TTC after miscarriage thread 12 🌈✨💛💕

@ChloeN yeah so I had the first bleed which was the initial MC, then I’ve had like a full 30 odd day cycle waiting for (suspected) retained tissue to leave my body, now I’m bleeding again and my hcg is coming down

@RaliaMusca ooh thank for the info lovely that's what I thought recovery is fairly quick here's hoping I don't need it 🤞🏼 oh the nausea is the worst but also the best 😆 I hope you don't bleed any further too 💕

@FingersCrossedXXX well try again straight away though I won't do any opks until next cycle. Now I've stopped bleeding we've just been dtd every few days and if anything happens lovely. Tbh I don't think I'll ovulate with my hcg that high but stranger things have happened im sure. It's nice not to poas every day 😆 I'll be 37 in a few weeks and we did want 3 children so don't want to waste taking any time off unless I absolutely have to.

Yes it seems EPUs don't take much stock in pregnancy tests I suppose different brands give different lines maybe 🤔

Oooh lucky I didn't have horrendous symptoms with all mine but they were def there

@mummatara such an annoying limbo situation for you. Well done for being so patient. I had a mva in August. It wasn't pleasant and I was glad they warned me that you can hear a suction noise when they suck the stuff out. But all in all it was totally manageable, didn't last long at all and my recovery was super quick. Had only one day of proper bleeding, then spotting for a week, then all done. Conceived again two weeks later 😅

My nausea is through the roof today. Gives me some reassurance at least. One week today until the scan 🤞 I just really hope I don't get any more bleeding. It's freaking me out so much.

@mummatara Woah, they were super high to begin with then! It must be so frustrating though still waiting 3 weeks on. Are you going to try again straight away if it does resolve itself or will you take some time off?

My numbers are so low in comparison. My HCG levels were 126 at 6+2, then dropped to 96 and then back up to 105. Next test on Friday which will be 8 days after my last. I took a home pregnancy test yesterday which worried me as the test line seems to be stronger but the EPU didn't seem concerned and said its not a reliable way to test the HCG levels and to wait until Friday!

I already have a son which was a straight forward pregnancy and birth. I wonder if I also had quite low levels with him (though probably not this low!) as I never suffered any pregnancy symptoms.

@ChloeN When do you plan to test?

@ChloeN yes I'm so over waiting now 🙊 but I will be so happy if I have the scan and they say nope all good I bet I have to wait a good week for the scan though 🙄

@FingersCrossedXXX don't worry I didn't know either 🙈 honestly until you actually start chatting to others I think most people just don't realise all of the things that can happen. I remember when I fell pregnant with my DS I did one pregnancy test and thought no more of it oh the naivety 😳

I know it's a hard one isn't it. With my D&C I had only a couple of days of bleeding after but it took 6 weeks for my levels to drop. I was hoping once this one started that it would drop quicker but now I'm in this horrible limbo of did it all come out 🙄 tbf my level has dropped considerably I did a private hcg test just after my private scan the sac was still growing at this point and it was 79000 but I don't know what the level was at the point I started bleeding unfortunately. I think I'll be annoyed at myself too if I get to 6 weeks and it's all still happening and I've got further to go. So much of the process is just waiting when all you want is a baby ☹️ is this your first?

@mummatara tbh id probably do the same, how much longer can you keep hanging on it could be weeks and weeks! At least with surgery it’s over in a day

@mummatara Sorry to hear you have had 2 losses. I just had to google what a blighted Ovum was. I have been so ignorant to all of the things which could happen in early pregnancy but seem to be learning new stuff every day since having my own experience with early pregnancy loss.

I feel exactly the same with the 'wait and see' method. I could have had an injection of Methotrexate to speed it along but you can't conceive for 3 months after taking it as it strips your body of folic acid. But then if my levels take weeks and weeks to drop or they suddenly stagnate and I have to have it anyway, I will kick myself for not just having it in the first place. Do you know what the levels were initially to know if you have had any decrease? Hopefully when you go again there is a decent drop.

@ChloeN no I think I'll opt for MVA or D&C probably an MVA. From what I've read it's not too bad and saves all the rigmarole of being put to sleep again. I think @FfayeN you said you had one? Something could go right for me this year and it's all gone 🤞🏼 but probably not knowing my crappy luck 😂 it really has been an eternity when we technically found out at the private scan on 10th September 🙄

@mummatara if there’s anything retained are you gonna keep waiting it out? Feel like it’s gone on an eternity for you so can’t imagine how much your fed up with it by now!

@FingersCrossedXXX so I had my second MMC of this year 🙄 this one was a blighted ovum. As I only had a D&C in June I opted to wait to pass this one naturally. I started bleeding three weeks ago and it was really on off and light bleeding then it stopped last weds. I've had a few random spots since then and then yesterday morning a bit more than spots when I wiped but it just stopped after that wipe 🤷🏼‍♀️ so I've rung the EPU as I wanted a scan I'm not convinced it's passed so yesterday was my first blood test. I just don't want it going on for ages and ages if I can help it

@TheBirdintheCave @ChloeN @mummatara Thank you ladies.

@mummatara I guess it sounds slightly similar to what you are going through in terms of having to keep going back for bloods! How long have you been having your bloods monitored for now?

I've just spoken to the EPU my blood test result from yesterday is 2109 will go for another tomorrow and then hopefully they will book me in for a scan to see if there are any retained products

@FingersCrossedXXX sorry to hear about your ectopic ☹️ hopefully it won't take too long for you to get back to TTC 🤞🏼I don't remember hearing of anyone in here having an ectopic but might be wrong. Everyone in here is super supportive

@FingersCrossedXXX hey lovely☺️ so sorry to hear of your ectopic, sounds really scary! Hopefully you’ll be back to ttc soon🤞🏻xxx

@FingersCrossedXXX Welcome! Sorry you're going through an ectopic :( I'm not sure if anyone else here has had one. I don't recall seeing it mentioned. I hope your stay here is short.

Hi! I have been reading through all the messages on here and it seems like a supportive bunch and I'd love to join! Might take me a little while to get on top of everyone's stories. I am so sorry to hear of all the heartbreak but it's lovely to see that some ladies have got healthy pregnancies 🌈

I am currently going through an ectopic pregnancy, with the hope it will self resolve due to my low HCG numbers and the mass being quite small. After having bloods every 2 days for a week (where numbers were decreasing then increasing slightly), I have now been moved to bloods weekly, with my next tests due on Friday. I was just over 6 weeks when I found out as I went to the EPU with some bleeding and this would have been my second child.

I am wanting to get back to trying to conceive as soon as my levels are back to 0 and I am hoping it's not too drawn out considering my numbers were low to start with, though the small increases concern me.

Not sure if anyone else on this thread has been through an ectopic?

@FfayeN That is true I forgot about the fever. Augh, I hope getting sick didn't affect our attempts :(

Anyway, once we get paid we're sending husband off for a sperm check with a private urologist and will also order the Ferti-lily.

Temp has dropped and I think it's finally starting! No idea why it's so late but I'm so glad I'm not losing any more time 😂 All I can think is that something tried to implant early on but failed and I didn't pick it up as I only started testing at 12dpo.

@LuckyMoonstone is this the 2nd bleed since your positive tests then?? I might of missed you say!

@Everythingzrosie oooo I see something as well🤞🏻🤞🏻

@Margo34 I am, thank you for asking! Just got to get to the end of this AF from hell then I’ll be right as rain 😂 ah wow 14 weeks already! I totally understand why you still feel anxious though

@Everythingzrosie I can see a shadow!