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TTC immediately after miscarriage

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Lauren441 · 29/05/2022 20:27

Hello ladies.

So this is my story. I am 30years with a beautiful DD, aged 4. We decided we would finally give start trying for baby #2 in May. However, as we had a big family holiday planned for 14 nights during May this meant that we were only able to try prior to going on holiday. So we figured that month was completely out of the question.

My period was due towards the second half of the second week away but Instead I had very sore breasts and a super bubbly stomach. I just figured it was PMT symptoms especially as it was accompanied by spotting.

The spotting continued, everyday. On arrival home, I did a pregnancy test, really not believing I could be pregnant since we were unable to even really "try". To my shock and delight it was positive!

I had some spotting on my DD during early pregnancy so didn't think too much into it. However, the spotting got worse. I tried contacting a local midwife who advised that as I was only 4.5 weeks pregnant there was nothing I could other than wait it out.

It continued, with period cramping pains and a lower bad back, although they were mild. The spotting colour changed to bright red and then on Wednesday (last week) I knew I was completely miscarrying. We are devestated but we understand these things happen. I'm also trying not to overthink everything as that's what I always do.

I've now stopped bleeding. And feel that I've gone through a bit of an emotional roller-coaster the last week. We would like to try again, straight away. So I guess I'm looking for a little advice.

The Dr told me it's probably best to wait a cycle before trying again but looking online there doesn't seem to be any benefit or logic to this if you know you miscarried earlier in pregnancy and have passed the full miscarriage. Do you think I will be fine to immediately try again without first having a period?

And then if I was successful would I just count my pregnancy from the miscarriage bleed? (father than 1st day of last period)

I was thinking of booking a ultrasound scan privately to check the endometrium lining is thick enough to support a pregnancy. Do you think this is wise? And if so, do you think 2 weeks following MC would be the best suitable time to book a scan to view the thickness?

Also, people have told me how common MC is and how I obviously must have found out super early in pregnancy. But I didn't think we did find out super early? A few people have passed the same remark ; " you found out early if you was only 4.5 weeks. Most people don't know until later" now I understand if I hadn't of done a test then I would have assumed this MC was my period. However, I was 3 days passed my due period when I tested so? 😳 Isn't finding out your about 4.5 weeks pregnant about the usual??

Sorry for the ramble. I guess it's nice just to write everything down 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Thanks.

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yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 14:42

@TheCakeIsALie18 Thankyou!!!! This thread is lucky 🍀🍀🍀🍀

I'm still very very anxious thought it's VERY early!!!! Xx

TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 14:39

@Laurzz thank you ❤️ will keep everyone updated with how testing goes.

Omg @yorkshiremumofone 2 definite lines there I'm so happy for you ❤️❤️

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 14:32

@WaitingWatchingPeeing hahh!!!! The joys of ttc eh???? My OH was like why you so shocked your pregnant ? 😳😐🤣

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 14:32

Yes @yorkshiremumofone will be totally fine in a pot, I always need a wee at 4-5am and am too asleep to test so capture it and leave in a pot for when I wake a few hours later.

Oh what a glamorous life 😂😂😂

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 14:29

@Lauren441 I would def go for it as we have been very close/similar

I just decided that I would be happy if it say 2-3 and if it said 3+ even better. I did use almost mid day urine but thought given I got mt 2-3 on later afternoon sample it was comparable to a week ago?!

Keep us posted if you test!

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 14:29

Omg ladies!!!!!! Im deffo going to do a FRER when they arrive, and one tomoz morning I'm only about 10 DPO.

Will me wee be ok for a hour or so in the pot? 🤣

Laurzz · 08/07/2022 14:28

@yorkshiremumofone I could see the line on your first and would have said its a positive but that second one is a very clear positive. Can't wait for the update on the FERER 😬.

@WaitingWatchingPeeing congratulations on your 3+. Such a milestone 😀.

@TheCakeIsALie18 Welcome, it's such a roller coaster of a journey but excited to see your updates etc. Good luck and sending you lots of baby dust 💫.

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 14:26

@yorkshiremumofone there is def a line 😍 I got a nice string line on a first response on 11DPO so you should be good for back up on that tomrorow 🤩

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 14:25

I told the OH and cried is there a line? Please tell there's a line

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yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 14:17

My heart is racing

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 12:50

@yoyorkshiremumofone I've got good I hiding my obsessed search history and usually Google after he has drifted off to sleep haha. I need to chill I think 😅

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 12:45

@TheCakeIsALie18 hahaha 🤣🤣 oh absolutely! Literally every little thing I Google. Honestly if my oh saw it he'd think I've gone crazy!

TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 12:45

@Lauren441 yeah I'm hoping I can trust my body to do its normal thing post ov haha because my dates are all out of whack. I normally only get EWCM for 2 day pre ov and following CP it was 9 days.... cost me a fortune in OPKs 🤦🏼‍♀️😅

I've got my fingers crossed for your blood results 🤞🏻❤️

If I manage to hold out until the 12dpo mark I'll be happy. Just need to find something to occupy my mind... and maybe Google being removed from existence would also help 🙄😅 xx

TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 12:42

@yoryorkshiremumofone lol obsessing is an understatement you should see my search history 😅😅 CP defo makes you hyper aware of everything I think. I've got my fingers crossed that your line gets darker tomorrow! (Or today if you can't wait haha)

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 12:34

@Lauren441 awwwww fingers crossed on your bloods hun! Keep us updated 🥰🥰 I'm sure everything will be fine! How are you feeling?

My oh just said you done a test lately? 🤣🙈 I said no...

ARGHHHH this is all I can think about trying to hold my wee for at least 4 hours is so hard!!! I will do the frer in the morning then 😅🙄!

Will do a cheapie this afternoon and maybe tonight - obsessed already can you tell?

I really believe the CP makes us more emotionally obsessed like it's all I can think about, I Google everything. I've been stood in front of the mirror with my boobs out thinking im sure one is bigger 🤣

I really want to join you ladies with your bfp so much! I am so scared this is just an evap.

Lauren441 · 08/07/2022 12:23

@TheCakeIsALie18 - welcome! 🙌🏼

Sorry to read about your CP. Fingers crossed this month you'll mirror us lot and join the baby train! We seem to be a pretty lucky thread so 🍀🤞🏼.

Like you, I was much later ovulating due to the CP (or so I believe 🙈) and my cycle was thrown so far out that I honestly didn't know where I was. This probably isn't very helpful, but I literally just tested everyday with the mindset that it's not a real negative until my AF rocks up! But if you've got the patience to wait 2 weeks, even better! Just do what works for you. :)

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Lauren441 · 08/07/2022 12:18

@yorkyorkshiremumofone - that's definitely a positive I would say my lovely. Congratulations! And there is absolutely no chance I could wait until tomorrow or Sunday before I would test again (well done on being so patient if you do!) I would be straight over the shop buying a handful! 😂

@waitingwatchingpeeing - awh what a milestone! 👏🏼 Congratulations! Huge achievement. Grab it with both hands and make that phone call, we can't wait around for ever. I think you've been really fair with yourself setting small goals and you're already further along than your CP so now is the time I would say. I may follow suit and do mine? We seem to be pretty much bang on at the moment don't we! 🤔 My urine might be too diluted now though?

I went for bloods today, the nurse told me I should get results later so I'll let you all know what my hcg numbers are 🤞🏼🤞🏼 fingers crossed for a good reading and and even better one on Monday.

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yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 12:03

@TheCakeIsALie18 welcome!!! 💞 I really hope you get your positive this month! It's so nerve wracking isn't it! I also haven't had a period since my CP last month!
Yes definitely try and hold out even thought I said I would and look at me now obsessing 🤣

@WaitingWatchingPeeing yayyyyy 3weeks plus!! This is sooooo exciting! Awww I bet you feel relieved?? How many weeks does that put you at now?

I'm trying to work at home and all I can think about is I've held my wee for 2 hours I wana do a test again 😅😅 I think I'll deffo wait for my frer for the morning or Sunday. I dearnt even tell the OH as he will think I'm crazy.

TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 11:58

@WaitingWatchingPeeing Thanks for the welcome and congrats on your 3 weeks! If you're positives are still coming thick and fast you should think positively and get yourself booked in. I booked in too early when I had my CP last month. So I'll definitely be waiting until I get a 3+ on the digi next time!

I'll be honest I'm not sure when to test. Last time I missed my period by a day (I'm like clockwork, super lucky) but I haven't had a period between CP and TTC again. My peak was Sunday so if I go by my body AF would be due 17th/18th at 14DPO. I'm thinking I will try and hold out the full 2 weeks......... if I just don't but any tests it should be fine 😅🤞🏻

But I'm so eager to catch again this month. Let's hope the positive statistics are going to work our for me. ❤️❤️

WaitingWatchingPeeing · 08/07/2022 11:51

This is so exciting @yorkshiremumofone... you have to do your FRD'r today or first thing tomorrow and let us know!!!!
If you can I would then wait 48hrs so you can see nice progression as that has helped me so much this time.

Welcome on board @TheCakeIsALie18 great to have you join and hoping for a quick TWW for you. When are you planning on testing?

Soooo.... I got impatient and did my digital and I GOT MY 3WEEK 😍 I'm not sure if I should call to book my booking in app, I know it's stupid but I feel like if I ring it will jinx it and it will all come crashing down around me 😞

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TheCakeIsALie18 · 08/07/2022 09:56

Morning ladies. I was wondering if I could join you?

I've literally sat here and read the entire thread this morning haha. I'm so glad it's still active. I've joined a couple others but they're so quiet!

Firstly let me say a massive congrats to the 3 BFPs and possibly the new 4th ❤️❤️

I passed my CP on the 15th last month and DH and I didn't want to wait. I'm currently 5DPO and haven't had a period in between. My peak was Sunday. So I'm now counting down the days until I can test. My cycle is usually 28days exactly every month but my peak is usually at CD16. But my body took 3 ish weeks to OV after CP bleed sooo 🤷🏼‍♀️ my timings are all over the place lol.

Just looking for some company while I hope everything happens this time 🤞🏻 and sit through the nightmare that is the TWW.

Sending love and baby dust to you all xxx

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 09:53

Maya12345 · 08/07/2022 09:39

I would defo go for it today! I'd be snatching it out of that postman's hand haha

Hahahaha!! I know I feel like that but I feel like I'd be disappointed if it's negative 😓 also it's not FMU??? Will that make a diff?? I've only ordered 2!

Maya12345 · 08/07/2022 09:39

I would defo go for it today! I'd be snatching it out of that postman's hand haha

yorkshiremumofone · 08/07/2022 09:34

@Maya12345 I've got some FRER coming today!!! I'm tempted to do another cheapie later on and maybe save the FRER for a few day?!? What do you think! 🙈🙈

Maya12345 · 08/07/2022 09:08

Veryyy exciting! Do you have any other tests in the house? A frer might show up a tiny bit stronger!