TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@LuckyMoonstone just think of all the bleeding is our bodies getting rid of all the bad stuff so we can regenerate lovely new linings for our new (hopefully) little beans next cycle 😂 we can be optimistic.

@RaliaMusca yes @Mariabombia mentioned this. I had lots of yellow discharge before the pregnancy started to fail. I think someone mentioned it’s a sign of high progesterone so it could just be your body supporting the pregnancy 🤞🏼

I get an eight week 'reassurance' scan at our local hospital's EPU if I ever get pregnant again. It was listed in their post miscarriage leaflets. If all was well then I'd probably have a private scan at 10 weeks. I feel like I'd want to know ASAP if it was another MMC.

I've just started to get some yellow discharge. Didn't one of you mention this a few days ago? I'm really worried it's a sign of another impending bleed. It's not smelly at all and only when I wipe.

@Luna57 haha I know right 😂 desperate to get it all out of my system, even if it means haemorrhaging all day and night 😆 I might test tomorrow morning, see if the line is any fainter

@LuckyMoonstone ive just passed more tissue so I feel I should be getting closer that stark white. Never thought I’d be so excited for a negative!!

@ChloeN personally I don’t think I’d have an early scan again even if offered by epu. Every time I’m passing tissue I just see that little baby on the screen which has made this a little harder for me. I don’t even think I’ll test next time til my body tells to and I’ve an urge.

@Everythingzrosie because once you start it's hard to stop. I totally get this. 9dpo is still very early..

This is the one month I've forgotten which CD I'm on. It's a welcome relief at this point

I used my last test today so I couldn’t test anymore 🙈😂 now it’s just a waiting game in hoping everything sticks 🤞🏽

😩 I don’t know why I do it to myself…

@MrsCristianoX hi, I did but still negative, 9dpo now so I’m not out till I’m out… Monday seems so far away 😂 those others are evaps.

@ChloeN because I’ve just had what they’ve diagnosed as an ectopic pregnancy, I should be able to get an early one next time anyway which will be good

@Everythingzrosie did you test again lovely? Xx

@Mariabombia 😖 I feel like they’re great if everything is okay, but if not they end up making everything so much worse! I’d love to wait till 12 weeks and it’ll all be okay but would be so gutted if it wasn’t

@Indianna2006 they are good odds, maybe I’d go for 9 weeks this time but even those 5 weeks seem such a long time😖

@RaliaMusca I feel like I would be similar to you and want more than 1 because I don’t think even seeing a scan with a heartbeart will be enough to make me feel better!

@LuckyMoonstone me too, I felt like they weren’t very well equipped to deal with loss even though it surely must happen all the time! I wish I could just pay the hospital to give me the scan, they were so much better at dealing with it at the epu!

@ChloeN we're thinking not to go for one as last time the baby had a heartbeat but was growing slow so I knew something wasn't right for weeks before I had the miscarriage ...& if we had one this time and something was wrong, probably nothing would be done for ages anyway. May cause unnecessary worry too. Think just going to risk waiting until 12 (if I get that far) but just feel so pessimistic :( it feels like a very long time to wait.

@theblueflowers that sounds like a good plan! I know exactly what you mean, I feel too anxious to join in on any of those chats. I think mc separates pregnancy and actually having a baby in your mind, if that makes sense? Even though I'm pregnant I still feel like I'm ttc as it's not certain it will become a baby. Sorry I'm totally rambling and not making much sense at all 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

@ChloeN personally I am totally put off going to private scan clinics now. Finding out i had miscarried at my local one and not at hospital made it so much worse, I felt so sorry for the lovely ladies who worked there who had to give me the terrible news. And now I feel like they’ll remember me and if it happens again I just couldn’t take the pity. I’m going to be so emotional and anxious next time, I’d rather be in hospital around medical professionals who expect to have to go through this sort of thing (if you get what I mean), even if it means waiting 12 weeks. But that’s just my feelings.

@ChloeN I had no early scans with my DD (blissfully unaware of all that can go wrong) and had a super healthy, successful pregnancy. Had an early scan at 7 weeks last time, even saw a good strong HB but baby stopped growing one week later, which was only picked up at the dating scan. This time round I'm 6 weeks along and already had two scans, another one next week, because of my recurrent bleeding episodes. I'm planning on getting another private one at 9 or 10 weeks because, as you said, I'm terrified of another MMC.

@ChloeN Personally I felt I couldn’t wait for 12 weeks dating scan either as it just felt so long to wait when it can all of ended at 6 weeks. But everyone is different.

I felt for me. Best scenario was scan at 8-9 weeks. As a heartbeat seen then the Mc rate is only 2%. And 98% chance of a successful pregnancy. Which is good odds. Obviously there will always be that’s 2%. But it’s much higher than at like 6/7 weeks.

An then I just tried to not think too much about it. And didn’t have another one until this one at 13 weeks. But it was a long 4/5 weeks tbh. I could of had another one but felt like what would it tell me. Again just a snapshot in time.

nothing is right or wrong though. Just what you feel is best for you to help you anxiety and help you cope.

I’ve been thinking about what to do with early scans next pregnancy… did any of you manage to wait till your nhs ones with successful pregnancies?
My wtw was so awful so wouldn’t go back there, but I don’t want to have another mmc and not pick it up till 12 weeks and feel like I’ve wasted time…

@mummatara well no miscarriage is a happy time but the scan hurt and I just felt numb. Think my mind has blocked it out now xx

@mummatara that was how my last miscarriage was. Blood test then scan. 4 or 5 times. It can't remember it all now. It wasn't a happy time.

@mummatara well it sounds like you’re taking it all in your stride. Hope it gets sorted out as quickly as possible

@LuckyMoonstone tbh I'm not sure it was all a bit vague they said well do the 2 blood tests and book you in for a scan after that 🤷🏼‍♀️ I'll ring about 3.30 so I guess I'll find out then. I did tell them on the phone I didn't think anything had passed and bleeding has stopped. Last time they scanned me with a hcg of 25 🤷🏼‍♀️ but it had only dropped about 4 in the 2 days so maybe if there's a big drop today they might wait it out. It seems to be their protocol blood tests then scan. Ahhh there's no flowery way to put it is there 🙊 I'm a tell it how it is person anyway

@mummatara ooh ok, so if it’s coming down at a good rate they won’t bother to scan? Unless they think they need to check if there’s anything left? Sorry it’s not a nice way to talk about it is it.