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TTC after ectopic

31 replies

dpr89 · 02/07/2022 17:05

Hi,
Has anyone that had an ectopic pregnancy started TTC again before having the first period?

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Mummyme87 · 03/07/2022 07:41

Just wanted to check in with you ladies. I had a ruptured ectopic in July 2020, it was an unplanned pregnancy, so didn’t want to TTC afterwards, started 18months later (cycle 9 now 🥴).
just sending all my love to you all, it’s a really shitty group to be in!!

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dpr89 · 02/07/2022 23:29

Thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate your thoughts about waiting a bit before starting TTC again.
This is all so overwhelming but I will track my ovulation and wait for my period and then start TTC.
I feel like I could I've been guided a bit better through all of this (I had surgery and no follow up is needed; only been advised to wait a couple of cycles before TTC just to be sure with dates, nothing else).
But your positive experiences gives me hope 🙂

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ArcticSky · 02/07/2022 21:54

Sorry you've been though that. It's horrible.

Mine was treated with Methotrexate so I had to wait 3 months before TTC, but I'm honestly really glad that was the case. I felt I'd coped fine with the ectopic & treatment, however a month or so later it hit me and I was really down. It was so beneficial to work through my emotions and make sure mentally (as well as physically) I was ready for a pregnancy again. Initially I just wanted a baby asap, but that would have been wrong for me.

If you are still testing positive, even faintly, it would probably be a good idea to wait as it means the HCG is not fully out of your system from your ectopic.

Did the doctors not advise you on when you could start trying again?

I have an 8 month old now. I really hope it works out for you too x

Soph0105 · 02/07/2022 20:45

Hi @dpr89 sorry to hear you've been through this. It's shitty! I had my right tube removed in Sept 2020 after an unsuccessful methotrexate injection so I had to wait 3 months before trying again. However, just to reassure you a bit, my surgeon told me that with only one tube my chances of getting pregnant each month had dropped from 51% to 49%. And I got pregnant again really easily the second month of trying, and now I have a healthy 8m old boy.

With hindsight, the 3 months wait to try again was no bad thing as it gave me a bit of time to get my head around things better. Good luck to you xxx

PS if you search TTC after ectopic there are several threads which I found really helpful at the time of mine. Loads of lovely positive stories! I'm down as Kate105 on them.

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dpr89 · 02/07/2022 20:27

Thanks for your reply. It was really helpful, and I'm sorry that you also had to go through this.

I had surgery for possible ectopic (mine was a pregnancy of unknown location) and ended up with right tube removed due to nearly rupture. This was only last week.

I've been discharged from everything and was advised to wait a couple of cycles just to be sure of the dates in case I get pregnant quickly. I'm just checking my hcg levels with urine tests at home (got a barely visible faint line today).

However, I track my ovulation and also have ovulation pain so I would guess it would be easy to calculate the weeks of a possible pregnancy?

I'm feeling fine and I'm ready to start TTC again. Having to wait it just feels that I'm wasting opportunities to try again, especially with only one tube.

I was just hoping other people could share their experiences 🙂

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Randomname1234 · 02/07/2022 18:04

Hi,

Sorry for what you have been through with the ectopic.

I had an ectopic which ended in April and at first I wanted to try again before having a period as just didn’t want to wait. However when it came to it, at the time I ovulated (I could tell because I get ovulation pains) I still had some hcg in my system and hadn’t been discharged from the EPU and was still being told not to have sex yet (they wanted me to wait until HCG had dropped below 5 before having sex again because of risk of rupture). So we sort of missed our chance. Instead we waited for one period and then tried again, which in the end I found really helpful because I had a clear last period date to work with (I knew I’d want to know exactly how many weeks I was supposed to be when going for early scans).

However, besides the dating benefit of having one period first I couldn’t see any reason to have to wait (I hadn’t had surgery I needed to recover from and I hadn’t had methotrexate). Other people probably disagree.

I realise you didn’t ask for peoples opinions so sorry if this is a useless reply!