Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

Bayleaf - ds definitely feels like mine! (some people even say he's got my eyes...!). The only bit I feel I've missed out on is the being pregnant/giving birth bit (although I know some people might say I'm quite lucky there).

Apparently there's about a 30%higher chance of having a boy the way we're going about it (i.e. trying as near to ovulation as possible) as boy sperm swim faster and are more likely to reach the egg first. Girl sperm are slower, but last longer, so girls are more likely if you try a bit before ovulation apparently.

Should get my blood tests back by Monday. Bit worried as I looked at one of the thyroid disorder + pregnancy websites yesterday and my last blood results (done in September) were really bad and I don't think there's any way I can get pregnant until it's more under control...

By the way, I'd love a mucuus chat! I get v. confused about what it means when it changes (i.e. does it mean ovulation has occured, or is about to occur?!)

WWW I'm sure you'll be fine as you are so aware of the problems - in my experience it's the people who go into it with rosy eyed vision who imagine that dh/dp will actually do 50% without being asked ( Ok so some do -but it's not something to rely on!) and that it will all be lovely and cuddly and fun. You're well awre that it won't be and have talked it thru with dp so that he is - and as long as you keep talking and keep ''the end'' in sight you'll be fine.
MY dh didn't want children and just agreed to have one as I wanted one - so I found the early months very hard as I was determind to protect him from the worst of it - and in actual fact it ahs ended up being much LESS stressful than I imagined for the relationship a) because I expected the worst so was prepared mentally and b) becasue dh very quicky came to dote on dd and could not be more besotted with her now.

Good luck with your mission dot 1!

www, good luck with yours, too. I hope you get what you really want out of this. I hope your partner really and truly knows what he's letting himself in for by wanting a baby - but then he knew your ds as a toddler, I assume, so he's got a pretty good idea. I have to say that having two with a big gap in between has at times put a strain on our relationship - time, money, lack of freedom, nothing huge, but it's there. I think that's because both of us are more your older children type of parents. We know of one child parents who can do so much more since their child is past 5 years old.When we had our second son, we both felt thrown back into the deep end of sleepless nights and nappies etc, and because we can't get babysitting for the youngest easily, we haven't had a weekend alone together for 9 years!!

However, we both love our youngest son to bits, he is a joy (most of the time), his older brother loves him so much and both dh and I get tons of pleasure seeing them play togther. We both grew up as only children, so seeing sibling interaction is a novelty. In all, despite my words of caution, I feel so lucky I gave myself the chance to have him.

You are welcome.

Three angles - thanks - rather than place my question here I'll have a look and put it on there.

Hi Wills - Its under pregnancy. "Choosing the sex of your baby". I didnt add anything since its so long ago. I just wanted to read it before I started the same exact info. To be truthful the original post on the thread is actually the opposite of how the method does work. I guess there was some confusion when the poster started the topic. Its actually for a boy closer to ovulation is better and for a girl farther is most sucessful.

threeangles - Where's the other thread - I'd love to join in.

Bayleaf - NOOOOOOO don't start mucus pleeeease!

I don't think there's any real need for 2 threads as we all already have a child ( dot I realise your ds sort of isn't yours but I'm sure he must feel pretty much like it) - I think the frustration would be between those who are moaning about having to wait 3 months AND already have a child and those who have been trying for years and have none. However frustrating it is wanting another it doesn't begin to compare with the anguish and heartache when I was trying for dd and took so long to get there.

WWW - just wait till we get on to types on mucus! THAT'S when we really get to the 'too much information' stage on a ttc thread!'

ps babystart.co.uk sell cheap preditor kits as well

Finally found the thread about this topic. No need to reply unless anyone feels like it.

I know this was brought up in a past thread but I wanted to bring it up again if I can.

My dh and I are trying for #4 and I have a regular cycle each month. Im estimating ovulation on nov10th. We just started this week to cover all basis.

My question is have any of you went on the method of trying for a girl or boy? I know if you want to be pregnant you should have intercourse around 3-4 days before ovulation because of how long sperm can live and up to one day after ovulation. I also know that they say if you want a girl try and have intercourse in the earlier part of your fertile days and for a boy closer to ovulation or even on the day.

I would love to have a girl so its 2 and 2. My dd is driving me nuts too. Anyone had any good results with this method. Thanks

thanks bayleaf too

thanks monkey and sobernow for the persona tips - I've never used it but it sounds like it detects the LH surge (12-36 hrs before ovulation) like ovulation predictor kits.

Re: is this 2 threads. Possibly, but I don't think you can divide it on the basis of time trying to conceive. IME accepting that you have fertility problems is a long process. For me, I started worrying after about 4 months and started investigations after about 9 months, but it was about 2 years before it really dawned on me that it probably wasn't goign to happen naturally. NOw, I am definitly in a different place to those of you who can reasonably expect to determine how many children you have and approximately how far apart they should be.
I don't think anyone should be inhibited about discussing 'little' problems, but I think possibly if others have worries or queries about how long its taking them to get pregnant, maybe another thread could be started. I'm sure there are lots of mumsnetters like me who've been there and can provide info/advice.

HTH

Dot1 - good luck! - I really hope it works for you.

I love reading this thread as I can't really talk about this to anyone bar dh

I just like having a thread I can relate to. It's weird having a baby, but not having had a baby (if you see what I mean). And even though I've only been trying for 8 months, I've wanted a baby for eons, and probably most of us have felt like this? It can be heartbreaking/frustrating how ever many times you've tried if you really want to get pregnant...

Re: dashing up the M6 for sperm - I've often wondered what I'd say if I got caught for speeding - "sorry officer, there's sperm in Manchester that can't wait!"

Monkey - I agree with you too but I think people might have difficulty defining which thread to go on. The extreme's - like my case of having hardly started and others of trying for years should be fairly simple to distinguish but once you go between that .... If people would prefer two different threads then maybe we should use the national average of a year. Hope I'm not offending anyone with this - alternatively if no one minds lets just continue....

WWW - I love your frankness (don't stop) - on occasions you've had me roaring out load. The only problem I have is that I've started connecting to this site whilst at work and my deputy is currently in a state of shock (a man) having stood over me for a while before I realised he was there. Besides - where else could we ask/discuss these subjects.

I'm really impatient too! It's terriblee isn't it?

I really don't want to upset anyone, but I was wondering if maybe this isn't 2 threads? What do people think. To be frank, I feel really petty going on about my frustrations of no period, no positive test, just a no-news limbo, compared with some truly horrific experience some women here are going through. Honestly, I feel humbled and petty moaning about my problems compared with 'real' problems some of you've got. otoh I don't have any one else really to talk to about this - my best friend has been trying for years without success, my mum ...erm no, dh hasn't even noticed I've not had a period...

What do you think, would it be more sensitive for me & amybe others who are just trying to scuttle off so's not to annoy & frustrate (if they're the right words) those of you who are having problems, or does every one feel ok to discuss the problems, big & small?

Still no period, but last night I did have tummy cramps. Any ideas?

Willow2, yes an underactive thyroid (which I've got) can also cause fertility problems, but my Dr says it's just a case of getting the right dose of medication (L-thyroxin usually) to replace what your thyroid gland is not producing. It's important that you keep checking thyroxin levels once you get pregnant (via a standard blood test), as you need to have enough for both you and the foetus, and not enough could mean the baby doesn't develop properly. But don't let this worry you. I think it is just undiagnosed or untreated underactive thyroids that cause the problems, so if you're seeing a Dr about this you should be fine.

Wow I missed this thread yesterday and look at the number of us trying to fall pregnant - brilliant. Well I too have been trying but only for a very small 2 weeks now. I've been extremely stressed out for the entire time so I suspect I'll be v. disappointed at the end of the month. Last time I fell pregnant on the first attempt but unfortunately lost it at 8 weeks. That was 10 months ago and dh and I think its about time we 'tried' again. The funny aspect to this is that my husband will currently give in to all requests and provide all whims. I've probably been extremely niaive (hope I spelt that correctly) but was that all I needed to do to get my way over everything + I've had a bouquet of flowers two weeks running. (He didn't even buy me flowers with dd was born! - said he'd already given me what I'd wanted!)

Hope that wasn't my comment earlier that worried you, willow2. If it was, maybe I can put your mind at rest. My thyroid was over-active and the over-activeness, plus the effects of the medication are known to cause infertility.

If it wasn't me, sorry for going on.
Don't know anything about underactive thyroids, sorry, but this site might help
thyroid.about.com/blpregnancy.htm

should that be effects? I'm such a crap speller.