TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@Luna57 clutching at straws is my new hobby. My last bleeding started after I was hoovering so I was wondering the same.
The scan is at the EPU. As I had a suspected ectopic due to one-sided pain, they're monitoring me more carefully.
I really hope it's good news for you too. Any bleeding in pregnancy is so upsetting.

@RaliaMusca i dont know if it’s tailing off again or it’s the cyclogest but yet again the bleeding is brown discharge again. I’m wondering if this bleeding is from my cervix too and maybe lifting ds and doing housework etc. is setting it off again. Or her prodding my insides with that scanner made it even worse too. The sister said the cervix is a lot more vascular during pregnancy so even pushing too hard on the toilet can cause a bleed too. Think I’m clutching at straws here but I’m sure I’ll know for definite in the next 2 weeks. Sounds like a 100% rise, it’s doubled. Is it a private scan or epu? Awk I really hope it’s good news for you! I’ll have everything crossed for you!

@Luna57 sorry to hear your bleeding has picked up again. It sounds so much like mine. On and off. So stressful!
The last bloods were done literally a few hours after the bleeding had started. I had a call from the nurse this morning contradicting what the doctor had said. Doctor said it's looking good whilst nurse said they would have wanted to see a 63% rise and mine was only 50%. Which I don't understand because the doctor said it had doubled, which according to my maths is 100%. Or am I being daft?
I have a scan booked for tomorrow afternoon and am already an anxious mess.

Thanks everyone! To add to my broken record my bleeding is heavier I had to actually wear a proper pad last night and not just a panty liner. Still no cramps or clots. It’s fresh blood. It’s annoying as soon as it tails off and goes to brown discharge the bleeding starts all over again. I used the cyclogest last night and then this morning again. I’ve decided just to wait the 2 weeks out and then whatever the outcome when I’ll tell my mum. I’ve a wee baby grow I bought in July before mc that I’d planned to use to tell my mum she was gonna be a nana again at this rate I’ll never get using it 😂

@Mariabombia i had that discharge from the beginning too some times the only way I could describe it was like custard and it would get lighter and darker and thicker and thinner again it’s completely normal and apparently a good sign as it’s your hormones increasing to support the pregnancy but believe me I know your pain of worry. Previous mc really suck the joy out of any new pregnancies. My epu said they like to wait til 7-8 weeks. Def wait a little longer cos you might end up in limbo like me with no heartbeat. I had an early scan at 9 weeks with ds and it was perfect! He had a lovely little heartbeat and could see him doing flips. I really didn’t appreciate it at the time

@RaliaMusca the doubling of hcg is so good! Was the blood drawn before you had the bleed again? Hoping your bleed is just cervical from the increasing hormones. I’ve never had blood tests to show my hcg. I’m still too scared to take another test mostly because I can’t hold my urine long enough cos I keep going just to check the bleeding.

Thanks :) I hope this is your lucky month too! I just wish my husband's sperm was normal. I feel like we only have a 5% chance each month.

@TheBirdintheCave you had great coverage in terms of attempts this cycle! Got my fingers crossed for you 🤞

@bunnykins123 i feel fine to be honest, no pains or anything. I wish I could find out what has been causing it to rise though, it’s all been so bizarre

@Everythingzrosie I'm really sorry your SO is messing you around :(

I managed to leave my contact lenses in last night so was basically wrenching them out of my eyes ta 5am x__x 9dpo today. I only have one test left in the house from last cycle so I'm going to do my best to get to Thursday. I am not feeling hopeful though.

@Everythingzrosie have you spoken to him again about trying for another? If he is suggesting conforms and pulling out, I wonder if he's sending a message to you that way? On the flip side, men can just be a bit oblivious when ttc and think we will be the next Virgin Mary...🤷‍♀️

@bunnykins123 he produced a condom earlier in the day so I’m guessing he’s not in the same page as me. I’m so passed off that I went through a pregnancy I didn’t want (until I lost it) he told me it was his baby too so I thought he wanted a baby. Then I go through 3 months of feeling sick and getting a bump, to go through a MMC and now he’s messing with my head.

@ChickenT2b me 🙋‍♀️ I'm 2DPO too, my cycle was early this month and my temps are defo looking a bit iffy. I sometimes wonder if the thermometer is a bit crap as I can get different readings every time I use it! God knows if I've ovulated...

@Everythingzrosie err was that intentional on his part? 🤔 or just didn't think?

@ChickenT2b I have this cycle! Took until 4dpo to see the big jump that I'm used to post O. I think as long as your temps are trending upwards you're good.

So I’m not sure how I’m supposed to ttc when dh pulls out so that’s me done here 😞

I can’t keep up with you ladies but just dropping by to say hello and you got this 💪🏼

3dpo over here, if I actually ovulated at all. All the signs (LH+, cramps, CM, sore boobs) but temp is really not rising very much at all. Anyone else have a slow temp rise?
Xx

@LuckyMoonstone I think that sounds promising! The fact it's not jumped up significantly, hopefully the HCG will clear up on its own accord. How are you feeling overall?

@mummatara how are you getting on lady? 💕

@Luna57 that's what this group is for! It's a place to vent, moan, get advice but ultimately support each through the highs and lows 💕

@FfayeN Im leaving it in as long as poss 🤣🤣xxx

@FfayeN think I’ve nailed getting the ferti lily in🙌🙌 I think I was holding the middle bit which wouldn’t let me flip it🤣

@Luna57 hope you’re feeling okay❤️ sending lots of love xx

@Luna57 oh gosh im so sorry you didn't get a definitive answer from your scan. As others have said, 6 weeks is so so early. It's good that you are measuring where you thought u should be. A few days can make all the difference. U could always try a private scan in a week or so...try not to stress too much, I know that's so much easier said than done. We're all here for you 💕 @Mariabombia how are u doing this evening? Pregnancy after loss is so hard. I've also not had sex, been to the gym either this time around. With my first I was still doing spin classes up to 10/11 weeks 😣. I hope the discharge stops asap, if defo call EPU in the am and see if they can scan u. Thinking of u xx

@MrsCristianoX ahhh okay fingers crossed they'll do that then. At the moment I'm feeling so pessimistic like I won't get that far. I need to try chill but it's so hard isn't it x

@Mariabombia oh god yea for sure. But they booked me in for 6.5 weeks when I rang at 5 weeks xx

@Luna57 I debated whether to tell my parents as they were both heartbroken after my MMC. But I decided to tell them just because I know they want to be there for me. If my daughter was ever in this position, I'd hope she would tell me too.

It's so hard navigating other people's feeling, isn't it? I also have a friend who lost a baby at 20 weeks and I wasn't sure how to tell her because I felt like my grief didn't even come close to hers.

@MrsCristianoX I feel like they may say 5 weeks is too early to scan which is fair enough I guess.

Please don't be hard on yourself about that though, ttc is a hard journey and I've resorted to comfort eating many times when everything else is basically off the table lol. You'll be back ttc in no time xx

@Luna57 don’t feel like you have to be quiet for us - especially when this is your only place to vent right now. Early pregnancy can be so lonely so if being active on here helps please carry on! My I had my second MC I didn’t tell my mum until after and she wished I had told her sooner so she could be there for me (not that your having a MC but you get my point! 😊) - if you have that relationship and you want to tell her, you should! I hope your DH is ok too! ❤️