Anyone else trying to get pregnant and want to talk about it?

Yes - It's the one with a similar title but the number 3 at the end - this and no 2 are too long and take my old computer ages to load ( no broad band in the sticks)

Erm ... just had a thought ... I have lost track of which one of these threads I last posted on ... there are about 3 I think ... can anyone point me in the right direction to the current one please ....??

Ovulation kits in NZ cost $90 ... that's 30 quid! That is really really expensive as you can buy a lot more for 30 quid here than you can in the UK ....
I haven't gone down that route yet ... will see about it.
I have still not decided on going on the pill for 3 months ... a doctor friend of mine has suggested that maybe I ought to get a second opinion ... as my periods are long rather than irregular (although they are more irregular than they used to be)
I am due on any day now ... pretty certain I am not pg ... although we ... you know ... quite a bit this month ... just don't feel it ....
Ho hum ...

EJsMum - you can get ovulation testing kits much cheaper from here

I used the Clearblue ovulation tests when 3 months of trying produced no results. I'm happy to say that they worked for us as we hit the jackpot the first month we tried the tests.
Though I do think they're expensive at £20 for 5.

Ah, relaxation!! Blessed but sadly elusive process!!

Haven't tried Persona LucieB, good idea! And good luck to you too!

Nerthus - welcome!!! I have been ttc for 6/7months now and have tried the ovulation kits and also never got anywhere with them. I am now using persona in order to try and build a picture of my cycle. I think the main thing is to try and relax -something which I haven't managed to do yet. I know exactly how you feel - I have friends who conceived within a month or two of trying etc etc. I am lucky, I know because I already have ds but thought it would all happen quickly the second time around.
Best of luck and keep going, we will all get there in the end. Unfortunately there has been a lack of success stories recently on the conception threads but hopefully that means that soon enough someone will have a positive test!!!

Does anyone mind a new voice on here? And one at present childless at that! I've read all the other contributions to this thread and I so know that feeling of hope followed by disappointment followed by determination not to let it Get One Down... it's happened to me so many times, and I also know the feeling when you feel that everyone in the universe, from the models and popstars on the telly to the woman in the corner shop, seems to be pregnant, EXCEPT YOU. And it only took a five minute standing-up B*nk in a Broom Cupboard for that whatsername of Boris Becker's to get up the spout and what's she got that you haven't...???

Was hoping to be pregnant this month but period was just late damn it. On the success stories front, well I'm not one of them myself so far BUT I do have one friend who has managed two successful IVF pregnancies from three treatments which in her late 30s/early 40s is pretty good going, especially after 8 years of trying to conceive naturally. Shows there's always hope!

The main tip my gynaecologist told me (from Hammersmith Hospital - has anyone else been there, and if so what do they think of it?) was to have sex every other day and not to be too concerned with counting days in the cycle, because one's ovulation is seldom bang on day 14, and I must say I've given up on those ovulation testing kits as I could never get them to work. Has anyone else had problems with those? I've even given up temperature charting as my temperature was up and down like the proverbial whore's drawers and I never knew what was going on and I always ended up forgetting to take it before getting up to go to the loo in a stupor first thing in the morning, as you do, then getting back to bed and seeing the thermometer sitting there on the bedside table...

Just a last minute late night thought - how come, relatively speaking, there are so few women gynaecologists/ obstetricians?

Good luck to everyone currently trying to conceive!

Just re-read this thread (and no 2) and wanted to know how everyone is getting on....

Just re-read this thread (and no 2) and wanted to know how everyone is getting on....

Am coming up to my fertile time again, I think and am really hoping that it all works this month. However, have had 3 long periods of 32, 34 and 36 days which doesn't help things and seems that everyone around me is falling pregnant. Hardly a day goes by without some more news and am beginning to feel emotional about it all. DS is only 7 months and I know this is probably all irrational but it helps to write my feelings down. If anyone has any success stories or tips on conceiving, that would be great.

Well I'm gald we've helped Boogs - but I'm not sure I'm in touch with my femininity!
Six months really isn't any time in ttc terms - tho' I appreciate it feels like it - if you haven't already then try some of the advice on sites mentioned here - they have helped others...
Good luck!

I'd just like to say a big thanks to everyone cause reading your stories has really made me feel better as it seems i'm in the same boat as many of you. I've been 'trying' for 6 mnths, am 29, my dd is 2 and 2mnths. I've tried Boots ovulation kit-no luck! I dread my period coming. I just feel abit desperate because all my friends and family know we want another baby and keep asking 'are you pregnant yet' and ' did you come on'. I know they're only as anxious as we are but it doesn't help. It's like when dd was due- she was 12 days overdue and I kept getting calls and questions. I think the pressure is getting to me. I know it's self inflicted but I guess I'm just the kind of person who talks alot and tells people whats happening (or nor!) in my life. We've now decided to 'not get pregnant'! I just want another baby. A good friend recently told me she was 3 months preg and I wanted to cry. I was over the moon for her but it just brought it home how much I need and want another baby. But Wht? I guess to fill my time and head space. I've kind of got my work on hold because I feel that as soon as I sart making great plans for making monek I'll get pregnant. So there's no point. I know. That's the answer. Get busy with planning something else to take my mind of the dissappoitment each month. I want dd to have a close relationship with a sibling and she won't if she's 4/5 years older !
BTW I think you're all great women who are in touch with your feminity and you're a real inspiration to me! Puke!

Bayleaf and Elliot ...
I know you two are on the IVF treadmill at the moment - how's it going? I know the nasal spray always made me feel very low and I was glad when the injections started.
Hope you're both getting on OK and the festive season wasn't too full of well-intentioned people asking about 'the patter of tiny feet' etc etc
Best wishes ... CM

Wills, sorry you're having a stressful time. If its any help, there is really no good evidence that stress or worry or trying to relax have any impact on whether or not a pregnancy will survive - it really is a case of what will be will be. Its absolutely impossible for you not to be worried, but do try to take care of yourself. Hoping that the spotting settles and it turns out to be a false alarm.

Oh Wills - what a wonderful and awful situation to be in all at the same time - 2 of my losses were early on so I have some idea what you are going thru' and how hard it is. My heart really goes out to you - as so many people have witnessed on different threads there really is reason to hope - so often the spotting means nothing and plenty of people stay pregnant even when their bodies are being 'abused' and apparently ot in any fit state to be - so your being run down may not tip the balance - I know it's pointless repeating the Dr's advice to relax - but you do seriously sound like you need some sleep - any chance of a really early night tonight - like NOW ????
Big cyber hug to you and fingers crossed
Bayleaf x
ps am starting another ttc thread as this one is taking forever to load

HI, Need to pour my heart out so will appologies now. After one of the hardest month's of my life (work stress, home stress etc) I found out on Wednesday that I'd failen pregnant. I couldn't have had more joyous news. I'd suspected for a week as my period was spotting and refusing to arrive but given all the other pressures around I suspected I was merely missing a period because of stress. I was still slightly spotting on Wednesday but was pretty much clear yesterday and then today I've started spotting again. I lost the last one in a similar way (but at 8 weeks not at 5wks 2 days). I know I'm being stupid but suddenly I feel that I'm going to loose this one. My doctor's informed me that I mustn't worry and get stressed because it will only make matters worse - great! and just how am I supposed to do that? I've only had 6 hours sleep in the last 48, I'm full of cold and suspect I'm not really fit enough to carry this little one but I sooo wanted it. Sorry but I'm sitting here going screwy - but trying to tell myself not to be so stupid and overreact.

Echoing Elliott, let's hope all of us on this thread have a baby to hold before the end of 2003. Good luck to everyone.

pluto, sprout - thinking of you both. In a way I think its easier for me because I have got beyond hoping to get pg naturally (well only a very tiny part of me is disappointed) - don't know your full stories obviously but just hope things do happen for you, soon!

Cookiemonster, thanks for your good wishes - I meant to respond to your earlier posting but couldn't find the right words - just something like I'm really glad you finally have your dd after all you went through.

Bayleaf - well I was born and bred in Nottingham! Now living somewhat further north and being treated at the local NHS centre as a paying patient. You've reminded me I need to sort the drugs out this morning.
I was going to try and keep this cycle low key so that I didn't have the world and his wife asking me what the result was - but I'm so bad at hiding things, I've already told a couple of friends that we're doing treatment again!! And some will have to know anyway as we'll need help to look after ds at critical times.
Happy Christmas everyone, hope 2003 brings us all what we desire!

Bayleaf and Elliot,
good luck to both of you ... I know exactly what you are embarking on - the ivf/icsi rollercoaster! Try to chill out and relax over Christmas and let's hope the New Year brings joy to you both.
Best wishes ... CM

Bluestar..I am going to wait until Boxing Day too..I echo your comments. I've had a cold this week so I've been playing all kinds of mind games and imagining cold symptoms to be early signs of being pg. Why do we do this to ourselves? Bayleaf and Elliot, thanks...your comments they help to keep things in perspective. 2 friends at work are pg, I was ttc at least a year before both of them. It has to be my turn soon!

Yes I'm doing that tomorrow Elliot as well - at the moment I'm using up left overs from last time - had quite a lot of both Nafaralin and Menopure left so am hoping the drugs bill will be significantly smaller this time - I did feel very vulnerable walking around last time with £750 of drugs in a carrier bag!!
What clinic are you at? I'm at the Park in Nottingham - and scans at a satellite hospital - they do mail order too which I think I might use this time - last time the timing meant that I might have missed them and had visions of an unsuspecting neighbour taking in all my drugs and then wondering what on earth was happening/telling THE WHOLE village about it before I even got home from work ( not hard in a 2 street village!)
It's nice having someone who understands it all here on Mumsnet to 'talk' to - as I said before I'm pretty much 'banned' from ivf sites whilst doing it to avoid obsessing about it. I also think Xmas will help as lots to do - and nice stuff too, lots of socialising ( though hopefully not TOO many meaningful questions about a brother or sister for dd...)so I won't be inclined to think about it all too much.

bayleaf, LOL at SPERM SPERM SPERM!
Good luck....to everybody!

bayleaf, good luck! and Happy Christmas!
I'm just about to order my drugs (so to speak). My clinic has switched to a mail order system - its going to be a bit bizarre phoning up and giving my credit card details - but I suppose it beats queueing up at the hospital pharmacy with all the regular punters, writing out an ENORMOUS cheque and walking out with a large carrier bag full of vials, needles, syringes.....
I think I'll be about a month behind you.