Planning for TTC & waiting for 1st period 🩸

I’m onto cycle #3 now, if you count the first one as an actual cycle when my first proper period hadnt been yet. AF keeps arriving 7/8 days after ovulation so it means I haven’t even got as far as to using any of my tests yet. I mean it’s saved me money on that front but I’m starting to worry a bit now as I’ve looked into it all and if progesterone isn’t high enough to sustain a pregnancy, AF will just arrive. That means I could have technically got pregnant the last two cycles and I’ll never know because my body was too busy clearing it away. This month I’m going all out. I’ve started taking vitamin c, it’s meant to help with it. Started ashwagandha which is meant to chill you out a bit, stress can block the progesterone. Going to take Agnus castus only for the two weeks after ovulation and see if that stops AF coming so early. So frustrating but hopefully the last two months have just been the pill messing it up

I had my withdrawal bleed after coming off my pill four weeks ago and honestly I don’t feel a hint of AF coming anytime soon!
I’m also not sure I’ve ovulated yet; I used to get very obvious ovulation pains and I haven’t at all. My plan is to wait for my period to start and then order some ovulation tests so I can track what’s going on.

How is everyone getting on? Xx

@FivePotatoesHigh yeah totally! I don’t think I could hold off for a few months if it came to it anyway, it feels like once you’ve started you can only get deeper into ttc 🙈

@Skyla01 it’s a book and a Facebook group, you can supposedly ‘sway’ your chances of conceiving a girl or boy based on timing and a few other things. The basic idea to conceive a boy is exactly what we did to conceive our little boy (didn’t know about it at the time). For a boy you should dtd on the day of ovulation and day after I’m sure it is. For a girl you should dtd 2-4 days before ovulation and only have one attempt. The idea is that girl sperm are slower swimmers but live longer so if you do it 2-4 days before the egg is there, the boy sperm will have all died off while the girl sperm will reach the egg at the right time. It does make sense and a lot of research seems to support it (some doesn’t obviously) but I thought it was worth just baring in mind when we were trying this time. After getting a negative last month though I would just be delighted to get a positive at all!

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@HoppingTiger is exactly same position as you! We were kinda not going to try until new year either but I've just noticed fertile cm today too so... Not sure whether to abstain or not 😉but good to know our bodies are doing something.
@Sparklythings1 what is the baby dust method?

@Charlotte1256 that's a good plan. DTD every few days is failsafe, and hopefully less stressful than using opks.
@FivePotatoesHigh how annoying! It's so hard to predict things. Agree with not bothering too much about timing t

Yep! Partly school year issues, partly not wanting them to have a birthday in the middle of the holidays when nobody’s about. But hey, whatever happens is whatever happens.

Peak opk last night, pretty sure I’m ovulating right now.. I’ve been able to feel something happening the last 2 hours or so! I’m not trying again tonight, I originally planned to do the baby dust method just to give us a slight advantage of having a girl rather than a boy (as we have a boy). Would be happy with either though so knew last night wasn’t following the plan but feel like I don’t have the patience to go from one month to the next trying days before ovulation and hoping for the best. We’ll hopefully have three children anyway so there will be more pressure (on myself) next time if I already have two boys I think 😂

@FivePotatoesHigh I’m in Scotland but I’m guessing you’re in England for the birthday/school year thing? Our cut off is end of Feb and I would rather avoid a Christmas baby if I could so I’m just really hoping I’m lucky in the next few months

I have had no period and it is 4 weeks since I stopped the pill, 3 weeks since withdrawal bleed.

Today I have had very sticky, egg white clear discharge, unlike any discharge I have ever had from memory (been on the pill for 11 years since I was 18). Google tells me this may be ovulation. So I am hopeful!

Not going to TTC until January. Using condoms for now which is not as bad as I thought it would be. But still hopeful to see my cycle getting regular to be in the best position possible.

My period came back, OPK said I ovulated… and we TOTALLY missed the window as DH wasn’t well. Argh!!

I would have liked to avoid an August or September birthday but don’t want to put TTC on hold!

My period has stopped now, was light-medium and only lasted 3 days so that’s not bad at all. Just waiting for my fertile window now! I don’t think I’m going to use ovulation tests this month as we are going on holiday, just going to try and BD every other day from the end of this week and see what happens 🤞🏼

@Sparklythings1 lol, the things TTC bring out in us...! Good news about ovulation, hopefully you'll catch this time.

How is everyone else getting on?

@Skyla01 we made up tonight, I would never usually forgive so easily but my ovulation tests are nearing peak and there isn’t time for arguing 😂 I am not missing the boat here!! I will argue with him tomorrow 😂

@Mayfield87 congratulations! That's great news.

@Charlotte1256 at least your cycle is back. Hope af isn't too bad. I'm still waiting for mine.

@Sparklythings1 don't worry! Sounds like your cycle is still settling down. Hope you've made up with DP now.

Amazing news, congrats!

@Mayfield87 aw wow, that’s great! I stopped mine on 22nd august! I ended up trying the first cycle even though I was planning just to let it pass. This is now the second but really wasn’t expecting anything last month anyway. Hope all goes well for you 🥰

Thankyou @Sparklythings1 so I stopped the pill on August 16th so it was cycle 1 for us- I know we are super lucky and we are eternally grateful! That was 11dpo. Going to test again in a day or two when period is due just to see another line and check 🙈

cd18 and my ovulation tests are only just starting to show a rise. I think tomorrow will be my peak and of course typically we fell out last night and he hasn’t spoke to me since coming in tonight 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 I tried and was way more forgiving than I would ever usually be but he’s staying in a huff over nothing. Just going to have to hope he’s came out his strop by tomorrow night 🙈😂

@Mayfield87 aw amazing, congratulations! What dpo was that? How many cycles have you been trying? You must be thrilled 🥰

So thought I would update you guys- only been on the thread a little while but I got my BFP yesterday. Wanted to wish you all the luck in the world for your ttc journeys! 🍀❤️

@Skyla01 it wasn’t to be last month but I tried not to be too gutted given I’d only just came off the pill. I didn’t ovulate until cd24 then AF arrived on day 32 so it seemed to be all over the place. Hoping this month is a bit more straightforward but no sign of opks even rising slightly yet on cd16 so could be another few days! I don’t really have a usual cycle length as I’m either pregnant or on the pill and never just letting my cycle do it’s own thing 😂

So I finally have an update!
5 weeks today since I stopped taking the mini pill and I’ve just started a period. I had no signs/symptoms leading up to it, I just went to the loo and it had arrived 🥲 and now I’m in agony, but it’s all positive news as now I can start tracking things hopefully xx

Hi, nice to have some more company!
@Surreycb that's great you are ovulating already, hopefully won't take you long to conceive. All very new and exciting especially when it is baby number 1.
@Sparklythings1 no harm in trying! Some lucky people do fall straight away. 32 days isn't that long for a cycle. What is your usual cycle length? I think last time I had natural cycles they were 30/31 days.
I've been off the pill for two weeks now but still waiting for a bleed or ovulation signs, nothing happening yet.