TTC after miscarriage thread 13 💕🌈✨💛

@mummatara well done lovely, that’s a great way of looking at it. Feels like there is soooo much waiting and being patient when you’re ttc after loss doesn’t it?

sometimes it’s called chasteberry I think? Might’ve spelt that wrong! Haha. I was reading (down a rabbit hole) that it helps with short luteal phase/low progesterone ♥️ Just wondered if anyone had had any luck with it! Xxx

@ChloeN nope not a single shift I was like oh you've got the wrong result that was Thursdays and she said oh no it's the same as Thursdays 🙄 yes I'm really hoping so 🤞🏼 in the meantime I just have to distract myself with everything Christmas 😂 xx

@Babydustmamma it was a little bit indeed I'm trying not to get hung up on it it has only been 3.5 weeks since surgery so I know from previous I just have to be patient and it takes time as frustrating as it is waiting. I did think this time it would be different as it was fairly low by the time I had the surgery but apparently not 🤦🏼‍♀️ I've not heard of it is it a vitamin?

@mummatara that must be so bloody demoralising! Especially with everything you’ve been through recently ♥️

has anyone taken vitex? This is my first
month of trying it ♥️

@MrsC2018 @ChloeN Yes it's all a lot. At the same time though if we're going to try again I'd rather do it sooner than later - the gap is getting bigger all the time and I feel like it's just there looming over me in the background. My husband thinks he'd be happy with the existing one or with two but also points out that if we both feel that way maybe sticking with what we have spud be less physically and emotionally gruelling. I do think it would be easier if we could just try like normal people. The whole fertility drugs complication makes it worse and also then there's zero chance of remaining remotely sane while trying 😂

@mummatara what on earth, so just not dropping whatsoever??🤯 how bloody annoying, hopefully as you say AF will arrive and then it’ll go negative

@ChloeN had another test last night and it's still at 84 so had not dropped at all since Thursday 🙄 they told me to test again in 2 weeks I think a new pregnancy is ruled out for sure. I'm hoping AF might make an appearance in the next week or so 🤞🏼 xx

@mummatara whats been going on with yours lovely?xx

@MrsC2018 ring your EPU and tell them your 5 weeks post mc you did have a neg test at the hospital but you've just done a very sensitive test and got a positive so your not sure what's going on. they will likely get you in for bloods you will get a more definitive answer than keep taking pregnancy tests trust me I've been there this past week 🤦🏼‍♀️ also to keep buying frers when your not sure cost so much money 🙈 I hope it's a new one for you 🤞🏼

@MrsC2018 so so tough ♥️ Keeping everything crossed for you x

@MrsC2018 oh that’s so difficult😔😔 when are you planning to test agains? Xxx

@TrulyMiss yes that’s really hard!! I suppose it’s got to be a bit more planned than just trying normally! Does it all just feel a bit much now? X

@TrulyMiss it's tough, especially if it's not straightforward getting pregnant. How does your partner feel?

Thanks @MrsC2018 @ChloeN. I have to go back in fertility drugs which are tough going so am finding the whole prospect daunting. I also have a 2 year old so I definitely feel differently than then I was trying for him. It's all a bit of a head melt!!

@MrsCristianoX I've never done this before, Ive literally never tested before my period is due.
My rational brain is saying it's left over hgc, im not even sure I ovulated, I just went from flashing smileys to low. But I guess I'll know in a couple of days if the line gets darker or stays light. I really hope it is a fresh pregnancy though, it's hard to feel lucky when you've had miscarriages but this would be the third pregnancy in 12 months, and I've been pregnant for 8 of those months really hoping I get a baby out of all this 😢

@MrsC2018 it's the pull of the tests. It's a real thing. You have now entered the rabbit hole of tests 🙈 could it be a fresh pregnancy,? how are you feeling? 🤞

I've got carried away and opened myself back up to heartache 😢 took a pregnancy test this morning and it's faint positive on a frer. Miscarriage was 5 weeks ago tomorrow and I tested negative at the hospital 3 weeks ago tomorrow (but still decent positive on a frer). Loss was at 16 weeks so I will have lower levels and test negative sooner than most miscarriages but I never tested again on a frer until today. I know it's a waiting game to see if the line gets stronger but I could cry that I've done this to myself

@MrsC2018 exactly. I do worry that if I let all my feelings out then he will say let's call it a day as then he will know truly how obsessed I am with it (I think deep down he knows but probably tries to ignore it!)

@TrulyMiss me too I tried again straight away, it was the only thing that got me through the loss tbh knowing I could try again and it’d hopefully happen soon

@Babydustmamma @emhope @MrsCristianoX @FfayeN same, he's sad and wants another but says it's more that he's sad for me when we've lost one. I think mine feels so helpless, and the actual miscarriage it's self cause of the blood and the pain is traumatic for us both. I absolutely hold in a lot of the sadness around TTC afterwards, maybe to protect him but probably also so he doesn't say we need to draw a line in the sand and stop. I would also say that we have a supportive and kind relationship but I still keep the true horror from him.

@TrulyMiss I've started to try again straight away after both of my miscarriages, I just want to be pregnant again so I wouldn't say I've really put any thought into it. I caught 3 months again after my first miscarriage and was very anxious and probably too soon, I went on to lose that one too. I'm now a month after that miscarriage and have started to try again. It's probably too soon, but I'm not sure I'll ever not be nervous when pregnant again. More time won't help that and I'm 38, time in general isnt on my side.

@emhope @FfayeN @bunnykins123 @MrsCristianoX sorry im a bit late! Mad day, but completely agree with everything you’re saying. Other half says that he’s really sad when I bring it up and says that he really wants another one, but definitely hasn’t taken over his life the way it has mine!

have you found that it affects friendships too? I definitely have found the whole mc to have a much wider affect than I thought it might’ve at the start x

Thanks for replies @FfayeN @bunnykins123 @MrsCristianoX that has made me feel a little better. I think maybe I will try and keep more of my feelings to myself but maybe this month just hit me a lot harder. Now just want AF to turn up so I can move on!

Afternoon all! Just wondering how you ladies knew you were ready to try again? I'm really struggling to know what to do...

@emhope he absolutely hates me testing early for that reason but the pull of the tests is too strong. Will try and not early test this month. Let's see how that works out 🙄

@emhope I'm exactly the same so now I've started to internalise my feelings. DH hates me being sad every month and I think would stop if he saw how upset I get. It's so hard. This thread does help