Fertility Appointments and Beyond: Electric Boogaloo

@Kay00 yeah, I’m worried it’ll come back with a bad result if I do it, such a minefield!

@Kay00 so obviously I had PGT-A but it’s not perfect science, and then they said I’d get a call in 3-7 days if high risk. That was 2 weeks ago, and I still don’t have a letter with my actual results, which are probably low risk. I just feel like I should do the NIPT to be doubly sure, if that makes sense. I can get it for £250.

I’m seeing the midwife at 16 weeks (need to check the date), so week after next probably.

@IWillBeWaxingAnOwl yeah I can’t really decide how to deal with people. We just told a few family members and I’m finding that weird. A woman at work told me she’s also expecting right before me and I didn’t say anything because I was still waiting test results! I must have reacted very strangely 🙃

@Kay00 I’m ok. 12 week scan was two weeks ago tomorrow (I’m 15 weeks on Sunday) and I’ve heard nothing so I’ll assume that’s a good thing. Would really like a letter to tell me the results :/ I know it’s likely low unless they’ve cocked up but I wanted to do the NIPT and I’m still waiting to find out the combined test outcome. Did you do the NIPT?

@Kay00 yeah I feel ok. I’m 12w 4d, tired, hungry, still getting headaches. Started getting gum/teeth problems this week and also stopped the meds, although I’m still on cyclogest until my scan on Saturday.

I thought I’d be the person pushing to find out but I’m not and neither is he, it’s conflicting.

I feel quite guilty tbh because I’m not excited or anything, I’m just worried and anxious about each stage which sucks, because it isn’t what you expect. Anyway, hopefully all will be ok.

@Kay00 thanks. Yeah I’ll see what they say, but I’m a bit anxious about it all tbh and the scan results.

I’m not too worried about the sex, even though I always thought I’d want to know. I guess the other worries dwarf it at this stage.

I mean they won’t offer me it, and I’ll end up getting it privately for reassurance. It’s so expensive and we’ve spent so much as it is on ivf.

@Kay00 yeah, we had a 9,5 week scan and that was weird because it makes it real and it doesn’t feel real.

Very lucky, I can’t really believe how the luck and lack of luck works in this game.

Told a friend and a few work people, not told any family. We want to make sure all is ok and don’t need pressure from them if it isn’t. My only worry is how slow the results will be coming back and I want to do NIPT but worried the NHS won’t offer to pay for it.

@Kay00 yeah I’m ok. Still generally in disbelief, stopping the various injections this weekend, then next weekend is the 12w scan (at 12w6d) so feels very intense because it’ll tell us if everything is ok or not. How are you? Hope everyone else is doing ok.

@Tillybabs that’s good that it made your periods less heavy/more normal.

Yeah I will say that my weight loss was all food really. Diet changes made a big difference and now I’ve let those all slide, which is annoying.

8mm lining? Good improvement if so

@Tillybabs interesting, have they been less heavy? I lost about a stone before this transfer, so I do wonder if that also helped. Between being 40 and IVF I'd gained a fair bit, between Feb and July I lost a stone or more and so by the time i was transferring I was back in a normal BMI. Maybe it didn't help, but it's still a mystery why it worked this time. Unless we were just making abnormal embryos before, hard to say.

@Tillybabs I saw a midwife this week and they ranked me as moderate risk due to age and previous loss, so I'm just counting down the weeks until I can breathe a bit. Hopefully I'll get there.

Good that they're tweaking it and it helps if they're willing to listen to you. I don't know which change we made allowed this to work, but it was probably one of them. Either PGT-A, prednisolone, or extra lubion, or all three. The only time I've had BFPs was on prednisolone each time, first one was at the 3 year mark, and the second right before the 4 year mark. It's been 4 years now since we started trying.

@Kay00 Yeah, I can't really believe it and I'm not excited, it feels like mostly worrying about one scan outcome then the next, then after that the NIPT results and so on. Did you do a private NIPT? I don't know whether to do one or just wait for the nhs.

@Tillybabs thanks. I won’t lie, I’m worried by a potential missed miscarriage but hopefully I won’t be so unlucky. And yeah, I totally get that. I said to my husband recently that I don’t know if I can do it anymore if this doesn’t work out in the next few weeks. I feel too old and drained to keep doing all this if we have to start again. It’s exhausting and it consumes everything. My fingers are crossed for your transfers. Are they tweaking the protocol for you?

@Kay00 congrats, that’s great news! Did you have a preference? I read an article yesterday that said fathers over 35 are more likely to have girls than boys and by the time parents are 40+ two thirds of births to that age group are girls. I thought that was pretty crazy. I have no pink cake but I am going to make banana bread today lol