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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 08:35

@Maya12345 Thankyou!!!! 🙈🙈 omg I actually don't want to think it's positive like I don't believe it! I've been Googling so much since I posted 🤣🤣 honestly this is nerve wracking!!!!
Here's another pic just cos I'm obsessing!

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Maya12345 · 08/07/2022 08:33

Omg I definitely see it! I'll be honest I've never seen an indent on these tests and I had loads of negatives last month which were stark white! Looking very promising @yorkshiremumofone 🤞🤞🤞

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 07:58

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 07:57

Eeeeek @yorkshiremumofone I can def see something, I can't wait to see tomrorows line 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

I think @Maya12345 also uses these tests so may be able to share what an early line looks like

Thankyou!! I really don't know if it's an indent or not I feel sick 😓😓🤮

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 07:57

Eeeeek @yorkshiremumofone I can def see something, I can't wait to see tomrorows line 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

I think @Maya12345 also uses these tests so may be able to share what an early line looks like

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 07:24

Ladies help- I'm not daft I'm sure it could be an indent line but I've just done this it came up in the time frame around 3/4 mins but it's very light and it makes me think not. My first wee was quite diluted too which normally doesn't happen! I've been having the worst headaches the last 2 days and I'm sure my boob is getting bigger but I'm sure I'm just imagining it 😳🙈 let me know your thoughts!

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 07/07/2022 17:48

Oh @yorkshiremumofone I just know exactly how you will be feeling, it's all consuming isn't it, you can't think of anything else and time goes so slowly, I would stay test on Day11or 12 if you can wait? 8 is vv early and Iv found CB really rubbish, I will now only use pink dye tests and CB digitals once Iv had a positive on a pink.

Oh you poor thing @Lauren441 I keep having massive fluctuations of anxiety like this and running to the loo to check if I'm bleeding constantly 😔 your lines look so good though 😍 and not long wuntil the weekend. Iv set myself a target to wait until Saturday and like you I just hope I'll be calling on Monday.... another little milestone 🤞🏼

Thanks @Maya12345 so glad your coming out the otherside and atleast now you will have immunity for a few months!

Lauren441 · 07/07/2022 14:38

Glad to hear your covid is settling down now @maya12345.

My tender breasts have gone away so I was an anxious mess (yet again!) this morning. I phoned the GP and requested some blood tests to measure my HCG. So going for them tomorrow morning and then again on Monday morning. Hopefully Ill have a good bit of reasurrance if the numbers double.

Also, in panic mode I took these tests and I got a nice little dye stealer on the first stick, so that was positive! And looking online I guess it's what you would expect if you was around 18/19dpo. Which puts me bang on to when I thought I was. So I just hope that I get a few more pregnancy symptoms between now and Monday that might help my anxiety!

How are you all doing?

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Maya12345 · 07/07/2022 11:02

Hey guys, how are we feeling today? @WaitingWatchingPeeing those lines are looking amazing!
@Lauren441 the cough is still going strong but I think I'm coming out the other side now! Thanks ☺️
Hope you're all good x

Lauren441 · 06/07/2022 18:11

@yorkshiremumofone - sorry you had to see a negative, its not a nice feeling even when you know you've probably tested a little too early. Keep your hopes up though, it's not over until your AF shows up!

Also, I don't think you'd see anything until around 10dpo and even then, it would be Faint. Only 2 more days!

@maya12345 - how are you feeling with the covid now?

@waitingwatchingpeeing - congratulations on hitting your milestone today. Sending you loads of love, I bet it wasn't easy for you today but I hope by tomorrow you'll be feeling like you've accomplished something 💪🏼. And yes, I think I'll probably do a digi by the end of the week sometime... I would guess I would be around the same time as you, or maybe just one or two days either way. I'll give it until Sat or Sun with the mindset that I'll phone a midwife Monday if all is well 🤞🏼

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yorkshiremumofone · 06/07/2022 12:19

@WaitingWatchingPeeing that's amazing!!! Definitely darker!!!

I don't know why I did it I did a stupid early cb test just now and obv negative. Don't know why I did it. I've been having the worst headache and nausea yesterday. I'm only about 8DPO too. Aeggggggg.

I'll be soooo upset if it doesn't happen this cycle.

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 06/07/2022 09:03

Thanks ladies, so so helpful as always and got me through to my test this morning. @Laurzz I am going to be literally mentally repeating thoes all day 🤍

Test I think is very slighter park darker (or is it the control is lighter) but it's so hard to tell, I don't think it's any fainter which is good... what do you think?

Congrats on the 3 week Digi @Maya12345 so exciting 🙌🏼

And on yours @Lauren441 will you test for your 3week at the weekend? I think I will all being well I make it there 🙏🏼🤞🏼

Thinking of you @yorkshiremumofone I know how had the final bit of the wait is... how are the symptoms?

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Laurzz · 06/07/2022 07:54

@WaitingWatchingPeeing It's wrong we feel this way and should enjoy it but unfortunately for those who have experienced losses it's impossible to enjoy it. I agree with @Lauren441 treat it as a milestone.

Any time I felt my worry taking over I repeated the below affirmations several times.

  1. I completely love and trust my body.
  2. I will conceive a beautiful and healthy baby.

It didn't take the worry away completely but defiantly helped me.

Everyone you've got this 💪. Hang on in there!

Maya12345 · 05/07/2022 18:10

@Lauren441 I've hardly had any symptoms either apart from achey boobs when I poke them! Felt a little sick yesterday but think it's the constant covid coughing that's fooling me.. I'm glad we're not all dealing with constant nausea but a little bit would be OK for some reassurance.. Congrats on the Digi that's exactly right for you right now isn't it? Xx

Lauren441 · 05/07/2022 18:09

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 05/07/2022 17:59

Probably worth mentioning that I started bleeding with the chemical on 17DPO last time and il be 17DPO tomrorow so I don't think that's helping 😭

This has so much to answer for! You're anxiety is going to be sky high, today and tomorrow. But imagine how you will be feeling at the end of the week, having made it past 17days. Positive thinking 💪🏼 x

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Maya12345 · 05/07/2022 18:07

@WaitingWatchingPeeing notttt fun is it?! Tomorrow will be a such a milestone for you, just try to take it all day by day I guess. Its so hard to not be able to look too far forward though! I'm sure there'll be some progression!
Spotting stopped pretty much straight after I saw it yesterday morn which is a relief.
Also got my 3+ on a Digi today which is bang on so I'm quite happy now, i think I'll stop testing at the end of the week l think.
Covid still messing me around with the nastiest cough but resting at home has helped.
Xx

Lauren441 · 05/07/2022 18:04

Excuse all the spelling errors 🤦🏻‍♀️ fat fingers!

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Lauren441 · 05/07/2022 18:03

@WaitingWatchingPeeing - you're absolutely not alone. And I most definitely feel that awful pit of the stomach dread every now and then too. I think it would be impossible not too after the previous pregnancy. But you've got this!

Right now, you have no bleeding and the last time you checked you had a beautiful positive pregnancy line - the odds are most definitely in your favour - it's so hard to forget the positives, but you're pregnant and thankfully you're probably one of the lucky few to have quite mild systoms (like me). 🤞🏼 Even though want them 😂.

Just as you told me, your busy day has more than likely taken over so much that you've not had a chance to think about/notice them.

Do you have any symptoms today? Sounds stupid, but if you push your nipples is it sore at all? For me, this is the ONLY symptom currently and it's mild.

I did my digi today. I'm somewhere between 2-3 weeks.

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WaitingWatchingPeeing · 05/07/2022 17:59

Probably worth mentioning that I started bleeding with the chemical on 17DPO last time and il be 17DPO tomrorow so I don't think that's helping 😭

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 05/07/2022 17:54

Hi ladies how is everyone?

Are you home and have you tested now @Lauren441 and di you do your digi? So glad your symptoms reappeared!

Are you over the covid @Maya12345 and what happened with the spotting?

Sounds positive @yorkshiremumofone, getting closer to testing date, il be so impressed if you make it to AF!

I'm in such an anxious place, no symptoms today but I usually work from home and have spent the day commuting to the office and back to back meetings so I'm not sure if I'm just not in tune the same way. I keep checking for bleeding but nothing so hopefully just my anxious brain taking over 🥺 I'm testing every 2 days so I'll test again tomrorow but I'm convinced there won't be any progression.... THIS IS HORRID

Maya12345 · 04/07/2022 16:14

Thanks so much!! I'm so glad you're feeling better now and can feel those symptoms again! Phew. God I can imagine how knowing so much about this subject would make you question everything! Amazing to have that knowledge though!

Thank you so much for your help there, really reassuring!!
Yeah I just spoke to my GP who basically and briefly reiterated what you said, hopefully nothing to worry about and probably irritation! Thanks so much for your help. These babies are certainly keeping us on our toes already haha! I feel like I can get more excited about reaching 5 weeks today now!

Xx

Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 15:21

@laurzz - thanks for the reasurrance. It definitely does help hearing such similar stories!

I guess we should (in theory) be greatful for the less intense symptoms! X

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Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 15:18

@waitingwatchingpeeing - you're absolutely right; we definitely do jump to the most terrying conclusions as a first thought.

Thankfully at the moment the symptoms seem to be back and I'm feeling more relaxed again (well... for now at least).

I totally understand how you were feeling yesterday, and you are most definitely not alone with the fluctuations in symptoms/lack of. The darker test this morning is a sure sign things are sitting in the right road for you today though, which is fab!

Babies #watchingwaitingpeeing, #maya12345 and #Lauren441 are already keeping us on our toes!!!!!

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yorkshiremumofone · 04/07/2022 15:14

@Lauren441 I'm trying to wait as long as possible AF is due 13th, maybe on the weekend I don't know! I just don't want the disappointment 😟

Are you going to test again once your home?
Hope you had a lovely weekend away. X

Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 15:12

@yorkshiremumofone - thank you!

They all sound like good signs! 🤞🏼when do you plan on doing a test?

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Lauren441 · 04/07/2022 15:02

@maya12345 - Sorry to hear you're anxious about the spotting. Did they call you back?

Sometimes it isn't always a cause for concern though (probably more often that not!). Our bloodflow would have now increased, caused by our rapidly increasing hormones, namely progesterone at this point. The cervix is particularly hyper sensitive during pregnancy and that coupled with the increase in bloodflow can cause brown spotting. Especially when the cervix is slightly 'irritated'. So for example, after sex or an internal. But it's not a cause for concern, it just shows your cervix is hyper senataive due to the increased hormones. I guess you could almost view it as a good thing!

I'm not saying that's what it is, but it's one of lots of causes to consider. We all (me more than most) instantly jump the most terrifying explanations, when infact there are also lots of good positive explanations too!

Hang in there, 😘

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