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When do you start questioning secondary infertility?

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BiscuitLover3678 · 13/09/2022 16:07

And what are the first steps? On cycle 11 and negative (although that’s only 9 months).

First baby was instant. I feel like most people who are getting to cycle 12 when they have had a child in the past have had at least one other pregnancy now even if it ended in miscarriage (not that I want that at all!) I’m just wondering if it means there must be an issue now.

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BiscuitLover3678 · 13/09/2022 19:42

tingalayo · 13/09/2022 18:50

Yes it might be luck in a lot of cases. When I got to 12 months that's when I felt like there's really got to be something going on, this can't be just bad luck anymore. My GP told me to be very reassured that I've already gotten pregnant naturally before! Probably makes it more likely you'll be successful eventually than someone who has never been pregnant xx

Did they give you any advice apart from that? Can they do anything for 2nd child do you know?

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tingalayo · 13/09/2022 18:50

Yes it might be luck in a lot of cases. When I got to 12 months that's when I felt like there's really got to be something going on, this can't be just bad luck anymore. My GP told me to be very reassured that I've already gotten pregnant naturally before! Probably makes it more likely you'll be successful eventually than someone who has never been pregnant xx

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BiscuitLover3678 · 13/09/2022 18:32

tingalayo · 13/09/2022 18:25

Same here, BFN on cycle 13 :( and I've never had a loss either. My first took longer than yours to conceive, 9 months so I suppose I've always been subfertile. Driving myself crazy wondering if I'll ever have another 😥

It’s so hard to know what to do isn’t it :( I feel like it must be luck in so many ways

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tingalayo · 13/09/2022 18:25

Same here, BFN on cycle 13 :( and I've never had a loss either. My first took longer than yours to conceive, 9 months so I suppose I've always been subfertile. Driving myself crazy wondering if I'll ever have another 😥