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Been TTC 6 months! Feeling sad now :( anyone the same?

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Freespirit98 · 07/06/2022 23:42

I've been coming on here since we started trying I've learnt most of things about TTC ovulation etc off Mumsnet, I never thought to make an account because I'm 24 my OH is 34, I thought it would happen straight away! It didn't, I come off my pill on NYE 2021 which I had been on for 6 years but when February hit my periods were bang on 28 days apart so very regular so I assumed I was ovulating (still hope I am) but I have been tracking on 2 apps and then I have used ovulation tests and even the conceive + gel the past 2 months! I'm gutted as I wish I would of come off my pill earlier. I'm worried, I know I'm overthinking it too much to be honest but I just thought it won't hurt speaking to someone that's been in the same boat, He has got 1 child to previous, so I'm starting to panic that it's me. Anyone else been through this or do we need to get checked after 6 months of trying? Thanks in advance :) worry wart here!

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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 18:25

Bluejeanbaby91 · 13/09/2022 16:07

@Freespirit98 I spoke to my doctor a few weeks ago who told me the year wait is a myth - and that if you're concerned about fertility issues you can speak to your gp at any time and they will refer you, as he said to me, the quicker you are referred the quicker you can be treated.

Not sure if everyone's GP will be the same but it's worth a try

Thank you! I have just found out I'm pregnant again after a miscarriage last month speaking to midwife tomorrow just hope all is well :)

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Bluejeanbaby91 · 13/09/2022 16:07

@Freespirit98 I spoke to my doctor a few weeks ago who told me the year wait is a myth - and that if you're concerned about fertility issues you can speak to your gp at any time and they will refer you, as he said to me, the quicker you are referred the quicker you can be treated.

Not sure if everyone's GP will be the same but it's worth a try

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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 16:04

HeyDuggeesFavouriteSquirrel · 13/09/2022 11:50

Yes, Aunt Flo came today.. it was my fifth cycle trying to conceive baby no.2! My son (who is now 3) was conceived first time DTD without contraception and I got pregnant quickly again in January but sadly that ended in miscarriage.

Doesn't seem to be so easy this time.

I know that feeling all too well! Hate it you think this month will be the month then just get knocked back down :( so sorry to hear, sending you all the baby dust!!!

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HeyDuggeesFavouriteSquirrel · 13/09/2022 11:50

Yes, Aunt Flo came today.. it was my fifth cycle trying to conceive baby no.2! My son (who is now 3) was conceived first time DTD without contraception and I got pregnant quickly again in January but sadly that ended in miscarriage.

Doesn't seem to be so easy this time.

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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 11:37

Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 10:56

Hi! I only knew I was having a miscarriage because I kept doing tests once I found I was pregnant the first time round then one day they were all negative :( bleeding started a few days later and then all negative tests after bleeding had stopped. So I don't think so! X

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Sorry update none of my messages are making sense reading them back lol, I don't think it could be hormones from before as all neg tests! X

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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 10:59

TheJudgment · 10/09/2022 08:01

Some are more sensitive than others, Try a first response as they can be more sensitive. And a very tentative congratulations to you!

Thank you, no I didn't have a period other than the bleeding from the miscarriage but yes all negative tests after now this I have posted this morning! But midwife said it was ok to try straight away when I'm ready just didn't think it would happen this quick, I'm a bit scared to get my hopes up again just incase. According to the app I'm 4 weeks+3 but I have an app tomorrow (only phone call though) hoping they'll bring me in for a blood test!

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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 10:57

BloodyCamping · 10/09/2022 08:49

I was older and had similar. You need a day 21 progesterone test. I had ovulation issues despite having regular periods. Clomid tablets resolved them while tic and I’ve got lots of children now!

thank you!! The message above was from Saturday I had one positive one negative this is this morning! X eeeeeek x

Been TTC 6 months! Feeling sad now :( anyone the same?
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Freespirit98 · 13/09/2022 10:56

TheJudgment · 10/09/2022 08:02

Just read your message properly, could this be hormones still raised from your miscarriage?

have you had a period in between?

Hi! I only knew I was having a miscarriage because I kept doing tests once I found I was pregnant the first time round then one day they were all negative :( bleeding started a few days later and then all negative tests after bleeding had stopped. So I don't think so! X

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BloodyCamping · 10/09/2022 08:50

Fingers crossed!!

BloodyCamping · 10/09/2022 08:49

I was older and had similar. You need a day 21 progesterone test. I had ovulation issues despite having regular periods. Clomid tablets resolved them while tic and I’ve got lots of children now!

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TheJudgment · 10/09/2022 08:02

Just read your message properly, could this be hormones still raised from your miscarriage?

have you had a period in between?

TheJudgment · 10/09/2022 08:01

Some are more sensitive than others, Try a first response as they can be more sensitive. And a very tentative congratulations to you!

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Freespirit98 · 10/09/2022 07:48

Freespirit98 · 10/09/2022 06:39

Thank you so much for your kind words it means a lot!! It was awful and we were so happy it really did break me and now I'm confused what's going on with my body! Waiting for a period but the pains I'm getting recently are worse than the actual miscarriage itself! :( The midwife told me to just keep an eye on bleeding and clots and to go to a&e if it gets heavy, which I didn't I was ok in the end, she said try again when I'm ready, so suppose there's not much else I can do! Apparently your very fertile after a miscarriage not sure the reason must be hormones, so going to do a test to be sure as it's been nearly 5 weeks and no period! Sending you all the baby dust and so much good luck!! X

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Wow. Positive from a boots digital negative from clear blue not sure what to think. Might go and get some more when it opens! X

Been TTC 6 months! Feeling sad now :( anyone the same?
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Freespirit98 · 10/09/2022 06:39

NatGee · 07/09/2022 10:36

@Freespirit98 hey, i am so sorry to hear your news :( I have just read the entire thread as I can relate to you all on how sad it is when you're ttcing
Again, so very sorry, we haven't been pregnant yet but I can imagine it being so very heartbreaking... will you investigate the reason for the miscarriage?

Thank you so much for your kind words it means a lot!! It was awful and we were so happy it really did break me and now I'm confused what's going on with my body! Waiting for a period but the pains I'm getting recently are worse than the actual miscarriage itself! :( The midwife told me to just keep an eye on bleeding and clots and to go to a&e if it gets heavy, which I didn't I was ok in the end, she said try again when I'm ready, so suppose there's not much else I can do! Apparently your very fertile after a miscarriage not sure the reason must be hormones, so going to do a test to be sure as it's been nearly 5 weeks and no period! Sending you all the baby dust and so much good luck!! X

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NatGee · 07/09/2022 10:36

@Freespirit98 hey, i am so sorry to hear your news :( I have just read the entire thread as I can relate to you all on how sad it is when you're ttcing
Again, so very sorry, we haven't been pregnant yet but I can imagine it being so very heartbreaking... will you investigate the reason for the miscarriage?

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Freespirit98 · 07/09/2022 10:12

Hi everyone sorry I've not been on. So we found out I was 5 weeks pregnant last month & I then miscarried 😥 I'm not sure if anyone's still on here but I don't thought I'd do a post. I haven't been able to talk really so i thought it was best not to come on to not trigger myself as am heartbroken, hope you are all well 🥰 xx

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Angie2018 · 21/06/2022 12:34

@hevann I haven't tested early before I've always waited, but part of me thinks that from 9/10dpo a FRER may be able to pick it up and so if I got even a v faint positive it may cut the torture down by a few days 🤣 xx

hevann · 21/06/2022 12:12

@Angie2018 Me Too! 😩 I'm terrible & will probably start testing on cheapies next week even though I know it's to early 🤣 just to get disappointed every time 🙈🙈 xx

Angie2018 · 21/06/2022 12:08

@hevann 🙈🙈🙈 I'm already dreading the TWW 🤣🤣🤣 xx

hevann · 21/06/2022 11:57

@Angie2018 haha! It is definitely one of those days. xx

Angie2018 · 21/06/2022 11:39

@hevann just realised I told you my birthday already 🤣🤣 sorry it's one of those days!!

Angie2018 · 21/06/2022 11:39

@hevann ah that's ok! I am ok thanks! I also got my peak yesterday so I am due to ovulate today / tomorrow although it hasn't happened yet!!

I totally agree I'd love a March baby too. My birthday is the 5th April so I am an Aries like you!! We also have so many birthdays between October to Jan we've said we would love a spring or summer baby so if we conceive this month we will get our wish plus I will still be 33 🤣🤣 x

hevann · 21/06/2022 11:31

@Angie2018 sorry, I haven't been on for a few days. Hope you're doing ok? Got a positive OPK yesterday & due to ovulate today.

I would love a March baby. We don't have many March birthdays in the family except mine & my cousins. His is the 6th & I'm the 31st so it would work out well for the middle 😂

I know what you mean when you say it'll be nice to give birth before our next birthdays. Won't feel as old 🤣 I'll be 37 next year. x

Angie2018 · 15/06/2022 12:49

@Freespirit98 omg so sorry I didn't see your response! Feel bad I didn't reply now! Ah I am glad I helped, it's so hard sometimes to remain sane and positive, I have been down most months to be honest but you know what, you know your body, if you believe somethings gone on it most likely has. I know for sure I had a chemical this month, I just don't test early for that reason as I think it would be harder with a positive test and then a negative one. Just see it as the sperm met the egg and it's possible for you both to conceive & the right egg will come along. There are so many stories online about girls having a chemical and then getting pregnant the month after and having a healthy baby. So it will defo happen!! I pray you get your BFP this month! A March baby would be so nice it's such a nice time of year. I've always said to my partner I'd love a spring or summer baby. He said the same. Fingers crossed for us all! Keep us posted! When are you due to ovulate? I am due to ovulate on the 22nd so a week today xx

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