TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@Everythingzrosie Neither did I, never had any symptoms. I know I have not a good ending yet BUT I know people who have children and did not have a single symptom!
I think it is said to be about 20% of people that do not get any pregnancy symptoms, remember reading something like that!

@lovenaps I didn’t the last time, I was shocked to find out I was pregnant because I had my usual mood swings and no sore bbs.

@LuckyMoonstone okay, they are not a gullible bunch of people 😂x

@Everythingzrosie do you usually feel symptoms? Thanks as I saw it was Top 1 in the UK at the moment and did think about watching it! x

@lovenaps nah that would never fly with my family & friends for the whole of December 😂

@lovenaps don’t bother with The Watcher. I got really into it but found out the true story and needless to say I’m not watching it anymore.

@lovenaps There is ☺️ I don’t feel any bfp symptoms 🙁 got 4 more days to obsess though…

How is everyone doing? I am on A/L right now, ending soon but honestly, going back to work seems really challenging right now mainly because of comments I sometimes get and I am overly sensitive and get upset! And I do not bring up TTC at all but need to find a way to shut the comments/questions.
Planning to spend the day slowly cleaning the house.
Has anyone been reading or watching anything good on Netflix recently?

@Everythingzrosie it's 10 DPO so there's still hope ❤how are you feeling?

@LuckyMoonstone is this because people would be suspicious if you do not drink alcohol? Could you say that you are e.g. on antibiotics and absolutely cannot drink alcohol? x

@lizziecat1 it’s horrible isn’t it, I honestly feel like I can’t show my face there again because it’s almost embarrassing, which is a really stupid way to feel but I can’t help it.

it’s going to feel so weird not TTC this month. I keep thinking omg it’s November I’m so desperate to be pregnant soon then having to remind myself that I really don’t want to be pregnant over the Christmas period! There’s no way I could hide an early pregnancy over Christmas, and I absolutely wouldn’t want to tell people. Im still gonna keep an eye on this cycle, see if I ovulate any earlier or later since the MC.

@mummatara no it’s definitely not half, maybe she said 0 but it sounded like 8 😂 but it is going down so that’s good

@MrsCristianoX I had 25 sticks. Managed to use all of them in less than a week 🫣😩 I’m sticklers this morning after doing the last 20miu at 10dpo. Gagged when I cleaned my teeth.

@ChloeN that's such a shame. Mine were really lovely, and phoned epu to arrange everything for me, so when I got there, the staff already had my private scan report and knew what was happening. Hope you find a better place next time - if you decide to go down the early scanning route.
My dh is a vet, and says next time he will scan me weekly so we know what's happening!

@Everythingzrosie once I start I go through about 2 a day..the cheapies are just too tempting. I hate myself every time 😅

@lizziecat1 sounds like I just got really unlucky with the private scan I went to, they were honestly just crap! I suppose I could try another next time

@Mariabombia You're exactly right - pregnancy no longer = baby in my mind. The current goal is simply to be pregnant, then get over one hurdle at a time. I can't think as far ahead as an actual baby resulting from that

Scan wise I had the same experience as @LuckyMoonstone - my mmc was found at a private scan. I'd gone my own and felt so bad for the staff there having to support me through that. They were amazing, really compassionate, but I felt really guilty for making them have to deal with it!
I'd definitely have multiple early scans again though (if I'm lucky enough to actually get pregnant again) if there is another mmc, I'd want to know as soon as possible so I can be in control of treatment options etc.

@MrsCristianoX Yes it’s still early so I’m still hoping… I’m laughing at myself at what I’ve become! I advise others not to do exactly what I’m doing! I’ve lost my mind!

@Mariabombia it must be quite normal then. I wonder if I had it with my previous healthy pregnancy but just never noticed because I wasn't a paranoid mess back then 🙈

@RaliaMusca yes it was me! Had some at 4 and 5 weeks. Got a little bit the other day too. Really freaks me out when it happens !!

@FfayeN yes I was thinking that it's going in the right direction so hopefully nothing retained or if there is still some to come out then it will happen when it gets a bit closer to zero. It's 2.5 weeks since I started bleeding, a week since it stopped and last time it took 6 weeks to drop so I'm kind of mentally prepared for it to take that long

I just wrote this whole message for it to disappear 😭😭😭 as I was saying just got off the phone with the EPU my levels Monday were 2109 and she said todays 1851 she then said that's good it's dropped by half 😳 my maths isn't great but I wouldn't say that's half 🤣 tbf she wasn't English and I swear she said 1851 twice but I suppose it could be 1051 🤷🏼‍♀️ anyhoo got to go back Friday for another blood test and they can't get me in for a scan until 31st oct 🤦🏼‍♀️ I did ask if I get a negative test or have more bleeding between now and then should I cancel and she said no I would still come just to get checked out

@ChloeN Yep anyone who was in their care for a miscarriage gets one (according to the leaflet). Whether they will deny if if we ever try to book one I'm not sure. I doubt I will ever find out 😂

@LuckyMoonstone thats good, I found the ladies at epu really lovely!

@FfayeN oh no this is what I’m worried about with early scans, there’s always got to be that 2%😭 that should be a normal belly scan then too? It’s silly but I found having an internal to find out bad news so much worse

@TheBirdintheCave is that for anyone that’s had a loss?? I did ask at mine but they said no! That’s my thing if it’s another mmc I want to deal with it asap

@Luna57 thank you, that gives me a bit reassurance. I swear before the MC I didn't ever bother looking at loo paper and now I check obsessively every couple of hours. It's almost comical how much a MC can mess with your brain.