TTC a first

I am due on my period in 3 days, this time i know i am going to come on my flow and I am starting to feel so low about it all after 10 long months, hopefully I can start my journey of knowing if there's anything wrong at my fertility appointment tomorrow

Hi everyone, would like to join! Second month of ttc, due to next test at the beginning of December. We started trying in October but in many ways been ready for this for years so feel quite anxious even after testing negative just for the first month. Get this feeling like because my head has been in it for much longer, it's as if this has been going on for way more than a month and a bit.

Sorry to heat that it was a bfn, if it is a bad batch of tests then that's awful.

@UserL95 I saw your well wishing in another post, thank you. I hope your cycle is the one for you xxx

@ScarletDreams I didn’t even know evaps were a thing until yesterday!!

so this morning was a BFN 🙁 there was another vvvvvfl like yesterday so I think it’s either a CP or a bad batch of tests! How awful from FRER! I’m going to take some time out as this has made a difficult month even harder and I’m not sure I can face the Christmas season focusing on ttc! I guess I’ll just see what happens and then get us private tests in January! Thank you everyone for keeping your fingers crossed for me!

@Bananatoast123 I don't know much about evaps other than they're colourless? But I didn't think they would show within 3 minutes, but I could be wrong. Hopefully its not one though x

@ScarletDreams @buttercupbee thanks both! Super worried it’s an evap! Been googling away 🤦🏼‍♀️ I shouldn’t have! Such an agonising wait

@Bananatoast123 I can see something too, I hope it gets darker for you!

@Bananatoast123 I can see something too , fingers crossed 🤞

@Thatskindafun eeeek I know!! This is such a weird space to be in, like I might be but also
might not be!

@ScarletDreams thank you!! It’s sooo faint like I can’t even get a photo of it! This was the best I could get and the light shadow doesn’t help! I’m going to continue praying that tomorrow has progression! 🥹

@Bananatoast123 that's amazing news, fingers crossed for you. I really hope this is your month 🙏
My oh was the same with my first faint bfp . Mine really was barely there ! But I could see it!

@buttercupbee thank you! My OH isn’t letting me say it’s a BFP yet as it’s sooo faint and the cheapie was a BFN! So I’m hoping I get some progression tomorrow!

@Bananatoast123 congratulations!! Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏼💕

Soooo I took a FRER and I’ve got the faintest of lines within the 3 minutes! 🥹 at first I thought it’s a BFN but as it caught the light I was like hang on! Asked the OH to look and he sees it too when you get a light on it! Early days as 10dpo so keeping my fingers crossed for progression tomorrow…. Either will be a chemical and such a heartbreak or the happiest news I’ve ever got!!!

Get that cough syrup down you girls!!

@UserL95 I am so the same! My OH’s cousin told me within a convo the other month how it took them 3 years and 2 MC for their first and in that moment I was so grateful for her sharing that with me, and she has no idea how it made me feel! I just don’t get why it isn’t our time yet!!

Random as not everyone’s into it but have you tried manifesting to help the mental side of things? I think that’s where I need to focus my energy as I do a lot for physical but not mental!

@buttercupbee that’s it isn’t it, how you always assume it’s easy for someone. It really is one of those where you don’t know someone’s journey for how they got to where they did!

@Bananatoast123 one of my close friends told me recently it took her 4 months to conceive her now 3 year old, I was quite shocked as I remember assuming at the time she had just fallen straight away. I feel so bad that I wasn’t there for her when she was going through what I am now, but obviously I didn’t know at the time x

@Bananatoast123 @Thatskindafun i can relate to what both of you are saying so much.
Why is this so damn hard??
Im coming into my fertile days now, but trying not to be so pressured this cycle.
I wish more people felt comfortable talking about their stories, I think it would be so helpful for many of us x

@UserL95 @buttercupbee yesss!! I had the same thoughts too, I used to panic I was pregnant years and years ago if my period came late and I was on contraception…. Laughable really as I can’t even get a BFP now!!

I do think you only hear the “we caught straight away” or “we had to do IVF”… you never heard about the people in between! I still have a friend who tells me to “relax” and how “stress will have a negative impact” and I’m like “have you started trying? No so come back to me when you have” 🤣

@UserL95 this is so true, I think it’s because it’s drilled into us to be careful and avoid pregnancy, it makes you think it must be so easy to fall pregnant! Also people don’t really talk about it so it seems like it’s easy for everyone else. I would love to know what month I’ll get a BFP!

@Bananatoast123 im praying for you! For all of us! So crazy what so many couples go through. I feel like a right idiot as I remember even 3-4 years ago thinking oh my periods are like clockwork I’ll get pregnancy straight away as soon as I’m ready. How WRONG I was. It’s kind of ridiculous thinking bank.

id pay someone very good money to tell me when I’d get my BFP, imagine how much pressure would be lifted. If you find that person; please let me know!! Haha

@UserL95 I know I’m not out yet and you’re right it is 11dpo! It’s just so frustrating isn’t it when you feel like you’re doing everything and luck or nature isn’t on your side!!

I also just feel with the boozeyness of Christmas and chaos of it all, I feel like it won’t happen in December anyway 🤣 probably me saying this will make it happen!

Don’t you ever wish you could have someone tell you what month you’ll get your BFP so you can just forget about it and enjoy life again?

@Bananatoast123 youre still early DPO yet - don’t forget average to get a reliable bfp is 11dpo! You’re not out, but it’s okay to feel shit about it too. It’s also okay to give yourself a break from the stress and the pressure. I hope you are okay xx