TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@TheBirdintheCave I have this problem too I O anywhere between day 14 and 23 hence the DTD 3 days in a row last time but I know that realistically it can happen as my pregnancy in March was DTD once 5 days before O. It's just the anxiety of getting as much in as possible isn't it 🙈

@bunnykins123 I really hope it is! I’ll see if I can do one this evening. If not then tomorrow AM

@LuckyMoonstone could you hold your pee for the next 4 hours and do a quick dip test? That way you should get an indication. At 84, regardless of the time of the day, you would still get a second line regardless of urine concentration. Orrrrr wait for tomorrow like any other sane person 🙃 I actually think this is your body recognising the miscarriage so hopefully this is the end 🤞

@TheBirdintheCave are your cycles irregular? Do you use OPKs? I totally get what you're saying though. My O date this month was cd11 and I'm usually a cd14/15 kinda gal so our attempts were rubbish.

@TheBirdintheCave i worry about this also, so I just do it everyday just in case 🤣

@bunnykins123 is the dtd every other day for everyone or just for low sperm count? Ive seen conflicting advice online!

@bunnykins123 @mummatara The problem I have with every other day is that they also recommend making sure you DTD the day before O. But if you have a cycle like mine where you don't know which day O will happen then it may well fall on a non-DTD day which would surely lessen the chance of it working that cycle, right?

@mummatara literally just the tiniest little period-type pains, no sharp/stabbing pains or one-sided pains

@bunnykins123 not since the last one, I’ll have to do one in the morning and compare it to my pic of the other days if I can find it on this thread! Deleted it off my phone. I’ll probs still have some hcg as it was like 82 on Sunday but if it has started dropping since then, that could be what is triggering me to bleed to sort of ‘finish’ the miscarriage

@LuckyMoonstone have you taken another test to see if you are still getting strong lines? If not, it could be either your normal period or your body recognising the miscarriage. It doesn't sound to me like ectopic unless your HCG is still in your system. I'm so sorry you're going through this 💕

@bunnykins123 oh bless him 💕 it's def started again properly enough for a pad so I won't get excited if it stops nothings going to happen anyway until my hcg is a lot lot lower I imagine 🤷🏼‍♀️ yes must be very difficult I'm 36 and I know many people my age that have no troubles whatsoever you hear that clock ticking don't you. Well every 2/3 days is certainly less tiring 🙊 tbh we did 3 days in a row last time and I did vow not again I'm not built for that much bedroom activity 😂

@ChloeN thanks lovely least I know not unusual

@LuckyMoonstone ooh glad something is happening for you. I think if you're not in pain I would just leave and see how it goes

@ChickenT2b yeah, I had blood tests in both because first one I had pain in my left side so they were worried it was ectopic and second one I had a small bleed. I bled each time at 5 weeks.
That just of been so awful to try for that long and have a mc 🙁 hope you’re doing okay! how are you feeling about this cycle? Xx

Hey all, sorry I’ve been quiet and haven’t chatted much, or been very helpful to anyone else, but now I need help 😆

Today and yesterday I’ve had this squeezy feeling in my stomach which I aaaalways get when AF is near, so I was wondering if this was the case. I’ve just been to the loo and I am bleeding. Im having no pain whatsoever. Im in two minds about whether to bother telling the EPU, because I dont want them to jump to the conclusion that it’s a tube rupturing and make me have drugs/surgery. Im wondering if it’s my body realising that the pregnancy is over and it’s finally getting rid of whatever was left in my that was causing hcg to rise.

Do you think it would be ok for me to keep it to myself for now? I could do a test every day and see if the line is getting lighter, if it is then my theory is right. Obviously if I’m in pain I will ring them, but I’m really not, not even AF cramps!

@mummatara when you go through something like this, irrespective of ttc again, you just want to feel normal again so you can reset. It's the not knowing that becomes so tiresome! How's the bleeding now? Sorry, I just re-read my message. He said to dtd every 2/3 days (and not everyday as that doesn't allow enough time for spermies to regenerate). He's having the frag test done just to see if it's anything to do with him having poo sperm. I guess our tests are looking at the bigger (scarier) picture of whether we will look into IVF as I started this journey when I was 36 and it's a year later, still no baby. The irony is I have so many friends who have easily conceived at my age and older so it's a case of eliminating reasons at this stage. He did explain a bit about NK cells and how the birth of 1 child can activate them so I'm battling with age and high aggressive NK cells. I think my chances of conceiving naturally is fairly slim now even though DH thinks I'm pregnant every month, bless him!

@ChloeN Mine comes in two forms. It's either stabbing pains (usually on the left side and yes quite low down) or like a bruise in my insides that hurts if I sit down

@mummatara my bleeding seemed to stop and start it was so fustrating 😡

@theblueflowers @FfayeN thanks ladies I’m quite proud of myself🤣🤣

Anyone that gets ovulation pain is it really low down?? I’ve got a bit of an ache low on my right side so not sure if the egg is coming from there this cycle?

@bunnykins123 im not worried just annoyed 😂 can you tell I like instant gratification so the TTC journey is 🙄 eurgh. Glad there's some further steps for you. How many days has he recommended between sessions? Or is that just for the sperm testing?

@FfayeN my surgical wasn't too bad I bled for 2 days after and felt ok after about a week. It just took a while for everything drop to zero. Im just sulking like a spoiled child really 🙊😳 want to stomp my feet all over the office 😂

@mummatara it's probably completely normal. If you think about what your body is going through, it's a huge task so it probably is normal for it to be a bit stop start. I think if you're worried, could you ring the epu?

Thanks ladies! Been to the clinic, not much to report on but getting DH dna fragmentation test done and a hyfosy done for me then we will decide next steps. I was surprised that he didn't throw meds at me (clomid, prednisolone for my NK cells) and actually advised against all this for now. He just said keep doing what we are doing, don't do it every other day and we will see what those tests come up with. So there we are! Nothing entirely new or unsurprising 🤷‍♀️

@HalWin2221 oh goodness, so sorry to hear that. Were you a similar stage along each time? Well, I think we are possibly more fertile after a mc. I had a chemical straight after my mc which was in March. So this cycle is no. 5 since my chemical. It took me about 9 months to conceive when I mc’d at 13 weeks (missed mc at 8.5w) Xx

@bunnykins123 good luck! Really hope you get some well deserved answered and a plan moving forward.

@MrsCristianoX I don't blame you for feeling that way! He definitely needs to be doing his part- I hope he at least cleaned you up!

@ChloeN well done! That is an achievement. We did 4 times in a row one cycle and I couldn't go near him for a week. I was actually sore!

@TheBirdintheCave there is definitely still hope whilst AF stays away. I'm on a Facebook group for women who temp using ovusense, and there are so many BFP charts with dips.

@ChloeN 😂 least you can rest up by the pool to recharge your batteries 🙊

Bleeding has decided to start again 🙄 it had stopped yesterday and it's more than spotting ffs so fustrating. Maybe I should have gone for surgery in out done 🤦🏼‍♀️ doesn't help I'm very impatient

@mummatara @HalWin2221 he’ll be wanting it on holiday too I imagine😅 I’ll be broken🤣🤣 thank you both!

@TheBirdintheCave thank you!☺️

Sounds lovely :) I hope you have a splendid time!

@ChickenT2b my last 2 cycles I’ve had a MC 😑 so this is my first cycle after them two! If I am pregnant this time I’ll be in shock, can’t imagine it will happen 3 times in a row. What about you?

@ChloeN you are my new hero 😂 that is some good going, you deserve a holiday!!

@ChloeN wow you trooper 💪🏼 you'll be recovering all holiday then 🤣 have a lovely time

@TheBirdintheCave tenerife! Hopefully it’ll be a nice distraction for the tww🤣