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10th Month TTC..anyone else in a similar boat?

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IslaO · 11/07/2022 21:21

Hi everyone,

I am trying hard not to catatrophise here but 10th month of actively TTC and nothing. I have been tracking ovulation and doing all I can but I’ve had no luck. Friend after friend announcing pregnancies and I’m getting increasingly panicked and down about it all. Is 10 months normal? Or is it likely to point in the direction of a problem?

thanks everyone x

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Xtina1986 · 19/07/2022 14:19

Hopefully its not af but implantation bleed. Was In work today someone announced a pregancy was very happy for her as she had been trying a while but also felt down as it's not happening for me. I'm not sure were I even am in this cycle as I ovulated a week after my period but it came early last month due to the accupature so not sure if af will be here for early again so say friday r go back to my 28 day cycle which will be next Friday. I'm going by first ovulation postive so I'm 9dpo today not a sympton kind.

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IslaO · 19/07/2022 14:17

@Watsochick are you driving yourself crazy googling implantation V period? I’ve just tortured myself and did a test…. BFN!

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Watsochick · 19/07/2022 11:53

Big massive CM with one streak of red blood !!!! Welcome AF no doubt ! Good luck girlies x

Watsochick · 19/07/2022 10:24

@IslaO 😂😂 us women are madddd but it’s allowed it’s the hormones 😂☹️

fingers crossed for you too I’ll report back with any updates! X

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IslaO · 19/07/2022 09:58

@Watsochick keep me posted. Would love to hear good news from you. I’m sitting here and aware of every twinge and pain. Zero CM today which isn’t a good sign. I also let myself get into a really bad mood last night and I made a list of all the people I know who have announced their pregnancies since I have been TTC. What a self-indulgent psycho 😂

speak to you later this week. Thinking of you and hoping you can keep positive and distract yourself in some way from the mental torture x

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Watsochick · 19/07/2022 09:40

@IslaO I could literally have written this!!!

im the same due in like 2 days - fingers crossed for you especially being away that would be special !!

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IslaO · 19/07/2022 09:06

@Watsochick and @Xtina1986 i woke up feeling so hopeless and in a ‘why will it never happen for me’ spiral. Just feel full of PMS and the exact same as every month so I’ve written myself off. Due AF in two days and although I feel like it will come, I know this month will be a hard one as we have been on holiday and ‘relaxed’ as everyone tells us to do I can’t blame it on work stress.

I realised I won’t even let myself imagine a positive outcome anymore because too many months have passed where I’ve envisioned a positive test, how I would tell OH, what my baby would be like etc and those have been the hardest months. Hate being so neggy but just don’t imagine it happening for me but if it did, oh my goodness what a weight it would feel was lifted. This has been a dark cloud over me for the last 8ish months and I am ready to leave it behind!!

Ladies, I need to practise what I preach but hope you can stay positive and be good to yourself today. Thinking of you all. You are not alone xx

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Watsochick · 19/07/2022 08:04

Thanks for replying, Your right I’m just having a crappy morning I think. If I remember correctly I was the same I think I had cramps as if AF was coming but was testing negative. Then about 7 weeks I started getting sickness etc everything about me and my cycles though are different this time round so it’s hard don’t want to compare. This is probably the first morning I haven’t tested either I’m just fed up. Now have to go to work in this heat I’ll be a crank alllll day hahaha I’m so bloated !! X hope your feeling better as the day goes on, nothing worse wakening up with a headache :( I had a one before bed and stuffy nose! But thankfully it’s away!

Xtina1986 · 19/07/2022 07:57

Hey @Watsochick sorry to here your feeling like that ur not alone woke up feeling sick with a mild headache. I've no symptons at all but don't give up hope with my first child I had no symptons at all was 7 weeks before I found out and only did as I had a routine doctors appointment. I've read on other sites that people don't have any symptoms.

Watsochick · 19/07/2022 07:29

So I know your not out till AF comes but Iv woke up so deflated can’t be bothered testing because it’s totally pointless and a waste of money. I just have a feeling Af is coming. Little to no cramps anymore, cm reduced, just feeling mehhhh 😂 probably my hormones and emotions prior to AF coming.
Thanks for listening to my moans we have all been there I imagine.
Iv been quite positive trying to listen to my body for months and looking out for some kind of cycle but this month I’m scunnered
happy Tuesday lol stay safe in this heat everyone! .

SFrancis1 · 18/07/2022 20:00

@IslaO I also paid for a private CD3 fertility test, all results came back good. I just have a higher egg count than what is expected for my age (31).

SFrancis1 · 18/07/2022 19:59

@IslaO I had CD21 blood tests at the beginning because my periods have always been irregular. My pelvic scan showed bulky ovaries, but I have been tested twice for PCOS. I mentioned to the doctor that I occasionally get a pulling sensation on my left side, she also saw it in my notes back in 2016 so has referred me to see if my fallopian tube is blocked (HyCoSy scan). My GP knows it has 'only' been 10 cycles, they removed my coil in September. My OH is yet to book the appointment, he said he will as he knows it is 2 of us on the journey and I am doing all of the testing and supplements, plus I have been upset and the last couple of AFs.

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IslaO · 18/07/2022 19:48

Oh what’s that follow up test based on? Is that a standard next test after general bloods @SFrancis1 ? How is your OH regarding the sperm analysis? Did you tell your GP you were trying longer than you have been? X

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SFrancis1 · 18/07/2022 19:46

@IslaO Yes, my google search history is extensive! I had blood tests for the first 4 months and a pelvic well-being scan last month - all came back positive. Being referred for a HyCoSy now. Partner has registered at the same doctors surgery today to have a SA done. All a bit daunting at the minute. Not quite sure how he actually feels about having a SA!

Watsochick · 18/07/2022 17:47

Hopefully pregnancy bloats all round!! X

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IslaO · 18/07/2022 17:41

@Watsochick im looking at my stomach wondering if it’s all the ice cream or pregnancy bloat! So funny we are sitting doing the same thing!

@SFrancis1 hey! Another one in the same boat-I’m sure your Google search history is similar to mine now you’re on cycle 10. I got basic bloods and a pelvic ultrasound done in cycle 8- was so scared it would raise issues but all came back fine and I think that helped. Now just to convince OH to get a sperm test but that is likely to be when we hit the year mark. If I knew it would take us 2 years to conceive but that we were guaranteed to, I’d be happy enough with that.
I just want the guarantee and life doesn’t give them!

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SFrancis1 · 18/07/2022 17:19

Hi everyone, can I join? I am just going into my fertile week of cycle 10. My GP referred me to a gynaecologist last week for some tests. Trying not to overthink or worry whilst I wait for my appointment.

Watsochick · 18/07/2022 16:50

@IslaO I’m also in the sun and doing exactly the same thing, I like to be busy in the TWW! Don’t know if I’m bloated coz of the heat or the fact I’m over weight !!! But yuckkk making me feel worse, wouldn’t care if I was expecting lol x

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IslaO · 18/07/2022 16:15

@Angie2018 that feeling of deflation and resignation is awful isn’t it. I hate to be so negative but I feel the same as I have at this point of my cycle every month and it’s so hard not to feel down. I wrote a note to myself last month to say ‘don’t be fooled by the sore boobs and nausea, it’s all just PMS’ so now every symptom feels like a bad sign. Just know there are people out there feeling just like you- it doesn’t feel that way with those in your friendship group im sure but that’s why I find forums like these so helpful!

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IslaO · 18/07/2022 16:12

@Watsochick im due at the end of the week too and will actually be on a mini break with some friends so really worried about how it’s going to impact me mentally/having nowhere to go to be alone.

@tingalayo that’s so strange you say that about your best friend.. the exact same thing happened to me last week with mine but hers was unexpected. She said she had sex once, at the very beginning of her fertile week and thought nothing of it. While I’m happy for her, it really is a punch in the stomach to hear stories like that when I’m trying so hard and really trying not to spiral into a ‘we will never have children’ hole.

sitting here in the sun trying to work out if I’m nauseous, have cramps etc and if so, is that a good (BFP) or a bad (AF) thing. Oh the joys of TTC!

Im really hoping to hear some positive news from some of you over the coming weeks- I feel like hearing of successful others who have been trying for a while will bring so much hope!

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Watsochick · 18/07/2022 15:04

@Xtina1986 ohh right well I can’t think what I’m usually like, but Iv got clear stretchy stringy cm so will be good to note that for future.. I should be due AF end of this week I think x

Xtina1986 · 18/07/2022 14:38

Hey @Watsochick not really sure I've read up on it a good bit some people have said they had loads of cm leading up to bfp othes have said they had none at all leading up to bfp. I'm just the same as I have been each month and all negative.

Watsochick · 18/07/2022 12:53

Fingers crossed for you all !!
stupid question, is Cm a good thing then afterward ovulation? Continuing up until AF or BFP?

Xtina1986 · 18/07/2022 11:35

Hey I'm OK apart from the heat shouldn't be complaining though as it's not often we get it. I've been feeling pressure in the pelvic area like cramps since yesterday but af not due until 29th if I'm.going by my 28 day cycle last month it came one week early but the Chinese doctor did that. Did an ovulation test yesterday was negative so think the other days qas maybe a second surge bd anyway just incase but not felling postive this month very little to none cm.

Watsochick · 18/07/2022 10:41

I’m at the inspecting everything stage 😂 thankful for currently no AF in this heat though!!

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