Fertility Appointments and Beyond: Electric Boogaloo

@99pctpractice oh that's exciting! I have my fingers crossed for you.

I had to drop off the consent form today and they said I don't need anaesthesia. I do remember reading you see it all which is exciting

How do others feel on the oestrogen and progesterone?

@Tillybabs that's exciting! We had our donor egg thaw and oh fertilisation today so with any luck I'll be transferring on Saturday so just behind you! I don't think you should need anaesthetic (I haven't previously) unless you have had any previous issues? At my first clinic I got to watch the embryo flash into my uterus at the time of transfer, which was pretty special, so I think it's worth being awake for if you get to watch the screen!

Oh @Tinkerbell098 that is so sh1t. I'm sorry you've had to go through that - it is so hard when you get your hopes up. Sending lots of big hugs, it is desperately sad. I can't believe that your clinic was huffy with you about going for a private scan, that should really be the least of their concerns.

@tillybabs aw thats exciting! Hope youre feeling ok! I didnt have any anaesthetic for (fresh) transfer, I was suprised by how little I did feel!

Oh @tinkerbell098 I'm so sorry, I hope youre managing ok, hopefully EPU will come back quickly! I feel like clinics are great when everything is 'normal' but not so much when theres a curveball, which you'd think would be at least 25% of the time !

@Tinkerbell098 I'm really sorry to read your update. I can only imagine how worried you must be. I hope they do see you and you can get some answers soon

I'm currently on oestrogen and progesterone. Does it give mild cramps? Well not cramps as such but slight tenderness in the uterus area?

Hi all, sorry been a bit quiet as my mind was all over the place with the faint lines, low hCG bloods etc. Clinic seemed it's fine, but gut feeling said something's wrong. So I decided to go for a private scan yesterday. They couldn't find anything. I was 6+2 yesterday. They were very thorough, the whole appointment took about 2 hours (was meant to be a 10-15 min scan). They sent the videos and images to the clinic lead for a second review - nothing! So I am classed as "pregnancy of unknown location". They have now referred me to the EPU who are seeing me on Thursday. I rang up my clinic this morning, they didn't sound pleased I went for a private scan. Apparently it's not in their policy to regard private scan results! Their scan is booked for next Tuesday, which they might cancel, depending on what EPU's verdict is. I'm still getting positives on home tests, so the private clinic suspects an ectopic. I haven't bled yet, but not sure if it's the cyclogest preventing that from happening. I'm so sad and so worried.

@Tillybabs I haven't had a frozen transfer, but if they're anything like a fresh transfer, you won't need anaesthetic I don't think. It wasn't painful and was so quick! That's great you can have a transfer this week!

@pinkginpls I know that feeling as I've been there. Have you and FETs cancelled?

Sorry Ive been really quiet. I'm having my first FET on Friday. I've got mixed feelings because my lining isn't optimal but it's not bad either. It's the best I've had so far put it that way and they've tried so many things.

Do I need anaesthesia because the form asks if I want it?

Hey all just popping in and catching up on the thread. Pretty much no update from me. Still waiting for my condition to be right for a FET. Waiting too long.

I hope everyone is doing well. x

@Tinkerbell098 fingers crossed for you! I hope it isn't too excruciating having to wait - the clinic should know what they're doing and would tell you if it was something to worry about!!

@beckyCarlos thank you! You're right. There is nothing that I can do but hope. The next few weeks are going to draaaag!

@JeanieJ Thanks! Hope you are well?

@Tinkerbell098 I hope those levels progress for you 🤞🏻❤️

@tinkerbell098 thats good (ish, I too have been on the receiving end of the clinic saying fine but google saying doom lol). All you can do is take it easy and keep believing even though its so so hard. Remember we're all behind you and here whenever you need us 💕 x

Had my beta this morning. Levels are 119, which google thinks is on the lower end of normal for 5 weeks. So I'm still in a little bit of a limbo. Clinic said it's fine and booked a scan for 1st of November. I'm not sure how I'm going to survive the next 2 and a bit weeks!

@thislittlebird I am so sorry. This whole process/"journey" is just absolutely shitty. The world is not fair, and I am so sorry that unfairness is coming down on you and your partner x

Thanks @beckyCarlos @Tinkerbell098 i was in a really good place on the way in, but then there was a moment when the reality sort of hit. There were 8 follicles and I felt a bit sad that we weren't going to try to recruit them - typically enough, more follicles than there were at my baseline in august which was our last attempt with my own eggs. I think there probably will just be a few moments along the way when I feel a bit deflated and disappointed that we weren't able to make it happen with my own eggs. It feels like my body failed and I wasn't willing to fight to give it more chances (my oh is very black and white about it not having worked so far and so never going to work, whereas I think I'm a bit more aware (or wishful!) of the nuances of different cycles giving different results). I don't like to give up, but on the flip side it's probably good to have someone to tell me when enough is enough....anyway, I just have to keep reminding myself that given where we're at financially, this is giving us the best opportunity of having a living baby as well as a lot less stress over potential chromosomal or other issues...

@99pctpractice hope the baseline scan went ok. How exciting!

@beckyCarlos glad things are moving for you, but so annoying about having to fill out all past details on forms, especially when it's a very sensitive subject.

@thislittlebird sending you a big hug!! Hope you are holding up ok X

Aw @99pctpractice thats amazing!! How exciting! I know what you mean, I feel an odd sense of calm over DE because theres no pressure on me to grow follicles (a struggle) or eggs in them (also a struggle lol). Whats your drug protocol?

We have an initial consult with current clinic ED midwife next thurs at 1pm 😁 after I emailed last week saying 'its been almost two weeks since my referal and there's been no contact' yesterday got a phonecall and follow up emails and boom, things are moving again. Once more the squeaky wheel gets the oil. Annoying (and uncomfortable for me, advocating is not my natural habitat), but effective. Just filled in more forms for medical history though, despite being with the same clinic and them having all the info. Including details of my previous treatments and miscarriage 🙄 that was a fun shock this lunchtime. I know they probs treat you as 'new' but they really could just share their details with themselves and not have me list my 'duration of infertility' and 'details of orevious pregnancy'!

@beckyCarlos they've booked me in for my baseline scan this morning! So if we get any embryos to transfer, we might be transferring at the end of October!! Having been really frustrated at the lack of response from our matching coordinator at the clinic (not answering emails, picking up the phone etc), when we finally got through she then really made the effort to make sure we could go this cycle, so I was really impressed.

Feeling so much more relaxed / excited than for own eggs rounds. Partly because I won't be stimming (thank f**k) but also because there's no pressure on whether we're going to get any good looking eggs and whether they will perform...it is still ivf so there is plenty that could still go wrong, but at least there are less concerns about chromosomal abnormalities etc....

@99pctpractice thats annoying but exciting! Do you think you'll sneak a transfer before Christmas?

@thislittlebird sending you lots of love. That parking fine sucks! How is your partner doing? I'm glad you're signed off for a bit, you definitely need a bit if a 'break'! X x x

@thislittlebird I really feel for you. I had a few meltdowns after my miscarriage too. One during a consultation at my clinic pre starting the next round of ivf - it totally depends how you're feeling, but don't feel like you have to go ahead with the lister consultation if you're not ready, just tell them you need to postpone it. It can be hard to talk about a recent loss in a clinical context, no matter how kind the consultant is.

I'm glad you've been signed off work - it's definitely good to give yourself some time to recover. You have been through a lot! Sending hugs!! Xxx

@Tinkerbell098 sorry I somehow missed your news!! Hope that line darkens and fingers crossed for Thurs for you!

@thislittlebird hope you're doing ok?

This post-ivf cycle my period came like clockwork (so typical! The only time I wanted it to be slow!) so a combination of that and my last clinic being incredibly slow at sending over our virology results plus our matching coordinator being pretty dopey means we are not sure if the new clinic will let us start our donor egg round this month. I have a baseline scan booked tomorrow but haven't had a nurse's consultation yet - fingers crossed they can squeeze me in today!! Feeling much more optimistic about it than I was about my own egg rounds, but still conscious that it can still take multiple attempts before it's successful. Ooof!!

@thislittlebird thanks ❤️ I got a vvvvv faint line on the test they gave and they’ve booked me in for a blood test next Thursday. Also gave me one weeks (ONE WEEK!!) worth of cyclogest! No idea why they’re so stingy with the drugs. So no real update from me other than having to wait a week to find out what the F that faint line was. Just anxious it’s a chemical. Good that EPU would do more bloods for you to make sure. Glad you’ve got the lister appointment coming up too and you’ve got an action plan. I think it’s the right decision regarding the job offer as you don’t need any added stress. I’m sure more opportunities will come up. It’s just shit to have to put everything on hold for IVF. Hopefully one day it’ll be worth it I’m sure. Hope you are keeping ok X