TTC over 40 - anyone want to join the club?

Could I join please? I'm 40 and DH is 43, trying for our first. This will be our first month TTC. I came off the pill quite some time ago but (one of) but our issue is my DH has a health condition and so hasn't really been feeling well and we haven't been DTD. I always wanted to remain v relaxed about this but age is absolutely not on our side and I'm getting anxious we need to start trying for this properly. Have been tracking cycle, which is regular, but thinking I should use ovulation tests too and take the right supplements.

So far so good thanks! Obviously still very early day's but fingers crossed.

How are things looking? I'm hoping it stuck for you!

I did an early test and I think maybe I got a positive....its still early as not due until Thursday or Friday

@Perexi I think I'm out for this cycle...
I'm day 18 of cycle. I'm a 24 day cycle on average.
Feel emotional and have bloating like a tightness across my stomach....so im sure I'll be expecting AF in a minute!

I did a few more ovulation strips this month....still trying to pinpoint the exact ovulation day but strips have indicated from day 10...but I DTD up to day 15...

Maybe im way out.

So much easier when we were TTC my first!!! 7 months it took but I was 39 then...

Anyone have any positive pregnant at 44 stories 😶

How are you doing? Try not too stress too much (easier said than done I know!) Some day's definitely seem harder than others right?!

Unfortunately this is around my fertile window (first month using the test strips for ovulation so trying to navigate reading them and not stressing out) and my partner is out and busy with work 😬but figured kind of good practice to know when ovulating....

🙃 thinking it's not going to happen...trying to stay positive.

I'm using ovulation sticks, Clearblue ones. I've had the flashing smiley face from day 10...so don't know if that's positive at least.

Trying to stay calm and chill

@EnnaMc how old are you?
What exactly did the doctor say? What would be the next step.

Sorry I can't help. I don't understand what those results mean.

I'm trying for our second ....I'm turning 44 soon.

Trying naturally.

Please can anyone help. I have set up an individual post but people don't tend to comment so just thought I'd ask on here as people have been so open.

We are awaiting our referral appointment but in the meantime I've had private tests, but I don't fully understand and the doctors notes are daily basic.

AMH results normal for my age.
Progesterone - all fine.
LH - all fine.
FSH - very high
Oestradiol- very low.

I wondered if anyone has any experience with similar results who can tell me if I'm right in thinking it's game over with those last two results? I'm heartbroken and could just do with hearing anyones experiences before I suppose I have it fully confirmed at the awaited appointment.

One thing I have learnt / noticed ....this isn't true for everyone...is that Apps such as Flo can be totally off !
I think we have been DTD far too early in my cycle and should continue after Day 14/15!
I have a semi-regular cycle,24/25 days.

Just a thought!

I'm not following the app anymore ..

So am definitely out this time. EPU scanned me Monday and showed a PUL. Bloods dropped from 88 HCG on Monday to 77 today, so guess it’s just a waiting game now. They’re doing more bloods on Friday as it needs to get to below 35.

Winterfox78 - ohh I may have to try them thank you

@Chasingclouds100 yes I'm temping and using ovulation sticks...just to help.
I actually ovulate earlier than I thought....

I use Clearblue digital at day 10...first thing in the morning as it suggests...

Winterfox78 - not doing temping or ovulation tests. I always know when I’m ovulating as I experience ovulation pains so that helps but I have been thinking about perhaps trying them just to be certain. I’m getting to the stage where I think we may have to seek medical help but I’m worried that I will just be told outright that I can’t get any help as I’m too old. It’s frustrating as I conceived Dc1 and DC2 straight away but that was 11 and 13 years ago. Are you temping or doing ovulation charts at all? I have also been taking ubiquinol for over a year and vitamin B12 as they are meant to help

@Chasingclouds100 also trying naturally...are you temping or using ovulation tests?

EnnaMc - trying naturally here for 13 months aged 44

Of course not, I'm 40 my partner is 37 and we're trying for our first.

@EnnaMc we have been trying for about 4 months now.
I won't be trying IVF.

We have decided that if doesn't happen in the next few months ...probably isn't going to happen...

We are just keeping really relaxed about it..

I have a beautiful daughter ...and I know some on here are tying for their first over 40 and mid 40's

So I'm really grateful for what we have..keeping it relaxed...if it happens it happens.

I had my first at 40...so anything is possible.

Hi. How are you finding the journey, naturally. That is what we are doing just now also, but it's really taking it out of us. Wishing you lots of luck

@Perexi I wish you lots of luck. Do you mind me asking your age?

@EnnaMc trying naturally here.
44 in August.
Trying for number 2.
Have a DD who is 3.

Hey!

That's good that you are both in normal range, fingers crossed it happens for you soon. We have only just started trying so haven't had any Tests or anything just trying and seeing how we go and hoping for the best.

Can I also ask, are people on this thread trying through IVF, naturally or is it a mix?

Hi all.

Please can I join in also?

I'm 42, already have two sons (12/15) and have been trying for over a year with my current partner. We have both had tests and are within normal range of everything but towards the lower end. It's been so disheartening and upsetting and really put a terrible strain on us. I'm almost ready to give up to be honest.

It will be good to hear other people's stories and be part of an encouraging and supportive group.

Sorry, I don't really know all the abbreviations.

So, I got a positive on Friday showing 1-2 weeks. It still says that today and I should be 5 weeks today. Last three pregnancies said 2-3 by this point (only one successful). I’ve no real symptoms apart from tiredness and very brief/light nausea. I don’t think this is going to be successful. I’ve a scan in 2 weeks, but not sure I’ll make it that long (although I have a history of MMC). Odd as I really didn’t think it would happen this month. I’ve got so used to miscarriages, I’m more annoyed about the admin (the waiting game, the bleeding, the operation of applicable), than I think I am the loss at the moment.