins123 @MrsCristianoX sorry ladies😔 hope you’re both feeling okay!❤️

@bunnykins123 same. I did the FRER anyway and got a ghost of a line but for 13dpo it's not even close. I just feel different today. I don't usually get spotting think that was a miscarriage thing at the time, just awaiting a flood 🙄

@MrsCristianoX I'm so sorry hun. I read your messages this morning regarding the 2am test. It's such a 🤯 have you started spotting or just feel different? I always feel different right before AF shows so I know I'm out even before I have any physical signs.

@bunnykins123 I'm sure I'm out too. Woke up this morning more energised, and you know when you can nearly feel it starting? Literally can't be bothered next month 😩

@Babydustmamma totally agree about it being in my head. I actually am at the point where I just want someone to tell me conclusively if I can or cannot get pregnant naturally. If DH spermies come back normal then I'm at a loss! I'm so sorry for your loss - nobody should have to go through a miscarriage let alone 2 😢

@bunnykins123 Awwh lovely, it’s grim isn’t it! Especially when you’ve had the tests and they don’t really show what the issue is - which is a good thing but then you’re just left with the ‘why’?! I feel like the longer you are trying the more it affects your infertility because you get so in your head. I wish I could flip a switch and not be so obsessed with it but hey Ho ♥️

we've been trying for five months, but with the first two tries (one earth side, one mc), I got pregnant very quickly (first month trying) ♥️

@Babydustmamma I think it's just that it's been going on so long now. Ironically I conceived really easily in the 1st 6 months (3 miscarriages) and now nothing in almost a year. I've had all the tests done and all that's high was NK cells. I wonder how far that impacts infertility. It's such a hard journey. How long have you been trying for?

@emhope ahh that’s interesting to know! I could do with a reset! It feels like it’s all I think about, and I definitely wasn’t feeling that way when I did manage to get a BFP the first time round 😅♥️ Maybe I’ll try less tests and trying to relax… but doing the odd one or two haha

@bunnykins123 sorry to hear that you’re in the club with us ♥️ It’s bloody demoralising isn’t it! The denial you feel with spotting because you think there could be a chance of implantation bleeding 😅 so cruel!

I’ve officially started soy isoflavones this month, hoping to bring my ov forward as it’s still on CD 20/21 since mc (5 cycles later)! Who knows… maybe that will be the thing that gets my cogs going again! At this point I’m rattling round daily 😂

@bunnykins123 fingers crossed for the other half’s test! Mine did it last month and he said the whole thing was quite weird 😂 the room set up etc haha x

@Babydustmamma @Bubblesandballoons @ChickenT2b @Aprilsunnyday looks like I'm joining you for next month - I'm spotting bang on time so looks like it's another dud month. DH is getting spermies checked today so will get some answers soon!

@Babydustmamma yes! I am holding on to hope that I will see that BFP before Christmas 🎄 how amazing would that be to finish off the year with a positive 🤞🏻

@Babydustmamma @ChickenT2b @Bubblesandballoons I tried the whole being more relaxed and ditching OPK’s last cycle. (Although did start temping at 7DPO as recommended by my reflexologist)
If I’m honest for me personally it didn’t make me more relaxed and I certainly didn’t get a BFP from it but I’ve heard lots of people that do stop tracking and that’s the month they fall. Hopefully it has a different outcome for all of you though 🤞🏻😊🌈 I do think it was worth doing though as almost felt like a ‘reset’ and I felt much better and more positive this month starting back with OPK’s and temps (however maybe ask me again in a few days when I most likely test and get a BFN and I completely crash 😂)

@ChickenT2b @Bubblesandballoons eaaaak alright, I’ll give it a go at relaxing too! I suppose I can probably guess by CM. Would be nice to not feel like I’m ‘trying’. Thank you for your support ladies ♥️ It’s reassuring to have people who understand!

We got pregnant on the first attempt the first two tries, so waiting has been a very different experience x

@Babydustmamma @Aprilsunnyday @ChickenT2b looking forward to the next cycle with you all and hoping For some Christmas miracles ❤️
@ChickenT2b I’m going to try and relax this month. Will do my vitamins and omega 3, but ditch everything else. Not going to stress about my diet. Just going to enjoy the run up to Christmas. I get lots of ewcm so I know roughly when I ovulate and will dtd every other day anyway so covered. We can brave “relaxing’ together 😂

@Babydustmamma sorry to hear it’s been hard on you too ❤️ Did it take you long first time round? I’m actually considering stopping tracking everything for the next cycle and just living my life, with one little eye on my fertile week. No obsessing, peeing on sticks, taking temp. Just go off CM and see what happens. I’ve tried everything else 😂… everyone says just stop trying right? Let’s see how that goes 🙈
@Aprilsunnyday a Christmas 🌈 would be absolutely magical. Good luck for your next cycle and looking forward to see some more BFPs 🤞🏼🤞🏼