TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@bunnykins123 it will. U know your body can do it 😘 @Luna57 I totally get that. I've been to all my scans on my own. Combo of no childcare/not telling anyone so not been able to arrange anything. Weirdly though, I actually found it easier to go on my own as then I only had to think about myself and not having to worry about anyone else. I could hardly walk into my first scan, I was terrified. I just told them straightaway what my history was and they were so good. Holding my hand and told me straightaway once they found the heartbeat xx

@TheBirdintheCave what on earth was happening on Wednesday 🤣🤣

Woke up with another temperature this morning 🤦🏻‍♀️ This bloody cold is messing with my chart so much 😂 6dpo today!

I had a dream last night that we had a scan and found out we were having twins. In the dream I was happy but in reality that would be a nightmare 😂

Crazy chart attached for giggles.

I like the sound of this Fertililly! I may jump on the bandwagon next cycle and give it a try. How many of us have it now?

@Luna57 When is your scan again?

@theblueflowers Good to hear from you again :) I booked the first of the hotels yesterday as that's free to reserve. I wish I could do the same with flights and ferries but I get why that's impossible 🙄

@ChickenT2b glad you got on with the ferti lily, I’m trying it tonight 🤣🤣 my LH seems to be like yours, literally so faint and nothing to then dark! I think I still ovulated the next day rather than the same day

@mummatara my furthest-on natural MC was at 9w and I bled for almost 3 weeks, started off as 2 days of spotting then had small contraction like pains and massive, very visual and identifiable 'products', followed by heavy bleed for 3 solid days before it tapered off to moderate to light bleed for what felt never ending. I found it quite traumatic! I really hope your experience is a gentler one as you've been through enough already!

Good luck everyone for your TWWs 🤞🙃

Thanks for the tag!

Fertilily is IN ladies, so far so good 🙈.

I’ve been away for work so a little late in trying. Feel like I may have actually ovulated last night or today as LH was positive yesterday (negative day before) and less dark today 🧐 so we may be too late..
Does anyone else have a one day surge? Does that mean ovulation happens quickly after or could still be over 24 hours later?

@RaliaMusca thank you! I only had my miscarriage 2 weeks ago - I’ve just been lucky enough my body has gone back to normal straight away! So i can’t book for another 10 weeks anyway then 🤦🏽‍♀️

@HalWin2221 I had my invite for the smear the day I had my miscarriage. Great timing. 🤦‍♀️ So I looked it up then and it's advised to wait at least 12 weeks after a miscarriage or after having given birth. They won't give you one during pregnancy.

@mummatara how old is your child? Mine will be 4 on Tuesday and she went through a phase of really rubbish sleep about 6 months ago. Lots of handholding and stroking needed to drift off and then at least one wake-up a night which required one of us (my husband 😅) to sleep next to her. We then introduced a sticker chart for sleeping through (she loves a good sticker chart) and gave her a Yoto player. She listens to stories now to go to sleep and it also shows the moon at night and sun in the morning so she knows not to come wake me up before 7am 😜

@Luna57 I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you for your scan. Going in on your own can be really tough. I hope you get a kind sonographer who understands how you feel.
Have you decided yet what to decorate in your house? 😂 I've decided today to repaint the kitchen... once my workload allows it again

@mummatara i had both my MC at 5 weeks and I bled for 5 days. First one was very clotty, second only a few clots - more period like! Hope you’re doing ok!

I’ve just had my letter through for a smear. Is it safe to do if pregnant? I’m worried to have it done in TWW, what if they dislodge the embryo! Am I being irrational?! 🫣

@bunnykins123 he's been working away all week 😭 so I've been unloading to others who have been kind enough to listen @MamaSJ15 😘 DH says he's fine about it and maybe he is but I'll read him better tomorrow xx

@mummatara it could totally just be a phase. DD often breaks habits when she's either been unwell or has a growth spurt but she always ends up in our bed. She's been unwell recently and had started basically rolling onto me in bed so I have absolutely no room and she has the entire bed to play with (DH ends up leaving due to being kicked in the balls). I've not had a natural later miscarriage but I have heard from a few people that you may feel contractions before the actual loss takes place. I'm really hoping you've already gone through all that and you're body has done what it should do!

@MrsCristianoX yeh I'm sure although it will probably be a nice break from POAS and worrying about how many times you face dtd! How does DH feel about it all?

@bunnykins123 no nothing like that yet probably like everything else took an age last time I'm here for the long slog 🙄 god you just want to punch some people 👊🏼the ungratefulness. well he goes to sleep in his cot though that's taking me about 45 mins of sitting there whilst he holds my hand 🤦🏼‍♀️ and he wakes up between 11-1 and will not go back in his cot so bring him in our bed which I actually think he doesn't like because he still doesn't sleep well. Last night I took him in the spare bed when he woke and he was out like a light until 7.45. I'm wondering if it might be time to get a proper bed for his room. We'll have to dtd in place of cooking and eating dinner 😂 that's our window! It's annoying only two weeks ago I would put him down awake with his milk he would get himself to sleep no need to wait around and then not wake up until 7.30 🤷🏼‍♀️ I want that one back please 😂

@MrsCristianoX no judgement here I watch some absolute tripe and after I watch it I sit there and think wtaf did I waste that time for 😂 it's scary isn't it what people do but I suppose they just don't worry about it well unless it all goes wrong then hindsight is great 😳

@bunnykins123 all pharmanord ubiquinol 100mg, vitamin c, and vitamin E. I'm already taking Vit b and d. I'm ok..I might not be ok during fertile week but I've been too blasé about my health and eating in general. I figure this will give me the kick I need. I'm a year overdue for my smear ffs so I'll take this time to ready my body. Xx

@mummatara I watched (and please don't judge me) the new 'Billy Faires episodes and there your woman is scaling up a fake cliff at a time when I would be freaking out in the first trimester with a belt wrapped round her bump and I have to say it annoyed me way too much.. I'm just being super sensitive and I know it.

@mummatara I totally get that. For some reason, Facebook is showing me ALL the gender reveals (god knows why, I defo don't actively watch these) and saw a reveal with a woman so disappointed with the gender and it made me really sad. Also DD hasn't slept in her own bed in months. It really does make dtd hard. No advice, only that we use the spare room a lot 😬 are you having any contraction type pains?

@lovenaps how many attempts did you manage to get in? It is such a relief when DH is onboard and up for the 'challenge' 😂

@MrsCristianoX what vitamins did you get in the end? How are you feeling about the news of having some time out of ttc?

@calimc83 im on it... god I SO wish we get some good luck sent our way soon!

@LuckyMoonstone glad you're doing okay. Are you still doing pregnancy tests or just waiting until the next blood test

@MrsCristianoX thanks lovely ❤️ haha I'm trying not to be so pms about everything but there are little things that I'm stewing on then 5 mins later I'm like what am I doing 🤦🏼‍♀️ I also got in such a rage about a pregnancy announcement I saw on insta yesterday I'm sure it's nothing like I've imagined it in my head but she seemed so blasé about the whole thing she was talking about something else and then it felt like an afterthought added onto the end of the comment but they were getting a new family member next year. She already has a son who is a few months younger than my DS and I honestly don't know why it affected me so much it felt like it just came so easy for her and it was just like oh yea we went to the shops and the stork is delivering a baby next year like it's the most easiest thing in the world 🙄 I've seen a tonne of announcements and even a very close friend just found out she's expecting and none of them have bothered me whatsoever 🤷🏼‍♀️

@calimc83 im a bit nervous about the scan. I’m not sure I could hear bad news and dh will have ds as we haven’t told anyone yet so I’m gonna go in on my own too.

@mummatara i bled for 2 days started the Friday night, had the clots saturday all day and then Sunday it tailed off. I might of had a slight bit of brown after but nothing major. The further along you are the more you will bleed tho I suspect. I was 6 weeks.

@mummatara I bled for about 2 weeks lovely I'm so sorry. It peaked about one week after starting Hell yeah the rage is unreal. Virtual hug xxx

If my DS doesn't start sleeping on his own again soon I don't think we're even going to get the chance to conceive another child 🤦🏼‍♀️ I have been in such a foul mood this week like really raging pms hormones which I never normally get. Those that had a natural MC how long did you bleed for? I'm thinking it will just be the length of a period but realistically mine are usually no more than 5 days and that will be tomorrow and I know I haven't passed it yet it's not very heavy just like a normal period so far and not many clots so I think the worst is still to come 🤔

@MrsCristianoX thank you for the good luck wishes. We aren't managing to DTD today though (😣😕) but we did yesterday so hopefully.... My OH has been brilliant with all his efforts this cycle and I am proud.

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best. Enjoy this break from TTC, I know it was forced upon you and not chosen which makes it more difficult, but please try to be gentle on yourself, do things you enjoy, look after yourself. Maybe even find some lovely books and series to read/watch! I believe this can be good for your body and your soul and you will come back in good health and fully ready to TTC again! 🌸

Does it bookmark the thread or just comments? Anyway glad I found you all again x

So who just realised there’s a bookmark 🙋🏻‍♀️

@FfayeN thanks for the add!! Scared of losing track of you ladies while I'm on the sub bench 😕🤣

@LuckyMoonstone I really hope your blood hcg starts to fall and you aren't joining me but I'll be here absolutely hoping for the best x

I'll have a wee read at your messages later but to all in TWW good luck 🤞 it feels really odd to not be ttc even though DH is working away. I bought all the vitamins in work today good help my body