TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@LuckyMoonstone did you test today lovely?

@mummatara @MrsCristianoX mine too! He just leaves things lying around and thinks the cleaning fairy will sort out his mess 🤷‍♀️

@mummatara I also think it sounds like you have a little bit further to go. I think you might have something happen soon. Got my fingers crossed it eases up soon though!! 🤞

@MrsCristianoX haha whoops 🙊 mine doesn't mind chucking stuff he just never gets round to chucking it or putting it away 🙄

@mummatara I look at my house in horror sometimes. Doesn't help DH is a bloody hoarder. I binned one tiny bit of plastic last week and it turned out to be the prototype for a car bit 😂😂

Nope! I'm putting him off tonight..will I use headache or cramps 🤔

@MrsCristianoX tell him he can only get a one minute go if he sorts you out beforehand 😂 he's got at least one to make up for and then one before he's allowed his minute so he better get to work 🤭 I know I really do want it to over but tbf I would rather carry on bleeding than find out in 3/4 weeks there are retained products. I've been keeping myself occupied I'm on a spending ban, have redone my monthly budget, sorted out some debt to 0% balance transfer and got rid of some unnecessary subscriptions. Put a few bits a pieces on Fb marketplace and there will be more stuff joining it once I get in our spare room which has become the house dumping ground 🙄 it's made me feel a bit tidier in life and it's something I can control the outcome of

@mummatara bless you 💕 I was scared to say 🙈 I know how much you want this nightmare to end. Here to listen anytime xx

@FfayeN think I'm in for another one minute treat tonight..the way he's looking at me. Must pretend to sleep early

I am honestly so grateful to have you all to talk to ❤️❤️ you are the best bunch of ladies

@MrsCristianoX no I don't think it is either 😭 never mind it is what it is which is mainly frustrating but I can't change it just have to get on with it and whinge to you lot about it 😆 nothing is booked I just have to call if test is still positive at 3 weeks. Bought the required big box of IC so I don't waste millions on frers 😂

@mummatara I don't know. I don't think it's over yet. But I hope I'm wrong. I'm also sure you don't need to hear that. I take aspirin so that definitely didn't help me. When is your next appointment? Xx

@MrsCristianoX so I wouldn't say I've had anything I would call heavy bleeding I'm just wearing normal level pads that are not full at any point. I had light bleeding for 2 days then a little heavier for 2/3 days then it tailed off to light/barely anything for another couple of days it stopped yesterday but has come back today I would say between a light-medium flow. Still very tiny clots and very minimal cramping I don't usually cramp in AF so it's an upgrade in that sense but nothing painful I haven't taken any painkillers. Today I've seen more clots than I've had all week so maybe today/tomorrow it might clear out 🤔 tbh I've never had very heavy periods I wonder if I just don't get a thick lining. When I was on the pill my period was 2 days long and there would almost be no point in me putting in a pad or tampon. Since being off the pill they average 3-5 days and I have more blood but I would still call it a light flow I get away with panty liners the whole time

@mummatara did you have any heavy bleeding? I know you don't complain and might not have said but I had a day of very heavy bleeding and I was only six weeks. I really do hope it's wrapping up for you lovely xx

@theblueflowers well done for not testing!! So hoping this is the cycle 🤞

I've made it to 9dpo without testing! My boobs feel huge but that's it really.

I'm going to hold out till Friday to test; anyone due to test soon?! We've got to get a positive soon!

@Mariabombia yeh a little bit. He said that there are two types: 1. You always have high NK cells 2. They are activated after 1st birth. Looks like I'm the latter. He wasn't totally freaking out about my high NK cells, I think that's because they are considered quite controversial. I think it's a case of waiting for these final results before deciding on next steps. It's sooo boring 🙄

@MrsCristianoX oh you can bet your bottom dollar that the 1st time it's time to dtd, boom - 45minute sesh coming right at cha!

@FfayeN wrap it up?? If only he knew the meaning of that word!! It's just so annoying because it was like a 1 minute wonder..really me wondering how I could possibly orgasm in 1 minute 😂 I never thought I would think fondly of the 45 minute session 🤣🤣

Anyway was at work and forgot my phone and my bbt actually meant to see if those weird vaginal capsules were available in NI but it was too busy

@Luna57 I've to go in for a full blood profile on 24 November and am counting the days..

Hope everyone is ok xx

@Luna57 bless him :( it's so hard watching them go through all this too isn't it. It really puts both lives on hold. How're you doing today?

@MrsCristianoX i think she did mean the test thankfully but it still angered me as the whole reason I was there was because I was trying to save my baby :( & it would have been on all my notes. they were just so blasé it was jarring. Sorry to hear about last night, I can understand your frustrations 😤

@RaliaMusca thanks girl! I'm just hoping if it was something sinister it would be more constant & more painful, as it's on and off. Hope it's just hitting a nerve like Luna said! Not very worried but will defo call epu if it gets worse. They didn't seem concerned when I mentioned it to them earlier in the week, it's weird i'm not getting many period type cramps this time!

@bunnykins123 glad they're getting those other tests sorted for you , did they say much more about the nk cells? We got told to dtd every 2/3 days too as dh has slightly low sc. I think they produce better quality ones then! Also takes the pressure off a bit.

@ChloeN you're a machine 🤣🤣🤣!! You go girl.

@LuckyMoonstone hope you're okay & this is your body recognising the miscarriage xx

@Indianna2006 I used to before my MC in Jan, I’ve been hoping something like this might rejig my cycle

@LuckyMoonstone yes I know what you mean. But you do sometimes have 30 day cycles don’t you? Hmm seems like it could be that then. Which would be a good thing. Flush it all out hopefully and you’ll be on your way on your way fingers crossed 🤞🏼

@Indianna2006 I’m cd30 now (so from first day of miscarriage bleed) so it’s like having a ‘normal’ cycle- I mean normal for other people not for me with my 40 odd day cycles lol

@Indianna2006 thank you! I get quite a lot of ewcm, we’re both early 20s and don’t have any other babies yet so dtd everyday is quite manageable tbh! I think I saw something with percentages on and there wasn’t much difference between the days!
I fell pregnant the day before ovulation for my mmc so hopefully that’ll happen again this time🤞🏻

@TheBirdintheCave @ChloeN I do think they say the day before ovulation on recent studies has shown the highest percentage of becoming pregnant. But O -2 is still a pretty good percent. Just O-1 is slightly better yes. As gives them to time to do the 12 hour capacitation they need but also not enough time they die off etc and are fresh. But alas. Lots of ppl get pregnant from O-4.

altho I will say I don’t think everyone can. I think women who have tons of EWCM for days and the fertile oh is exactly right can. More young women who have more EWCM as it lessens as we get older. I certainly don’t think I would ever get pregnant do the settles method. Ie sex day 5-3 before ovulation only. Don’t think my EWCM is at that really egg white stage then when sperm survives best. Just a point worth noting for yourself.

i always get pregnent the day we do it when that is most abundant. Which is O-1 for me and O day.

i think every other is good idea also to not tire yourself out. An also does help replenish sperm for average counts even. I worried about it a lot until DHs sperm sample said he had 499 million per ejaculate which is so damn high we then dtd the month I fell. Altho not O day.
i think O-1 was our bingo day tbh!

@bunnykins123 I’ll see what happens this cycle then! I don’t think he has a sperm problem so I’m going to try and not be anxious about that, I worry enough as it is🤣

@ChloeN I think for everyone. We don't know how DHs spermies perform yet, if they are poor I will need to ask about frequency. For what it's worth, this is the 2nd consultant I've spoken to recently who says every other day but really I think you should do what feels right for you.

@bunnykins123 glad you are getting some more tests done. And actually have heard that if sperm I’d a bit low in a certain area tho at dna fragmentation can be an issue. And obv is there dna fragmentation is high. There soerm fertilising the egg can alwyas make it a bad one. Which can explain recurrent miscarriage. As you would have some good eggs deff amongst the few bad ones we all have that is normal. Hopefully this may throw up more answers

@mummatara bless you hun. It’s so hard when it drags on. You just wanna be normal again as such an be able to reset. The stop and start can be quite normal tho I think.

@LuckyMoonstone I reckon it is perhaps your lining coming away again so like your period. So hopefully it resets it and comes away whatever was hanging on. How long ago would it of been since your last period? About usual cycle or less? I reckon hold onto urine like suggested above and do another test. You’d be suprised how once they get low in a couple of days they can suddenly really change. Mine did. And was then almost invisible.