Anyone else due to test around 30th June/1st July?

@Norfolk1983 yeah exactly! My OH was no different to start with, just told me to relax and said one night could get me pregnant. I had to explain that I have a 24 hour window and it doesn't work like that... having sex once in a blue moon unprotected 🤣 now we are cycle 6 & had a chemical pregnancy last month, he's well on board with being at it like rabbits x

Yes you are right :) give it a six months and he might change his tune! Men just think it’s far easier than it is!

@Norfolk1983 fair enough it's not for everyone! I understand the relaxed approach and not scheduling DTD, but I actually find this more relaxing so I don't worry if I've done it enough but we are all different x

Sadly my other half and I have really busy jobs and dtd that often just won’t happen! He seems like quite a few guys in that he doesn’t want to ‘schedule’ dtd so not sure SMEP will suit us! 😞

@Norfolk1983 also Google success stories as will give you hope! We are doing it for the first time this month... hoping it's our month! & yours too 💜

Hi, @Angie2018 no I haven’t! Will give it a google now :) x

@Norfolk1983 have you tried SMEP? Apparently it's amazing and people swear by it! If you haven't heard about it give it a Google! You certainly aren't out of time yet, it may take slightly longer but it may not. My friend came off the pill age 37 & conceived her daughter in her first month of trying. She's now 5! X

I’m on cd14 and have a 26 day cycle. This is our third month trying. I had a positive ov test on cd11 and dtd that morning. Had also dtd on evening of cd9. Next period is due 1st July. I’m 39 TTC my first x not very confident at all given my age 😬

Wow this thread moves quickly!! It’s so lovely to have a group where were all in the TWW.

@allgoodthings84 my step brother had a stillborn at full-term last January, and they’ve just given birth to another little boy 🌈

my mum friends know I’m TTC as this is baby #2, but parents etc don’t as i don’t want the pressure! I’ve just done an OPK and it’s low so hopefully a good sign ovulation has happened. We can stop DTD every other day now! X

@allgoodthings84 ah me too! It's so nice to hear other peoples journeys too it stops me feeling so alone!

We haven't told anyone either, I think people like my step kids suspect just because of the length of time we've been together and same with my family. Same with one of my close friends. But we haven't told anyone that's our plan.

Covid will defo affect male fertility, I also wish we knew so I could have written a couple of cycles off so I didn't get so sad for a couple of months. We had it BAD and it most definitely affected cycle 3 & 4. They say up to 3 months for men and for woman it's a bit hit and miss. I defo ovulated both cycles but first one was late ovulation by 4 days and the second was early by a day.

I suspect your cold won't affect anything. I think Covid may have a chance to. But a cold shouldn't be an issue. Fingers crossed for you!

@Cdoc absolutely it's sooo nice to have others to chat to who know how horrible the TWW is! Thank you, I am just trying to see the positives and that's that we can get pregnant, the sperm met the egg and so the right egg will come along soon! Yes I agree, it's defo got to be our month this month! Will this be your first? How long have you been TTC for? This will be my first and cycle 6. But we had bad Covid cycle 3 & 4 so can't really count those as Covid is known to affect male fertility for up to 3 months and it certainly did weird things with my cycles. First cycle with good sperm back and it was a bloody chemical so I really hope this month is the month! Sending positivity, love & baby dust to all 💜 xx

@Angie2018 thank you, and sorry to hear about your chemical too. I’m 33 too and husband is 37 so feel like it’s our time!
let’s breed all the positivity and keep each other going 🥰✨it’s made me feel more positive about the long tww wait already!!xx

I’ll be testing but not hopeful. I only got a solid smiley today on CBD and DH is away so last DTD Tuesday. I’m hoping one may have hung around for long enough to have impregnated me!

@OCM19 the TWW basically feels like a year doesn't it 🙈 I suspect il be chatting away to you lot on here and searching for everyone else's BFPs as that just makes me happy and hopeful 🥰 also I am going to test earlier this month. Like 10dpo I think. I never test this early but I feel like it may stop me tormenting myself! X

@Cdoc thank you hun! Sending you baby dust back & praying for sticky beans for us all! Sorry to hear about your MMC! I had a chemical last month... so we all deserve our sticky BFPs this cycle! Let's breed so much positivity on this thread 🥰

@allgoodthings84 yeah you are right people think it's just the woman that's suffers, I know that would rip my partner to shreds if that happened. Maxing your parents got through it!!

Totally agree! If someone said to me it's going to happen THIS month or in 3 months time or so, I'd be like it's fine I can wait but it's the not knowing if it will happen although I am pretty sure it will, it's just nerve wracking I think. I am 33 now, partners 43. He has two teenage kids already, i feel like we are so over ready to have our own it's like I have no patience and focus on my age!

@Angie2018 and @OCM19
sending lots of baby dust!! So hopeful for some lovely bfp’s in this group 😊

@allgoodthings84 I think you are so right. The heartache would be too much, and I know exactly what you mean about the obsessive testing. With my pregnancy in April I didn’t test until AF was 4 days late, and I had quite a few symptoms by then.

I do think Opk’s are a good idea, life gets too busy to be dtd every other day for 3 weeks! And our bodies are doing strange things to us sometimes, it feels mad that all through school we are taught how easy it is to fall pregnant, and then you find out the window of days is actually so small. We need to know when those eggs are ready!!

Oh god you need to test before that bbq 🤣hopefully by then there will be lovey sticky babies in there for us 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Staying positive is about the best we can do. This is my first cycle post mmc so I’m not actually sure when AF is due, which does worry me a little bit, but opk’s confirmed the ovulation so I’m focusing on those rather than any other dates.

Got to keep ourselves busy and hope the time passes ✨ and hope this month is our month!

just read your post about your poor mum too, what a horrific thing to go through. How positive that she focuses on the fact she wouldn’t have had you otherwise, there was a happy ending to her story xx

@allgoodthings84 I just cannot imagine how couple get through losses like that! Just so awful. Such a cruel thing for people to go through!!

It's so nice to hear she had other children and no other miscarriages too. I do genuinely believe that sometimes things like this happen and it's not that there's anything wrong with us, it's just sometimes nature just doesn't happen as it's supposed to and ends in sad losses.

Wow you really do need a break! Atleast you won't be under pressure to DTD and like you say hopefully you won't need to! But if you do you will find it fun in august as you will have had a break.

Yes july is a long month!

I agree some of us should be getting our BFPs this cycle, so many got theirs in June which is just so motivating!

I actually LOVE seeing everyone's BFPs it makes me happy and hopeful and statistically if it's not our month it's just bringing us even closer to our month!!