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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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41 and still trying! Any joiners

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ladybuggoldfinch · 19/09/2022 09:08

Good morning! I've not posted on MN for a while as trying to take a more laid back approach but let's face it that doesn't work anymore than anxiously rabbit holeing your way through a cycle either.

I am coming to the end of cycle 2083626480 and I have had all the usual period symptoms! Everything seemed to come together nicely this time so it's another disappointing month. Not tested but know the inevitable. My partner and I have some fertility tests coming up so hopefully some light will be shed on our situation.

I have a 3 year old and have had 3 miscarriages last year.

Anybody in the same boat and would like a friendly thread to share their journey it would be great to hear from you!

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ladybuggoldfinch · 21/09/2022 06:20

It certainly feels that way when it goes wrong. But so many people have babies in their 40's. My great Nan had 3 more kids in her 40s. I think your right just keep shagging and hope for the best. Sorry for everyone's losses 💚

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Theprimeofmissmulroney · 21/09/2022 05:43

Hi, I'm 41. I have a 7 year old. I just had a miscarriage. I'll be honest and say that at our age I think there's not much hope. I'm taking pregnacare every day and haven't used contraception since 2015. You never know! I suppose stranger things have happened. I think by 45, fertility is effectively 0, so I'm going to keep having unprotected sex.

lizziecat1 · 20/09/2022 21:02

Just joining you on the journey. 45 and had a surprise pregnancy which sadly ended in a mc last week.
We'd have loved it to work out, and have decided to give it another try, so I'm just learning all about ovulation tests and fertile days for the first time. It's a whole new world!
Already have 3 children ages 17, 16, 13 - conceiving them took zero effort!
Hoping to beat the Google statistics along with you!

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ladybuggoldfinch · 20/09/2022 19:13

Hey, sorry you are on this journey too. So I was referred to the miscarriage clinic and had all my hormones tested. Annoyingly my FSH was 12. Everything else normal. I've had a scan which I don't know the results of as they are waiting for the hysteroscopy to be done which I've been waiting since March for. I have chased twice already! I have a plan in place to take progesterone and prednisolone if I fall pregnant but it's just not happening now. Last year it was happening fairly quick. We are going private for test. So next is AMH which I'm guessing will be low and another scan. Partner is having sperm analysis. We shall see what happens from there. The NHS is too long a wait, clearly I don't have that luxury now. How long have you been trying?

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Winterwitch1 · 19/09/2022 15:49

Hey, I’m 42 and still trying! I have a 3year old and had a miscarriage last year..
I’ve been to my gp and had hormone tests which we back normal, plus a scan which isn’t showing anything obvious. What fertility tests are you having and how long have you been waiting for them? That’s my next step.
best of luck to you - it’s hard when age is always playing on your mind xx

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