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TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

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FfayeN · 06/10/2022 05:36

New thread ladies sorry if I've missed anyone feel free to add 💗
@MrsCristianoX @Indianna2006 @TheBirdintheCave @mummatara @LuckyMoonstone @Luna57 @HalWin2221 @bunnykins123 @calimc83 @everythingzrosie @ChloeN @ChickenT2b @Chellooo @theblueflowers @RaliaMusca @Margo34 @Mariabombia @emhope @lovenaps @

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HJA87 · 16/10/2022 10:30

Thank you all and im sorry to read about everyone else’s struggles 😥

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 10:30

@Indianna2006 photos of rainbow babies are much wanted on this thread 🥰 as are pregnancy tests and the hope that it will someday be all of us x

Indianna2006 · 16/10/2022 10:24

@MrsCristianoX hopefully them 6 weeks fly by. But they never do when your waiting. Each cycle feels like a lifetime doesn’t it. Especially when you have to miss a fertile week 😩

Thanks everyone for well wishes. Fingers and toes bloody crossed hey 🤞🏼Hoping all this sickness hasn’t been for nothing!

@TheBirdintheCave We will get a photo if all okay. I will update you all tomorrow. Obviously don’t want to post photos etc and be insensitive though. I understand it can all be hard.

lovenaps · 16/10/2022 10:16

@MrsCristianoX enjoy your trip to Dublin, changing your surroundings even if for a short period can be so good for the soul!

@TheBirdintheCave sorry I can't remember but how many days late your AF is?

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 10:10

@lovenaps I just thought him many candles do I need to light? Do chemicals count? It was all too much and I went to bed. Hoping the week flies in for you my lovely Xx

DH is taking me to Dublin today for shopping. Gotta get myself out of this form and have a bit of a fun. Whatever that means now

TheBirdintheCave · 16/10/2022 10:07

@HJA87 Sorry to hear that :( x

@LuckyMoonstone That's definitely lighter than last weekend.

@Indianna2006 All the luck for tomorrow :D Will you post a picture?

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Still no AF here. Took another test this morning but stark BFN. What the heck body!? 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 10:05

@Indianna2006 I'm ok., a bit meh Just feel a bit unloved atm. Have been working non stop. Six weeks and counting. I'm on high dose statins and I need to see if they work to reduce the cholesterol otherwise I don't know what I'll do. Well I do know what I'll do bin them and start ttc again 😅

curliegirlie · 16/10/2022 10:04

@FfayeN @theblueflowers huge congratulations for you both, I hope all goes well...

@LuckyMoonstone I'm so sorry things are dragging on so long. Good luck with the bloods - I hope the levels have decreased nicely.

12dpo today and BFN (unsurprising given all the BFNs I've had over the past few days, but I can't seem to stop myself...). So almost certainly AF tomorrow and onto cycle 8 post m/c. Possibly. Or it's onto contraception again and giving up the whole idea of #3. I desperately need to have the conversation with DH again about exactly where he stands, but I'm scared to tbh. And so sad at the prospect of giving up at least a last few goes before accepting this year has been a blip....

lovenaps · 16/10/2022 10:02

@MrsCristianoX I am so sorry, times like these are so important for getting support from DH. I feel sometimes people really isolate themselves when going through things but he needs to be there for you so you can be there for him ❤I remember you had to take a break in ttc but then got a little confused thinking you no longer needed to, sorry!
Also for what you said about the candles, true... That really made so many people emotional..
@Indianna2006 good luck ❤

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 09:57

@lovenaps well this is the month I'm not ttc due to meds. I don't know we are heading out today so will ask him then. I felt like just being with each other might help me last night but no not for him. I fell asleep then woke up to an empty bed. 🙁

@Indianna2006 I'm not great. Hit peak yesterday and felt sad I couldn't act on it but I've been eating sun flower seeds and super healthy for days so hoping blood comes back normal in November..keep us updated will be thinking of you xx

HalWin2221 · 16/10/2022 09:54

@HJA87 so sorry 🕊️ 🤍

LuckyMoonstone · 16/10/2022 09:48

@lovenaps thank you, I hope you are feeling a bit better this morning x

lovenaps · 16/10/2022 09:47

@HJA87 So sorry ❤💐

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 09:46

@HJA87 I'm so sorry 💔

lovenaps · 16/10/2022 09:45

@MrsCristianoX I am so sorry about your DH. Why do you think he is doing that if it's not a stupid thing to ask? I honestly hope things get better for you guys ❤

Indianna2006 · 16/10/2022 09:43

@MrsCristianoX you literally posted that at same time as me. I was thinking I’d not seen your name for but an was hoping you was okay xx

lovenaps · 16/10/2022 09:43

@FfayeN Thank you so much.
I got quite a few tests done privately, everything came back normal apart one thing which they sad was not an issue but I found mixed evidence. Bought 'it starts with the egg' and was planning to start it if this October cycle does not work x Taking various supplements but might get more after reading the book.

Indianna2006 · 16/10/2022 09:42

@LuckyMoonstone ugh 🙈 it still seems similar doesn’t it. But who knows how quickly those sort of tests change. See what the bloods come up with later. So unusual though when it is so low it doesn’t want to seem to bugger off!

@FfayeN the first bit is so hard. And after any loss. It kind of almost ruins it. Is that fair to say even?! It just zaps the excitement out and there’s this weird tension of almost “if” and almost “well let’s just see” etc etc.
I still keep doing it now and prob will do ages.
If I talk to DH about future plans. I’m like if everything goes okay and we are a four with like this tone of a massive question mark. Just totally changes perspective.
your DH is prob just trying to be supportive in only way he knows how. Even though we find it annoying 🙈
it’s a tricky path to navigate after loss through all of it I think.
🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

@MrsCristianoX hope you’re okay lovely xx

MrsCristianoX · 16/10/2022 09:42

@LuckyMoonstone maybe a little lighter I think? But I'd have to scroll back to your previous one. Good luck today ❤️

@lovenaps well mine is refusing to come near me. I think he understands my cycle more than he is letting on. I'm sorry to see how upset you were last night. Hope you are feeling better today. It's a horrible thing and I saw people lighting candles for lost babies last night on Facebook snd that sent me over the edge.

@Indianna2006 good luck tomorrow lovely 💕

HJA87 · 16/10/2022 09:41

I joined this thread last month after my 2 chemicals at 5 weeks. Well, I just started my 3rd miscarriage in a row this morning. Its such a rollercoaster of emotions and I feel like it will never happen now 😩😩

FfayeN · 16/10/2022 09:39

@Indianna2006 All the best for tomorrows scan 😘.
@LuckyMoonstone they are definitely fading but ever so slow, I really hope todays blood test gives the answers you need xx

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FfayeN · 16/10/2022 09:36

@lovenaps I hope things look more hopeful this morning? I second what @calimc83 says, if you feel more in control it eases the stress. Perhaps you could look together at how to improve your fertility chances through diet and supplements? Have you had testing through the GP? If not is there an option for you to go private? These steps can certainly make the journey ahead clearer and more manageable. I hope I'm right in thinking you have more options than accepting your fertility journey is over. Everyone deals with struggles differently, we are all here as a sounding board or to offer advice, so stick around 😘

@calimc83 I'm good, navigating DH through these early days is hard. Yesterday I snapped as he told me about 4 things I 'wasn't allowed to do' (going on a spa day next week was one of them). I (not so) politely reminded him I wouldn't do anything to harm the pregnancy and that I'd been here twice before so knew what I could and couldn't do and he needs to trust me! It will cause friction for the next few weeks, I know it's out of love and concern but also I don't deal well with the bossiness 🫣.
Also started the cyclogest...that's a joy twice a day!

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lovenaps · 16/10/2022 09:34

@LuckyMoonstone fingers crossed for you for getting better news tonight x

LuckyMoonstone · 16/10/2022 09:32

Hmmm I don’t think my test is much lighter today 🤔 blood test today so I should get the result this evening

TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕
lovenaps · 16/10/2022 09:29

@TheBirdintheCave @calimc83 Thank you both so much ❤
You not gonna believe what happened to me last night just before going to bed... By the way - it is not a positive test announcement. So I was feeling super low last night and decided to take a test before going to bed - late night's urine plus probably too soon since ovulation - not the best combination. Initially seemed negative but looking at it later on I could see a SUPER faint line that did not seem to have much colour in it - unusual but then again, very early plus it wasn't FMU so I went to bed feeling hopeful. Woke up this morning, went straight to my test to check it - the line is definitely there. Just looking a bit suspicious. I went and opened another test from this LOT - had two indent lines, one for control, one for test. Opened third one - the same. For sake... Honestly! Just give me a break life. I will need to contact the company and tell them about this.