TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

@lovenaps well typically after sending the message on here I checked the post box and finally had a letter from the hosp. No mention of when I’ll get bloods, but it’s a write up of my appt in sept (written middle of oct and only just got it!) and says it’s those tests you mentioned and just normal hormone tests I need. Says to do them 6 weeks post miscarriage which is now, so will def chase Monday and prompt them. I’m going to try my hardest not to test until the day I’m due on, but we’ll see. Some months I test from 5dpo, some I manage to restrain myself to 9/10dpo 😂.
@FfayeN thanks, feeling it’s been a better cycle with more ewcm again, more back to normal for me after 6 months, so hopefully that’s a good sign 🤞🏻.

@lovenaps thank you 😊 im feeling okay but cant get excited not sure whether to start taking aspirin or not ugh i wish i had the answers! The epu have booked me in for a scan for when ill be 7 weeks! How are you lovely? X

@Cindy974 @HalWin2221 tentative congratulations ❤x How are you both feeling today?

@Bubblesandballoons was that your bloods for anti-phospholipid syndrome?xx
I was told they very rarely come back positive and I guess you might manage to get your bloods done + receive results (fingers crossed!!!) before you test! Are you planning to test early?

I kind of feel bad bashing DH here as I love him to bits and he is usually amazing but I guess we all have our shortcomings sometimes. He can annoy me at times but I am not perfect either, far from!

@Cindy974 tentative congrats
@lovenaps sorry your dh isn’t being that understanding. Hopefully he’ll get better as time goes on 🤞🏻.

I’ve had my peak last night a few days earlier than normal, so will dtd for a few more days so hopefully we are covered then onto the dreaded tww. Not sure if I’m meant to be trying or not this cycle as I still haven’t had my bloods done, but we decided not to waste another cycle and risk it. Going to chase bloods on Monday as I’ve heard nothing and if I do them next week I won’t be pregnant by then anyways if I’m lucky enough to fall this cycle.

@FfayeN thank you for your long message x
So your scan will be when just over 9 wks pregnant - I think that is a very good time! You will be able to see everything clearly + based on statistics I've seen, if you see a clear heartbeat at that stage, the risk of anything happening after is very low 🙏
I called EPU to ask for progesterone after +ve test, they said they usually give it after three losses but not two and that's when they offered to book me in for a 7 week scan. I said yes but was a bit skeptical as ovulated late in the cycle and was not sure there would be much to see, which is why I contacted them later and asked if it would be okay to delay the scan to 8+ weeks - they agreed. When my mind is at peace, early scan seems like an amazing idea to see what is happening. Also, DH did not see the heartbeat before so I would really want for him to see it. I would imagine he would be quite emotional.

@Kayycatt thank you and sorry for rambling. How are you? x

How is everyone else getting on? x

@lovenaps I know it can be hard but try and stay positive. I find it hard to stay positive at times myself so I distract myself with other things to keep my mind occupied. Every time for the past week when I am alone and think about the MC i just start crying and I don't even know why. Though I always feel better after the cry, so it's ok to be upset to let things out.

The thing is there is not much we can do but to look after ourselves mentally and physically. Anything else is outside of your control so do what you feel you are comfortable with. If you think a 8 weeks scan give you a peace of mind then go for it. Equally, it's ok to wait till 12 weeks too. Whatever makes you feel reassured and happy is the most important thing right now.

@Kayycatt very useful advice, thank you. ❤x I just want to believe that the pregnancy will progress.. Got a scan in two weeks time but I had a heartbeat on the scan with first pregnancy so not sure if I should just cancel it and wait till 12 week one....I changed the scan from week 7 to week 8 though so maybe that will give a bit more reassurance.. As the heart stopped beating just before week 8 the first time.

@lovenaps sorry to hear that :( partners don't always seem to understand the stress the women have to go through during this period. I wish there is a way that we can make them feel the same mentally and physically at the same time.

Maybe try and draw up a routine? So that both know that certain things are only needed to be done on certain date? Like laundry on Mondays only, so he doesn't nag on other days when that's not being done?

Hopefully he will become more understanding as your pregnancy progresses. Xx

@Babydustmamma most of people! I think when TTC does not go as planned and/or takes longer, it can really take a toll on people's mental and physical health as well as relationships! Would you consider acupuncture? I started a few weeks ago and found it helpful to a point.

@mummatara just a recurring issue where I can see he is grumpy and cross with me, says it's nothing but later admits he is annoyed I don't pull my weight with housework.
For the record, we live in a very small house which is minimally furnished (we like it this way) and has minimal amount of stuff. It is just the two of us. Our housework, as a result, is not intense but I like looking after the house. I have not been feeling well and every day he was nagging me saying I need to do more - I was not just being lazy, I honestly was unwell! Many times I asked him to show more understanding and stop nagging me but every day it is like 'I washed the dishes today and I did the laundry couple days ago, everything in this house needs to be done by me' (not true, I do my part but admittedly I've been resting a lot after work the past few days).
Yesterday - same again. He knew I was very unwell Wednesday night and still feeling somewhat strange on Thursday and made a comment last night about how he is the only one doing things in the house - again. I said I was unwell and he said he had a cold too but he just gets on with things.
He knows I am the one who cooks normally, I iron his clothes, I am the one who cleans the bathroom. He also does a lot, I am not denying that at all but it seems as soon as I can't pull the same weight it's a massive issue and he is constantly cross with me. I am just over 6 weeks and really trying to listen to my body - I am worried, constantly. Scared of pushing myself too hard.
We spoke again last night and in the morning, he was very apologetic but I think it will only last until next time he does the dishes or laundry and gets upset I did not do it 😓Just feels so stupid to be fighting about something like that when we should be focusing on protecting this pregnancy.

@Babydustmamma thanks :) will continue to monitor and won't lose hope for this month just yet x

@bubble55 tentative congratulations ♥️

@Kayycatt sorry for your loss ♥️ I ovulated on CD 21 after my mmc bleed. I’ve continued to ovulate later in the cycle too, so don’t lose hope if the OPK doesn’t show signs until a little later as this could possibly be why!

sorry if I’ve missed any other lovely news ♥️ Have been really trying to relax and raise my estrogen levels 😅 anyone else find it hard to relax whilst TTC?x

@lovenaps oh no lovely what is he doing/saying? I'm so sorry sometimes they really just don't know what to say or do and it ends up being very wrong ❤️ remind me how far are you now?

*when I become pregnant

And he was doing exactly the same with the first pregnancy.. It's like this man really wants to have children and is usually amazing to me but when pregnant sets out to make me miserable.

@HJA87 so sorry! Keeping my fingers crossed for you 🙏x

Been managing to keep positive about this pregnancy until today. DH broke me. Completely. All positivity gone out the window.
He got me sitting sobbing 2nd or 3rd night this week. I can't. I just can't anymore. He is a kind person but certainly knows how to completely break me when our situation is already anxious and I should not be stressing.

@lovenaps oh I think you must have tagged the wrong person. I’m not currently pregnant but 3 DPO tomorrow so should soon find out 🤞🏻x

@ChloeN it's so hard. Really need to distract myself with something else and just stop googling in general...

@Kayycatt totally get the impatience you just want to be able to try again asap!! It’s hard when you don’t know when to expect it

@HJA87 so pleased you are pregnant again, gentle congratulations 😊x
@bubble55 gentle congratulations too! 😊