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6 months TTC #2 and a couple of losses on the way :-(

29 replies

blueberry23 · 13/09/2022 17:09

Anyone else in my shitty boat?

Started TTC #2 when my little one was about 14 months in April to aim for a two year gap.

Fell first month - miscarried at 5 weeks in May
Waited one month
Fell again in July - miscarried at 5 weeks again in august

I put it down to breastfeeding so I stopped doing that a couple of months ago now. This is my first cycle trying since miscarriage and I'm 10DPo and got a negative test this morning and zero symptoms.

I was so convinced as soon as I stopped bf I would conceive and it just hasn't happened. I know it's not been long but we are both late 30s and I'm feeling panicky!

Any success stories or solidarity out there for me?

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Amyjones86 · 13/09/2022 20:05

Similar here too. 35 ttc#2 fell first month miscarried at 6 weeks fell again 2 months later MC at 5 weeks then a chemical pregnancy 2 months later. I’m now on my first cycle of clomid ovulation day was yesterday so going into the 2ww. Sending lots of luck to you @blueberry23 and @Bubblesandballoons congratulations @SiberFox I had my son after 3 years infertility and then a MC it is such an anxious time and difficult to explain to anyone that hasn’t been through it. X

SiberFox · 13/09/2022 20:01

A loss is a loss, sorry you get such stupid comments @Bubblesandballoons. Losing the baby after seeing a heartbeat is particularly horrible isn't it. Happened to me with the MMC - I'm 16 weeks now in a new PG and still finding it very hard to feel like it's real and relax. Have you had any medical support after the 3 miscarriages? (assume you'd qualify?) x

SiberFox · 13/09/2022 19:52

Feel for you @blueberry23. Started TTC for our first last year and had a chemical and a MMC at 10 weeks in a row. I'm 36 and my DH is in his forties, totally get the anxiety of whether it's just too late/ going to happen or not. Had to take a few months off nonetheless to get myself together. Fell pregnant again and all okay so far at 16 weeks. I have to say it's just dominated everything and I don't know a way out apart from just trying your best to stay calm, active and kind to yourself. Wish you all the luck in the world x

Bubblesandballoons · 13/09/2022 17:44

Sorry for your losses. I am in a similar boat, I’m late 30’s and partner early 40’s ttc#2. Fell first month, miscarriage at 7 weeks after seeing a heartbeat at 6 weeks, next month fell again, lost it at 5 weeks, next month positive test at 14dpo in the morning then started bleeding in the evening. Now had 6 months of nothing. Think the thing I have found the hardest is how everyone says at least you have a baby, but that doesn’t make the loss’s any easier. I’m only 4dpo at the minute, but not hopeful this cycle. Fingers crossed you’ll get a late positive 🤞🏻🤞🏻