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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 13:00

Thank you ladies! I REALLY need to read these posts from you this morning and you've all reasurred me and you're absolutely right I definitely need to remind myself that because of our history of MCs we are definitely more tuned to noticing changes, which may not necessarily be anything to worry about!

My tender breasts have returned and I currently feel slightly nauseous! I literally feel like I flick between feeling delighted I have symptoms and then the next minute feeling absolutely horrendous that it's another miss happening. The fluctuations in my mentality is absolutely insane!

I do think we are all hyper sensitive given the MCs but to add to this I also have a degree in maternity care and this also doesn't help! I think people think it's a blessing to have all this pregnancy and baby knowledge but I think it makes it worse!

I've not had a chance to individually reply as I'm currently walking through centre parks so will take some time later to directly reply to each of you later. We are home today so I'll have more of a chance on the drive home.

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Maya12345 · 04/07/2022 10:46

@Lauren441 im so sorry you're feeling like this, not a nice feeling at all. I don't think any of us will truly be able to relax until we're actually holding a baby! I had some brown spotting this morning and freaked out. Waiting for gp to call me later. So many things ran through my mind. Apparently it could be the progesterone pessaries causing it but I don't know.
I haven't really had any symptoms apart from sore boobs too.

When are you home? X

yorkshiremumofone · 04/07/2022 08:40

Oh @Lauren441 it's such a awful feeling 😓 just try to keep as positive as you can and don't get stressed I know it's easier said! Lots of peoples symptoms come and go a lot! I know with my first mine was coming and going!

The last couple of days I've had bubbling tummy, metallic taste in my mouth yesterday and I'm not sure if my boobs are tender or not! I hate driving ourself mad with symptom spotting and I'm only about 5/6 DPO!!

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 04/07/2022 08:38

Oh @Lauren441 this sounds like mental torture 😞 how long until your home?

If it helps I was feeling like this yesterday, symptoms had dissapeared, nausea all gone and I was convinced my test today would be lighter but it wasn't so hopefully it's just a combination of symptoms fluctuating loads in the early days and also where you are away from home doing lots of new things and busy your less likely to spot/feel them?

I'm usually a strong believer in trust your gut but after something like a MC I think it's very easy to let your anxious brain take over and always jump to the worst

Laurzz · 04/07/2022 07:28

@Lauren441 Nothing I can say will give you any reassurance but my symptoms came and went. The twinges for me tailed off at about 5 weeks then come back pretty intense from 8-12 weeks. My breasts always remained tender (and still do) but i'm on another thread and also of them lost the breast tenderness pretty early on and currently 12/13 weeks pregnant.

Do whatever you need to do to reassure yourself but please don't be harsh on yourself.

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Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 07:13

Well all my symptoms have now gone. Breast tenderness and abdominal twinges. And you know when you just have this deep down gut feeling. 😞 I feel horrendous. And I also feel horrendous being away and unable to even run to the shop for a test to offer myself reassurance.

Hope things are going well for you all though?

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yorkshiremumofone · 02/07/2022 21:56

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 02/07/2022 21:42

@Laurzz that's is such a gorgeous scan photo I bet you and hubby are on cloud nine this weekend ☺️

@Lauren441 yeh so likely we are very close if not the same DPO. Hope your having a nice time at CP and it's not to hard to hide your not drinking. Let us know when you've done your digi 🙌🏼

I'm going to follow your lead and only get my booking app once Iv had my digi 3 week+

Have had symptoms coming and going, the days leading up to testing I was extremely emotional and couldn't stop crying, since then have stated getting very car sick and bad back ache. Also had a wave of morning sickness but only once. How about you? Mine are a bit inconsistent which doesn't help the anxiety and keeping calm 😩

@yorkshiremumofone yeh I was the same, i have never wanted something so bad that's why I held of testing until 12dpo as despite it being mega hard (and I cheated and tested 12hrs early) I knew I would be worse getting no line or and unclear one but on a day where I wasn't sure if it was just to early 😩

How you feeling now?? Oh bless you! Yeah you just want constant symptoms!

I'm sooooo nervous about thinking it's not my month, I am literally scared of the date AF coming 😓 I think I'm about 4/5 DPO. It's so hard, it's literally all I can think about. You did so well to hold off testing so long!! I think if I test early and it's negative I feel like I'll be distraught!

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 02/07/2022 21:42

@Laurzz that's is such a gorgeous scan photo I bet you and hubby are on cloud nine this weekend ☺️

@Lauren441 yeh so likely we are very close if not the same DPO. Hope your having a nice time at CP and it's not to hard to hide your not drinking. Let us know when you've done your digi 🙌🏼

I'm going to follow your lead and only get my booking app once Iv had my digi 3 week+

Have had symptoms coming and going, the days leading up to testing I was extremely emotional and couldn't stop crying, since then have stated getting very car sick and bad back ache. Also had a wave of morning sickness but only once. How about you? Mine are a bit inconsistent which doesn't help the anxiety and keeping calm 😩

@yorkshiremumofone yeh I was the same, i have never wanted something so bad that's why I held of testing until 12dpo as despite it being mega hard (and I cheated and tested 12hrs early) I knew I would be worse getting no line or and unclear one but on a day where I wasn't sure if it was just to early 😩

Laurzz · 01/07/2022 17:32

Thank you everyone for your lovely comments.

I enter the 2nd trimester next week and I'm going to try and enjoy it. The 1st has been full of anxiety and worry.

Can't wait to follow everyone in here journey. Sending you all baby dust for a healthy rainbow baby 🌈

Maya12345 · 01/07/2022 17:18

Thanks @Lauren441 its a tough one isn't it!! Could always say you've had a dodgy stomach over the night and are still feeling fragile?! Hope you have a great time anyway and get to enjoy it! Xx

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Lauren441 · 01/07/2022 17:02

Hope the covid symptoms have started to settle down for you @maya12345.

Im away in centre parks this weekend and now I need to make up 5000000 excuses as to why I don't want to do most the activities. I'm super scared of falling or getting bumped. The anxiety after the MC is unreal so im literally going to look like such a bore all weekend! A part of me is thinking should we tell my mum, dad, brother and sis in law so I don't look like I'm not joining in! But equally I don't want to spoil what could be a nice Suprise in 12 weeks!

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Lauren441 · 01/07/2022 16:56

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 01/07/2022 07:54

Thanks all, so so nervous now but this is the first hurdle down... just another 8352 to go 🤪

That is really similar @yorkshiremumofone I have everything crossed for you and we know how hard the TWW is, lean on us to get your through to test day if you need any support! When do you plan on taking your first one?

@Lauren441 it's great to have people who totally understand all the emotions isn't it. Fantastic that your lines and symptoms are progressing, how many DPO do you think you will be when you take your digi? I am mega surprised I managed it also as Iv always been addicted to testing but it was much better for me mentally so glad I did, now just need to stick to it, I'm going to test every 2 days and then do another digi end of next week, eurgh I feel sick even at the thought of waiting to see the lines.

Have you scheduled your 8 week booking app?

Thinking of you this morning @Laurzz 🤍

Really praying you've started to see some improvement @Maya12345

@waitingwatchingpeeing - it absolutely is. I think I'll be about 15dpo doing the digi but as I don't know when I ovulated I'm kind of using the most logical date of sex as an ovulation guide 🙈🤣 so 19th of June, which is the same as you isn't it. So will see what the digi says on Monday and until then I'm still continuing to do manual tests. And so far things seem to be going in the right direction. I've not sceduled my 8 week booking apt yet as I kind of just feel like I want to see 3+ weeks on a digi before I ring any midwife this time around. How are you feeling?

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Lauren441 · 01/07/2022 16:47

@laurzz - absolutely fantastic news, congratulations on your wriggly 13week old babe! Super clear scan picture too. So glad things are moving in the right direction for you! It's also so reassuring for us to see posts like this. Gives us hope we can mirror you!

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yorkshiremumofone · 01/07/2022 13:49

Maya12345 · 01/07/2022 13:42

@yorkshiremumofone thanks so much! So happy to see them get darker, when I had my mc on 17dpo my test was so much lighter which I thought was strange and didn't realise at the time.. so it feels great seeing such progression this time!
I totally get it, I was a serial Googler of dpo symptoms everyday!! I started to get symptoms like 5/6 dpo but I may have imagined them! The spotting was my main clue though. X

Yeahh! I've seen people post about tests getting lighter as the pregnant goes further but everything has been ok too something to do with HCG I'm not sure now 🙈
Was is just very light spotting you had? I literally cannot wait for the next few days to see if I feel anything! I'm so exhausted at the mo, headaches and I woke up a couple of times feeling sick in the night but again I'm sure not of them are symptoms so early! 🙈 x

Maya12345 · 01/07/2022 13:45

@Laurzz awww oh my goodness!! That's so exciting. So glad you can relax a bit now. If all goes to plan and my dates are right, my due date should be exactly 2 months later than yours on 6th March!
Best of luck with second trimester xxx

Maya12345 · 01/07/2022 13:42

@yorkshiremumofone thanks so much! So happy to see them get darker, when I had my mc on 17dpo my test was so much lighter which I thought was strange and didn't realise at the time.. so it feels great seeing such progression this time!
I totally get it, I was a serial Googler of dpo symptoms everyday!! I started to get symptoms like 5/6 dpo but I may have imagined them! The spotting was my main clue though. X

yorkshiremumofone · 01/07/2022 13:41

Laurzz · 01/07/2022 13:23

Thank you to everyone who wished me luck for today. We had a healthy 13 week old bouncing about 💕 . Due date 6th Jan.

Such a relief, hopefully I'll start to relax and enjoy pregnancy.

Hope everyone is doing and keeping well and congratulations to those who just got there BFP's.

Awwwee massive congratulations 😃😃 makes it so much more real now!

Laurzz · 01/07/2022 13:23

Thank you to everyone who wished me luck for today. We had a healthy 13 week old bouncing about 💕 . Due date 6th Jan.

Such a relief, hopefully I'll start to relax and enjoy pregnancy.

Hope everyone is doing and keeping well and congratulations to those who just got there BFP's.

TTC immediately after miscarriage
yorkshiremumofone · 01/07/2022 12:53

Thank you @Maya12345!! Massive congratulations too! I bet seeing that line getting darker is so good! It makes such a difference to your mental health!

I really hope I'll be joining you ladies this month with a BFP!!!!

I had my peak Monday and keep googling everything I don't feel anything yet I do think I'm slightly obsessing 🙄🙈 argggggg

Maya12345 · 01/07/2022 12:48

@WaitingWatchingPeeing amazing that you had your 2-3weeks already! Seeing it in writing is actually so satisfying isn't it?!
Covid is feeling slightly better today, less fevery but pretty crappy still! Thanks for checking in ☺️
@Lauren441 I can't believe all 3 of us had our mcs at the same time and will be expecting at the same time 😁 so happy for you both! On my test today the test line was actually a little darker than the control line which felt exciting!!
How are you both feeling today? I don't have many symptoms apart from mega sore boobs!

@yorkshiremumofone I'm so sorry for your loss as well. About your OPK I wouldn't worry about it if you know you had your peak - I think the other line almost always comes up to a certain extent. Sounds like you've done all the right things now it's just the waiting game! Fingers crossed for you!

@Laurzz have you had your scan yet? Hope all is well ☺️

X

yorkshiremumofone · 01/07/2022 08:22

@Lauren441 Thankyou! I really hope so too! Massive congratulations on your positive 😃

@WaitingWatchingPeeing yeah so similar! I really hope so, I just feel like after what happened it's making me more desperate and obsessive too want to get that positive! I'm not sure I want to try and hold out until I miss AF which is around 13th but I'm not sure! Have you tested again this morning?

I've done another cheapie OPK this morning and there is a second line it's not as strong as a positive but I can see it. Is this normal guys (never used them before) as I had my peak! I got rid of my urine and didn't test with a clear blue but not I'm nervous about why the cheapie OPK is showing a line?

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 01/07/2022 07:54

Thanks all, so so nervous now but this is the first hurdle down... just another 8352 to go 🤪

That is really similar @yorkshiremumofone I have everything crossed for you and we know how hard the TWW is, lean on us to get your through to test day if you need any support! When do you plan on taking your first one?

@Lauren441 it's great to have people who totally understand all the emotions isn't it. Fantastic that your lines and symptoms are progressing, how many DPO do you think you will be when you take your digi? I am mega surprised I managed it also as Iv always been addicted to testing but it was much better for me mentally so glad I did, now just need to stick to it, I'm going to test every 2 days and then do another digi end of next week, eurgh I feel sick even at the thought of waiting to see the lines.

Have you scheduled your 8 week booking app?

Thinking of you this morning @Laurzz 🤍

Really praying you've started to see some improvement @Maya12345

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Lauren441 · 30/06/2022 22:59

@laurzz - please keep us updated on the scan tomorrow. Sending positive vibes!

@yorkshiremumofone - so sorry to read about your loss. Its so hard isn't it. Sounds like you made a huge effort to cover your fertile window so that looks positive. Fingers crossed for two big fat lines on the test. 🤞🏼

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Lauren441 · 30/06/2022 22:55

@waitingwatchingpeeing - Omg! The three of us! ❤️ Huge huge huge congratulations on your BFP. And that's really strong. 2-3 weeks! Absolutely meant to be. Can't wait to share this journey with you all, we all deserve it 🤣.

Im also massively impressed by your patience on the testing 😂 to make it to today was pretty outstanding 👏🏼

@Maya12345 - hang in there! The first few days are the worst (apparently). I think once your fever drops you'll feel a huge chunk better.

My test looks good today, stronger line this morning and still feeling nauseous on and off. Tender breasts starting now too, so all positive. Will test again tomorrow and hopefully do a digi over the weekend.

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yorkshiremumofone · 30/06/2022 20:48

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 30/06/2022 19:30

So DH just came home with some tests for tomorrow and I couldn't wait and.....

😱😱😱

So I'm 11DPO and AF due Sunday or Monday

Omg massive congratulations!!

I've just read back on your story and I was in a similar situation this month!

We was on holiday and is been the first day drinking then was sick and a different kind of sick! The next day I did a test and it was positive, already have one DS. Was super excited! Then 2 days later I started bleeding and I just knew it wasn't good news. It ruined the holiday! Came back and did a negative test and saw the doc who confirmed it was a chemical. I am absolutely desperate for baby no2 now!! I have just ovulated a day ago and I am feeling sick with nerves! I did all the ovulation testing and did the deed on D9, 12,13,14,15. I really really want it to happen this month!