TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@Luna57 imo don't worry about the house. Doctors called it bed rest back in the day so take it easy these early stages xx

@MrsCristianoX i feel like that’s happening more and more in health care atm. She must of been given a checklist to phone you and didn’t think to actually see why she was phoning you.

my house is sitting a tip but I’m too scared to get stuck in incase it brings it on again. Ds is back to childcare today after his injections yesterday I’m 50% missing him but 50% loving lying on the sofa watching bloodlands with the dogs.

@Luna57 glad the info helped and no they don't prescribe it randomly so there is a definite chance.

Yesterday I had just come of the phone to a practice nurse who was surprisingly (or maybe unsurprisingly🙄) in the dark about my situation even though future appointments have been made, and prescriptions issued. Read my notes before you ring me woman

Anyway glad the bleeding has calmed xx

@ChloeN before ds I worried than I only ever seen EWCM when I was doing a no2 (tmi 😂) now after emergency forceps and a HUGE episiotomy everything falls out of me even. Sometimes I sneeze and think I’ve peed myself but nope was just cm.

@MrsCristianoX thank you for the information. I’m sure consultants wouldn’t prescribe it as I’m sure it’s expensive if they didn’t believe it helped maintain a pregnancy with low progesterone.

@Mariabombia glad to hear the spotting has stopped!

@RaliaMusca have you your scan today? Good luck!

don’t want to talk too soon but I haven’t had any real bleeding since yesterday evening. Although the cyclogest is definitely having fun with my stomach the wind and wind pains are fantastic 😂 to add to my anxieties my friend in work messaged to say it’s going round our base someone else is pregnant. I finally came out and told her it was me but told her what’s been happening so that’s why I want everything to be kept confidential. She said she thought it was me because all of a sudden i had a ‘sore ear’ and never in work 😂 you can’t fart in that office and everyone knows!!!!

@ChloeN This is something I've worried about to. I'd see it after going to the loo and be like 'No! Stay up there where I need you!' 😂

In other news, I've been reading more about the Fetilily and will definitely be ordering one if Thursday's test is a bust. Hopefully it'll be just the thing to help my husband's lazy swimmers 😅

I get quite a bit of ewcm each cycle, but now (stupidly probably🤦🏻‍♀️) I’m worrying that it’s all coming out and none is staying up there ready for the sperm🤣 is the cm just around the cervix or is it in other parts to help the sperm move along?

@FfayeN Yes we are exactly the same :) I did start temping this month but I've stopped now as I don't want to see when it starts to go down again 😅

@mummatara gotcha! I always thought they were reasonably accurate but you never really know with these things! Well my cycle was way early this month so I only got 1 temp before O and that was super high 🤷‍♀️ so really I think there is no way to know at this point. I've also been having a bit of veeeery light pink spotting which I think was preseed. Not using that again...!!

@bunnykins123 no I think they are accurate 😂 when I got the solid smiley and checked with a strip that was also peak. The only annoying thing was the 8 days of flashing smileys my estrogen must rise early to make it flash we were knackered by solid smiley day 🙄 I have heard that an hour can make a difference but I also read it shouldn't matter as long as you've had a solid sleep 🤷🏼‍♀️ tbh mine don't vary that much and my sleep is awful I just make sure I've taken it with a good solid chunk of sleep.Has it dropped back down to pre O temp or just dropped a little?

@mummatara 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣 technology is not my strong point lol.
Thanks for that message♥️ No more spotting so far so that's good. However that doesn't mean everything's okay but I suppose no one ever knows at 5 weeks. It's such a waiting game isn't it!

@lovenaps so many people who I thought would 'get it' don't and then some people who I didn't think would have actually surprised me, it's a weird one. I don't think people really understand until they've had a loss. Hope you're okay, we're all here for you ♥️

@lovenaps oh hun, you're not alone even though it can sometimes feel like that. I have wobbles quite frequently now, that's mainly as the hope I once had is slowly diminishing. For me this journey has been going on way longer than I ever anticipated (recent diagnosis of high NK cells 😢) and 3 miscarriages. This forum is a godsend as it's somewhere we can openly talk and get support.

@mummatara so are you saying CB ovulation sticks aren't accurate 🤯

Temp went down today so doesn't look like O happened. Does temping an hour or so before your other temps affect the reading?

@lovenaps big big virtual hugs 💕 I was absolutely at the end of my tether a week ago felt like I was holding on by the thinnest thread. You do get to a point where you know the friends that are worth your time and there's nothing wrong with cutting ones that are not contributing to your well being loose. As hard as it it sometimes. You will get through this one day your dream will be reality. It never even entered my head after we had DS that I would have one MC let alone 2 but it shows me how strong we all are in this group that we pick ourselves up time and time again and we just keep going because we are so determined that we know what we want and we will endure everything to get it ❤️❤️

@lovenaps remember it's ok not to be ok. talk to any of us when you need to❤️ I'm sorry I kinda lost track of everyone..are you close to testing?

I feel similar. You had a loss and it f**king hurts. I choose my friends now too, you aren't alone with this

@Mariabombia 😂 your tagging me made me chuckle! Oh god sometimes don't you just wish they wouldn't say anything 🙄 It just puts fear into you. I didn't have any spotting or bleeding at all so yes it could be but it also might be nothing. It's so so hard not to worry about these things esp as you now have to wait to know for certain. I'm sending you all the big hugs and love 💕

My last mc took 6 weeks to go negative but I did have a D&C so I do think that's a bit different on the body

@HalWin2221 haha no you can trust the CBs 😂 I tracked with two of them the second was a surprise we did it once and I O 5 days later. We were being careful in FW as we were getting married in May so we planned to try properly after that. But that one time it had been a while so we sort of got distracted in the moment and I didn't imagine I would get pregnant 🤦🏼‍♀️ I was 9 weeks pregnant at our wedding 😂

I used to use the strips alongside the temping but cycle after our MC in June I upgraded to CB OPK. When I got the solid smiley I checked with a strip. I liked that I only had to do one wee in the morning with those and much easier to interpret for me. I did have a flashing smiley for about 8 days though that was very very annoying and tiring

@lovenaps people are quite selfish I find, one of my friends went through a tough time just after my mc and I was always asking if she was okay, never got the same back! I’m not someone who needs to talk to people or get sympathy but good job really, I wouldn’t of got any!

@HalWin2221 I wanted to do it everyday in the fw so I didn’t feel like I’d missed out 🤣 it’s not been too bad tbh but hope he doesn’t get any ideas that’ll be like this all month😂

@RaliaMusca I'm no expert in hospital medicine. Consultants tend to prescribe it in secondary care and they are rarely wrong. Then your gp will authorise a prescription based on consultant recommendation. Progesterone suppositories/vaginal doses will not support a baby with chromosomal abnormalities. It's basically used to maintain a healthy uterine lining to support a viable embryo if the issue is low progesterone. I did read medicine.org but if your progesterone is failing it's a necessary step Xx

@lovenaps hope you’re okay 🙁 it is such a lonely feeling being in the position that we are all in. I think running is such a normal feeling! Remember you’ve got all us to vent to, anytime 🥰

@ChloeN 4 days in a row! 😵 we did it 3 days in a row and poor OH had to really concentrate to get anywhere 😂 you go girl!

@mummatara oh god, don’t tell me that, I get so excited about CB smileys and now I’m going to think they are lying to me! 😂 did you track temp etc with your other children? 😊

Shitty shitty time. So tired of everything. So tired of people, of childlessness 😥I often cry on the way to work but then just wipe my tears before going in. Today was one of those days.
I will not be able to face a negative test this month 😪Honestly, this will be the final straw. Also made a conscious decision yesterday to not speak to one of my friends anymore (unlikely she would notice as I was the one putting in all the effort in this 'friendship') as she is been shit about things.
Most of people in my circle know about the first loss, not everyone knows about the second but if I could, I would go back in time and not tell any of them!

I just want to move somewhere else (with DH obviously!) and start afresh! Does anyone ever feel the same??

@mummatara omg I'm the worst at tagging 🤣

With my natural mc I had to wait a week , get scanned and then do a test after 2 weeks and call if positive still but thankfully it wasn't. I did take ages to go negative though as it was positive a few day before those two weeks finished. Hope yours will go negative quickly for you ♥️

Ummm I've got sore boobs and stabbing pains in my pelvis but I'm only 5 weeks so not too concerned about not having much nausea yet.

It's just what epu said that's playing on my mind about spotting possibly being either implantation or a blighted ovum. Im really trying to be positive but feel so pessimistic.

@Mariabombia I'm ok started bleeding last mon hopefully there won't be any retained products 🤞🏼 I have to do a test in 3 weeks I don't know if that's from when it ends but I'm guessing yes and call if it's still positive. Last time they made Me wait one more week to test again then I had bloods done then they scanned me so I imagine they will do the same if it's positive at 3 weeks. Are you not having many symptoms? What makes you worried about a blighted ovum? ❤️