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IVF - some direction/personal experience please.

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BecauseICan22 · 02/09/2022 16:23

Hello,

I am asking for some insight, personal experiences and direction regarding IVF.

Background:
I'm 42 this month, DH turned 47 this summer.

We have been TTC since February. I have had 4 positive conceptions and all 4 have failed.

February - Blighted ovum.

April - Chemical pregnancy.

June - Miscarriage at 6 weeks.

September - Ectopic confirmed yesterday which I'm now undergoing treatment for.

My cycle is very regular and I have no known medical issues.
I have 3 children from my previous marriage.
DH has 2 from his previous marriage.

We are both utterly exhausted with the natural conception cycle and my body feels broken. We have had tentative talks about now going down a managed or IVF route. However, having never been faced with this we have no idea where to start.

We can comfortably afford private treatment and we both realise how fortunate we are, not just with our previous children but with our finances.

We would greatly appreciate any advice or direction from those in the know. Real experiences on impact on you as an individual, a couple and your family structure.

I ovulate every month and can conceive easily, it is carrying which is the issue. I'm assuming from my personal reading this is down to chromosomal abnormalities with the fetus and so the pregnancy doesn't progress.

We have no resolute plan right now, we are simply looking for information. I just feel utterly stuck.

Thank you in advance =)

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BecauseICan22 · 02/09/2022 16:40

Hopeful16 · 02/09/2022 16:32

If you are self funding for IVF my understanding (I was NHS funded for my "fresh cycle" and self funded for my "frozen cycle") is that you simply find a clinic and make an appointment.
My experience was very positive with the staff being amazing with talking us through the options and procedures. We went to an open evening prior to our initial appointment.
I'm not sure if I've answered your questions really - sorry- but please feel free to contact me if I can help further. I did my first cycle aged 40 and second aged 42.

Hello, thank you for your response, I appreciate you taking the time to share.

We've looked at clinics and again, this is a minefield.
Do you mind telling me how your body was impacted? If not here publicly then I'm absolutely happy for you to send me a message.

In my head it's this huge monster with no guarantee of a good outcome but then that could be life in general!

I'm so glad you had a positive experience and I hope you achieved success.

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Hopeful16 · 02/09/2022 16:32

If you are self funding for IVF my understanding (I was NHS funded for my "fresh cycle" and self funded for my "frozen cycle") is that you simply find a clinic and make an appointment.
My experience was very positive with the staff being amazing with talking us through the options and procedures. We went to an open evening prior to our initial appointment.
I'm not sure if I've answered your questions really - sorry- but please feel free to contact me if I can help further. I did my first cycle aged 40 and second aged 42.