TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@ChloeN its so crazy isn’t it! She also said she had a really light period with my sister, I was like mum, that’s implantation bleeding 🙄😂

@HalWin2221 my mum said the same! She said she could of had early mcs and had no idea because she thought her period was just late!

@mummatara that is good news :)

@mummatara thats good news! Glad they are heading in the right direct for you!

@FfayeN hope you’re okay. The beginning of pregnancy is so scary. My mum said when she had my siblings, she had to get tested at the doctors after missing her second period and that’s how it was back then! Almost wish it was still like that because it’s torture this beginning bit of pregnancy isn’t it 🙁

@FfayeN oooh lovely I hope it's nothing for you ❤️xxx

@ChloeN haha good luck 🤞🏼 I always say I'll hold out then bam I never do 😆

Latest blood result is 1088 so we had 2109 Monday, 1851 weds and 1088 Friday so I'm happy with that. Still have a scan booked but I think it's just taking a while to drop. Hopefully one more week if it follows the same trajectory 🤞🏼

@FfayeN I had brown spotting around 5 weeks . Epau wouldn't see me as it was too early and said it's most likely implantation so I'm guessing it would be the same for you if it's just spotting. Xx

@FfayeN oh love, so sorry you're feeling anxious. Remember that cramping, back ache and spotting early on can be completely normal. I've had three heavy bleeds including cramping. Haven't had a scan since my last bleed a week ago but after the previous two all was still fine. And I honestly thought that no bean could have survived those. So don't panic yet. If the pink cm turns into bleeding, obviously call you local EPU. Fingers crossed it's just a bit of spotting. Sending you calming thoughts ✨

@TheBirdintheCave oooo you did so well!! It’s so hard to hold out 🤣

@mummatara yep I’ve got sooo many tests but I’m just trying to stop myself doing them for as long as poss. Let us know how your blood results go!

@Luna57 why are people so bloody nosey, that must be so annoying 😡

@lizziecat1 yipeee🤞🏻🥳🥳

Flashing smiley face at last! Off we go......

@Sailawaygirl you are not old. I'm 45!!! Hope your return to work goes smoothly.

@Luna57 Regarding whether to wait for a period before ttc again, I think it's up to you. The docs normally advise to wait simply so the can date the pregnancy more easily. I wanted to get pregnant again asap and managed to catch the very first egg after my MMC. Plus I know when I conceived so the dating is fairly easy. But I've had all this stupid bleeding and wonder if I'd given my body the chance to "recalibrate" and have a proper clear-out, I might not have had any bleeding in the next pregnancy. But who knows, all these things are guessing games.

Welcome to all the new ladies sorry you're here❤️

@ChloeN oooh I hate 8dpo because it's so tempting 🙈 have you got any tests in the house?

@Luna57 I think people just like to feel they know something other people don't. Everyone in my office knows about both of mine but I am a small office with 5 other ladies so it's hard to hide anything and tbh it was nice to have the support esp as I've been in and out the office back and forth to the hospital 🙄

3rd blood test today hopefully will get results in about an hour. I checked weds level when I was there it was 1851 so nowhere near half of 2109 😂 but it's going down so that's all we care about

@Luna57 that sounds difficult, especially the texts to get you to reveal more info. Some people can be so nosey and seemingly without true caring. How long post MC are you? My bleeding / spotting ended 3 days ago but I am still a faint positive on tests. ( im 2 weeks post next Monday and they asked me to come back to hospital if still positive by then, but hopefully go going down).
Im sorry to read that you have had such a difficult journey since june. The advise to me was to have a natural period before TTC again , which I might follow but I do hope AF comes sooner so we can start TTC again. Also I'm desperate to have sex with OH! Just to connect on physical level again. I'm hoping it's OK now I'm 3 days no more spotting.
Never thought I would wanting a negative test !

@Sailawaygirl sorry to hear about your Mc! You do need time off but also too much time off gets your brain ticking over time too. I haven’t been in work all of October because I can’t work while pregnant and they normally sort another job for you after your 12 week scan. I haven’t told my work I’ve had a Mc yet but hoping to go back to work start of November. I feel so nervous going back. Where I work they love the gossip so it’s been going around someone is pregnant I’ve even had a couple people (who I wouldn’t call friends) text me to try to get it out of me that I’m the pregnant one. Not sure what people gain from trying to find out who’s pregnant or not. I never told anyone in my work of my last mc but I feel like I might tell them this time if I get continuous “would you not have anymore kids” well I’m trying but my body is just rejecting it 🤷🏼‍♀️😂

bleeding is nearly over it’s more cm with some blood just I haven’t tested but I’d say I’m probably very nearly negative now if not negative. Premom is trying to say I’ll O in 6 days but I don’t use it to track ovulation I use it to log af so I never forget when I actually have one 😂 I haven’t had a proper menstrual period since June my bleeds have been Mc bleeding wondering should I try and have a proper af before dtd without caution?

@ChloeN Good luck :D I made it til 12dpo without testing last month but now I have a fresh box of cheapies so I know I won't have that willpower this time around 😅

Anyone else in the tww at the mo? I’m 8dpo, just got back from holiday so now nothing to distract me😭🤣 I’m not testing unless I miss a period (I hope) which is next weekend, feel like this will be the longest week ever 🤣

@bunnykins123 @Fuckallthetories really nice to hear stories of supportive colleagues. I do feel a little more confident about Monday and telling people.

@Mariabombia yhank you. I also defo needed more than a week off due to pain and bleeding ++. I've only had a few tears but I tend to think I've delt with things and then it affects me a few months down the line.

@bunnykins123 well 🤞🏻 anyway love, & hope you feel better soon. Sending you a big cuddle.

@Sailawaygirl welcome to the group ♥️ I took 2 weeks off , I needed the first week as I was in so much physical pain & needed the second week as I was just so emotional, crying all the time. I'm so appreciative I was able to have that time to recover as if I had tried to oppress it all I think my mental health would have really taken a knock.

@Mariabombia thank you for your optimism 😘 unfortunately, I get bad pms now so I've had sore breasts for about a week now. Usually they stay sore until AF arrives but today they have stopped hurting and I have light brown spotting so I am 99.9% sure AF is around the corner! If I wasn't so I'll, I'd probably be really upset!

@Sailawaygirl I didn't take any time off but in hindsight that was a big mistake. I did tell my colleagues and was actually surprised at how helpful it was to talk and how supportive everyone was. I didn't get any silly comments like 'well at least you know you can get pregnant' and actually had people come forward regarding losses they had or their parents had which was reassuring. I think do what feels right for you. I wouldn't assume people would be thinking about what illness you had either - people get sick and take time off work for many reasons 💕

Hi@Sailawaygirl when I had my mc, it took 2 weeks off, and thought it would be extremely awkward going back to work (I also work in healthcare, surgeon) but it wasn’t, my team where extremely understanding when I told them and didn’t bat an eyelid. I get what you mean about feeling you are ‘abandoning’ your patients, I felt like this to, particularly about this girl who had been waiting for a heart transplant for 5 years but you know these things happen, and one of the other specialists in my team did the operation. I also went out with my friends, just to feel more ‘normal’. I hope this is useful to you, it’s hard my love xxx