TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

Well I couldn’t wait and re-tested and it’s BFN 😭 must have been a horrible evap/indent just to make this TTC journey even harder than it already is. Never ever had anything like that. Feeling devastated. Actually had a bit of hope for half a day 😢

@mummatara ahhhh maybe I should wait a bit then! I tried the Ava bracelet and it was 😶😬

@ChloeN haha I've never had an apple one just had the Fitbit which tbf lasted me a few years before dying this year 🙄

@Babydustmamma it's only the very new one that does it not sure how long it's been out 🤔

@ChloeN thats interesting about the Apple Watch!!! Has anyone else tried it for tempting? ♥️

@emhope well everyone has their own experience with evap lines, but my personal experience is that I’ve never had any!!! I always check 😂😅 so to me it looks really bloody exciting! Don’t want to get your hopes up but also it’s good to be able to enjoy and hope!!!!! Eaaaaak when will you test again?♥️

@emhope im really hoping this is it for you lovely, I just rechecked my frer from yesterday and I would say it looks darker still then it did when I first did it so I’m hoping that’s the case for you!!

@mummatara ive seen loads of people say good things about the Apple Watch!! Mines ancient now I always used to forget to wear it 🤣

@MrsCristianoX hahaha oh god could you imagine trying to stuff it all in 😂

@MrsC2018 unfortunately you would still have to opk as it only confirms ovulation has happened 🤦🏼‍♀️ I use it to try and see a pattern in my cycle when we weren't trying to TTC so preventing pregnancy by using condoms in my fertile window. I was on the pill for about 19 years and I'm honestly never taking it again I feel so much better not taking it. The longer you temp for the longer it can gain insight into your cycle. I think I'm just going to stick to my thermometer. I've put in a few hints that I would like to get the new Apple Watch my Fitbit broke and the new Apple Watch tracks your temp too apparently. I'm hoping DH might have got my hints and there will be one under the tree 😂

@FfayeN now I'm used to doing it I don't struggle with it the only reason I was looking at other options is that DS seems to be waking a lot more frequently than he did and I get some days I just have to exclude as I know I haven't had a big enough block 🙄 haha oh god can you imagine so gross 🤢 I think that part puts me off a bit too mornings are already hectic

@mummatara oh my, that does seem reasonable 😱 I wasn't even thinking about temping this morning and now I'm looking at a £120 tampon - I'm so suggestible! What do you use it for when not TTC? Think those only work for 12 months so no real longevity. However it's £10 a month and the OPKs I buy are £30 for 2 months so actually not entirely unreasonable. It's a lot to spend though, just before Christmas. Hmmm decisions, decisions. Perhaps it can be my Christmas present from my husband 🙈

@Everythingzrosie I would say you need to at least understand why he's changed his mind to either discuss further with him or make your peace with it?

@mummatara excellent point my god I'd be going to bed with a fertility and ovusense crammed in there😂

@MrsCristianoX I know as soon as @FfayeN posted that I went to look and hovered over the buy button but then was like there's still 2 days to go have a think if you really need it that being said my femometer subscription is about to run out which is £25 so it's almost like it will cost £94 and I won't ever lose my femometer data 🤔 one thing I did wonder about the ovusense what happens when you DTD just before bed which is mainly the case with us will it kill off a few spermies or am I totally overthinking it 😂

I've spent soo much money already on Christmas

@emhope that defo looks positive 😇

@mummatara I was considering the ovusense with 40% off...but it's soo close to Christmas

Thanks for the replies everyone. I can’t bring myself to test again just yet but may do it later tonight….this is cycle number 8 after the MMC and this is the only time I’ve ever had a hint of a line (even if it was after the time limit) What a rollercoaster of a week, been emotional enough with it being the due date week and now this ‘is it/isn’t it’ line!

Dh says we have enough children and that they are all growing up and we should move on from babies 🙁 yet he was very happy when I got pregnant and was so excited. I was the one who was upset at the beginning. I was scared. Now I’m gutted. Maybe I need to talk with him more to find out why.

@MrsC2018 don't worry I think we are all the same in the obsessive dept it was actually a bit of a relief to not POAS this morning. Despite saying to myself I wouldn't test all the time to check for a negative I did 🤦🏼‍♀️ I looked at those bracelets a little while ago but I've decided against spending the money just before Christmas I might early next year if I'm not pregnant as I use it even when not TTC so it wouldn't be a complete waste of money but like you say the cheap thermometer does the same job 😂

@Everythingzrosie im so sorry lovely it must be so hard to be up and down with it all. Does he say why he's changed his mind?

@emhope I read the same article as @mummatara - any line that has colour indicates the hormone is present basically.

@Everythingzrosie that's gutting if you now want to try again, has he said why and whether there's any wriggle room to discuss it at least?

@mummatara thanks, will have a good look later and see if I can cope with the commitment. I have a tendency to get a little obsessive about things so I'm usually careful to not test before my period is late and try and not know exactly how many dpo I am. However, I'm 39 next year and these miscarriages are messing up my cycle so it might just be more helpful to know what's going on. In my usual style I've gone off at the deep end and am looking at £250 bracelets and things rather than a £5 thermometer 🙈 why am I like this!

@emhope sorry was meant to be the word evaps not indents tired brain this morning to my message below🤦🏼‍♀️

@MrsC2018 @ChloeN tbf it doesn't feel like ages but when I think back to when we found out I'm like oh bloody hell 🤦🏼‍♀️ the sac was empty so I had to keep going back for scans to check for no progress so the hospital finally confirmed on 27th sept. I decided to wait 1 week later I had a bleed for a week and a half but I was sure I hadn't passed anything rang the hospital I had a week of blood tests then they couldn't fit me in for a scan for another 10 days which confirmed was still there a few days later I had the surgery. All those waiting a week or so for scans and blood tests just really add up 🙈

@MrsC2018 I find temping really easy but I do do it when not TTC too. When I first started I would say it took me a good month to not keep panicking about waking up and taking it at first I kept waking a couple of times a night but once I got into the routine of it I slept fine. I use the app femometer and one of their Bluetooth thermometers but I know lots of people here recommend fertility friend. I like femometer but it is a paid app and now it has all my data I can't be bothered to move to FF which I believe is free

@emhope that def looks like there's colour to it to be an indent. I read a really interesting article about indents. The doctor said that a coloured line will show up only if there is hcg present so if there is a small small small amount it could take a long time for it to process on the test and what we think of as indents are not indents but positives. If those lines that we think are indents turn out to be nothing and AF comes it's that the pregnancy failed sort of like a chemical but for not as long. I hope that makes sense I wish I had bookmarked it now. Also an evening wee for 9dpo might just be too diluted 🤔 I think it looks positive

@emhope id class that as a positive. Do another if you have one ☝️

So…

this is cycle 4 since MMC. I’m CD5. Dh drops it into conversation that he’s wanting to prevent pregnancy now rather than ttc. So this year we have gone from Dh encouraging a bfp, to me being reluctant but the one time I was happy to try, we got a bfp. To use losing the baby. To now dh saying we are complete and he wants to move on from ttc.
Im 44. I’m still regular. I still ovulate but obviously in a much higher bracket for miscarriage. I’ve had 6 in the last 12 years.
Im not happy 😢 I went through 3 months of pregnancy and a miscarriage for nothing.

@emhope Do another! :D

@ChloeN i think I probably looked at it on and off for 10-15 mins and then binned it as was just completely white. Then looked at it again about 4 hours later and saw this line. So confused, obviously want more than anything for it to be positive but most things online are saying you can’t take it as a positive if it’s after the 10mins 😔

@emhope that absolutely looks positive to me! Congratulations 💕💕

@emhope me too surely that can’t be an ident or evap looks too much like a proper like! How long did you wait before you binned it?? It could of taken a bit longer to show given it’s only 9dpo!