10th Month TTC..anyone else in a similar boat?

@IslaO hey! Glad your weekend wasn't too bad, despite the baby showers!! Mine was quiet and so plenty of time to over think 🙄

I don't feel great, I feel deflated and like I am out already this month because my temps are slower to rise this month. Also my ovulation pain wasn't as bad as last month so I have no idea!

Give me a week and il be inspecting cervix, toilet paper and every bloody twinge going. I wish we could just find out what's going on so we didn't have to stress and despair so much!!

Hello! Not been on here much but I'm 3dpo now. Had to fit in DTD around decluttering and packing. So every night DD is in bed, we do the housework, then sex, then pick an area of the house to clear out. It's been exhausting! Happy to be luteal now.
My best friend told me a couple days ago she's 7 weeks pregnant. It was IVF and I was so happy for her I cried but then it just makes me feel more urgency because I really wanted to do this together with her.

Yeah same here!! I’m like 10/11dpo now, not much to report on to be honest. Some sticky CM when I wipe. Don’t know if I should test 🙄 I did yesterday and it was BFN with cheapie internet one.

Hey isla yeah the that line is thinner than control line but defo darker after my initial ovulation I done an ovulation test and the test line was faded but this past few days they have been getting darker. I'm out at a kids blitz now so will attach a photo when I'm.home. haven't done a pregancy that yet

Morning all I'm feeling confused thought someone could help ovulated last sat tests were postive had ewcm left ovary pain. However I decided to continue on with my ovulation sticks since Thursday and last nights was getting darker but the test line is thinner. This ever happen to anyone?

I know how rude !!! Not fair for us, I guess time will tell, I feel a bit different this month I ovulated very late in my cycle, so according to my app and previous cycles I’m late but going with positive ovulation test and ewcm I’m 8/9dpo.
So I’m basically doing a 2nd TWW which is definitely punishment 😂😂

OH just don’t have a Scoobie with the process, emotions, impatient vibes we all have!

@IslaO I shouldn’t have! Because I knew what it was going to say lol just a waste, never mind lol.
I don’t really have much symptoms either possibly cramp on and off but very very mild and I only really feel it when I’m thinking about it. I do feel a bit bloated but that could be because AF is due too.
who knows, will test next week when/if I’m late x

I am in the same boat!! Feels like foreverrrrr! 8DPO and it also feels like I’m on day 88 😂
symptom spotting, even tested early which was daft!
baby dust to yal!

I feel deflated too, although I shouldn't as I am well within the time frame and a doctor would laugh at me right now as it hasn't been long enough but the worry and stress is still there. I am cycle day 9 of cycle 7 TTC #1.

My OH has two teenage children from a previous marriage and I've been pregnant before & we had a chemical pregnancy cycle 5.

We think having severe Covid and a very boozy year last year has affected fertility for us.

I've got a new obsession over conceiving in a heat wave right now because of what over heating does to sperm! Anyone that's conceived before got pregnant through scorching weather?

Im probably just being overly negative to save myself disappointment!

Totally get how you all feel with the stress of it.

I've started reading "it starts with the egg" and that's got a lot of info on supplements and lifestyle changes that have a huge impact so we just embarked on that journey now.

Really hoping for a BFP in the next 3-4 months or we will be paying for private tests.

I know we've have both been fertile in our lives but age is a factor and I am not 21 anymore and he's not 27!!

I'm 33 & he is 43 so just hoping it's not too late for us xx

@IslaO not necessarily, I can’t stop thinking maybe our DS was a one off miracle! Or torturing myself reading stories of secondary infertility. Definitely no guarantee you’ll conceive a second time because you’ve conceived once, and I’m feeling a lot more obsessed/ pressured around it this time around

@IslaO ummm it definitely took a bit of time for him to get his head around it. He felt guilty I think because it was 'him' but ultimately we are a team and he was pretty much okay.... he isn't a matcho matcho type though. Yes we conceived naturally before any drugs / cycle monitoring / IVF. This first 12 weeks is a lot more nerve wracking than I thought it would be. Getting pregnant is the first anxiety, staying pregnant becomes the next.

Thankyou isla just back from.a session he is chinese and been studying for years I just hope this all works. he didn't say much today but defo felt every needle being put in today. I hear reflexology Is great I would be doing that too only the accupature is quite costly for a weekly session.

@FlyOnTheWall89 Thank you will take a look at these!

@IslaO of course that is totally understandable to feel that way, having that back of the mind feeling it won’t happen is just awful. Hopefully it gives a little comfort that for me at least TTC for around a year is normal and I’m sure it will happen for you - keep the faith. I’ll keep everything crossed for you x

We started trying last September so round about the 10 month mark for us. Have had two chemicals during that time.

My DS took 13 cycles to conceive so I know I should be patient but it’s bloody hard.

Have got the ball rolling this time around with my GP, had bloods done this cycle and all fine there. We will go for more tests in September / October if still no sticky BFP.

@Teacaketotty

2 x Proxeed sachets
Ubiquinol 100mg
Pycnogenol 100 mg
Zita West vital DHA preconception supplement (basically omega 3 but check ingredients)
Vitamin D

No guarantees but morphology shot up after 2.5 months to 9%. We don't have a recent SA so we don't know if the count improved and that meant we conceived or if it just took a bit longer because of a borderline total sperm count.

Also the GP did give me a blood test to check ovulation on month 11 last time - which was the month I conceived funnily enough! SA for DH would have been after that but beyond that as we have a child there wouldn't have been any treatment.

I was in a similar situation, DD took 10 months - then our second took 11 months sadly ending in MMC. Been trying again since FEB but no luck yet. It is very deflating isn't it, seeing negative tests triggers me I swear so I don't test anymore and just wait for my period.

My only positive thoughts are that you've a good chance as any every month, and every month you don't conceive pulls you closer to the month that you will. Taking a year is normal, as much as I hate that saying, and I'm very jealous of those that conceive quickly - unfortunately I don't seem to be one of them either.

@FlyOnTheWall89 do you mind sharing any supplement tips?

Thankyou isla. Yes I love the hour I have with mine each week is more intense but I'm think to myself ill Try anything. I'm the same as you I've seen so many pregancy announcements and friends having there babies and It makes me feel sad and also happy for them but want it for me aswell. My friend had been trying a year she made a private appointment to get tests done just before she was meant to go she decided to take a test and was postive. Baby is now a few months old.

@IslaO I was in exactly that position. We fought over it and we never fight. I ended up getting all my tests done first from around month 8/9 and they came back normal. Then around the 10 month my OH finally gave in after many tears and got a SA. This is all done by your GP at this point btw and it came back 0% morphology and low total sperm count. We had clearly identified the problem. With those results we were referred to the fertility clinic and IVF with ICSI was suggested. In the meantime, I got my OH taking loads of supplements and be saw a urologist privately.

Long story short, I'm now pregnant, just before starting IVF after 15 months of trying and 5 months of him tightening up lifestyle and taking the supplements. Other people I'm on another group with have got to a year and found their partner has no sperm at all and all that time, they've had no chance.

Our urologist said the threshold for getting a semen analysis should be much lower - like after 6 months, get one because it's a pretty straightforward, cheap test that tells you quite a lot and there are lots of ways to improve sperm but it take 2-3 months to see results.

There is obviously a chance everything will be okay so don't be scared by my story but it is wildly common for there to a) be an issue and b) for the man to be pretty resistant about testing. If you're having plenty of sex and you are both healthy, you have like over 90% of being pregnant within a year. X